To think I’ve blown my chances of looking after DGD again

You weren't there and it was up to her parents in the end and they didn't feel the need to take her to A&E. It was their decision to make. I am sure if she showed signs of deterioration they would have taken her straight to hospital. Berating the op about what she should have done when it was the parents decision whether or not they wanted to take her. Op done the right thing. I am not going to make her feel bad over what happened. She still sees her GC so lets sleeping dogs lie.

The child was playing after. Sorry but that’s what children do. Every head injury needs professional assessment. 9 out of 10 will probably be fine but the 1 in 10 need to be identified.

I'm 42 now planning baby number 5. My youngest is 10. She was complaining of headaches an hour after it happened and then she was rushed to hospital. Thats the story that is online. Are you okay?

???? I’m obviously young enough to not understand a word of that 🤣
Bottom line is that not checking out a fall headfirst on to a wooden floor is literally dicing with death - not a risk I’d take however fine they appear to be immediately afterwards - there could easily be a bleed on the brain, just like Natasha Richardson - she was ‘fine’ for several hours……

They are old enough now to make their own decisions. You don't have to agree or follow what I do.

You risk it then, I wouldn’t.

Yes, you're right, I would feel a lot worse. But the child did not have a life altering injury...

When it comes to the head even with immediate treatment there is no guarantee. It depends on the hospital and who is available at the time. I read a story a woman fell out of bed and hit her head hard enough it killed her instantly. On the occasions when my children have had falls I used my instinct's on whether I should or shouldn't go to A&E. Not all bumps and falls require immediate medical attention. Obviously some do.

Unfortunately us humans don’t have X-ray/CT scan vision - the family were very very lucky their baby was ok on this occasion.

The op called her parents and they felt she didn't need medical attention. The responsibility is with the parents as soon as they arrived and decided no further action was needed. They were lucky it wasn't more serious.

The point is the ski incident wasn’t a serious ski accident at all. Natasha Richardson was having a ski lesson on a nursery slope and fell over - she got up, felt fine afterwards and wouldn’t get checked out, sadly a few days later she died of a bleed on her brain. Tragic.
I would certainly have taken this baby to A&E, (she fell headfirst on to a wooden floor) - I would say this family have been very very lucky it wasn’t more serious.

You did the right thing. I am assuming they drove straight to you. They felt she was okay nothing more you can do.

Op accidents happen my DD came back with a burn , they had also dropped her somewhere etc and i understand accidents happen but they never apologised. I let it slide at the time.

As long as they know your sorry there isn't much else you can do but I hope you do appreciate why they can't trust you ?

They have to put the safety of their DC first and tying to cook her with her wasn't a wise move so they are correct to question your judgement .

However ....millions of gp have wonderful relationships without having DC alone !

If inwas you I would just say this ..be open as possible and try and spend time with her with them

Comparing a skiing accident to the ops situation was peculiar to me. The child was fine and playing after. I am sure if there was anything wrong op would have taken her to A&E. On that occasion the op and her parents saw she was playing and she was fine.

Sure but they didn’t know that at the time. All head injuries need to be checked out, that was my point, going forward.

Wishing something on the child? Of course not, what a peculiar thing to say!

A skiing accident is more serious and would require immediate hospital attention. You are trying to compare that to the op. She said she was fine after a few tears and continued playing. The parents didn't take her to the hospital. As I said before if a parent is worried call 111.

To be honest i wouldn’t let my mum have my dc if this happened, i would wait till dc are bigger till asking them to babysit again.

I too made this point some days ago - obviously a fall from arms say 4 feet onto a hard floor should have been a fast trip to A&E …. Just so OP will know if she happens to drop a baby again heaven forbid (or any of us falling on our heads for that matter!)
Truly amazed you don’t ‘get’ that!!
MN is a learning curve for all of us otherwise why have it??

It appears you don't grasp the point I'm making. The husband is allowed accidents, the grandparent isn't.

What's that got to with the op and her situation. What are you wishing to happen to her grandchild. It happened in August and now we are in November. All is well for the child.

You understand your husband is a parent, and doesn’t baby sit. Unlike a grandparent, right, as it indicates you don’t grasp the difference?

Liam Neeson’s wife seemed fine after an head injury after skiing accident. She died some days later.

Mumsnet: OMG. My child had an accident while my parents were looking after her!

Also Mumsnet: Why won't my parents provide me with free childcare???

My husband literally dropped one of our babies on his head. Should I have banned him from any childcare, or accepted that all humans are fallible and accidents sometimes happen?