Im not sure what to think?

The fact alone that he thinks it's funny to deliberately drop the socks so you will have to bend down while pregnant (5 times !) just tells me that he's an immature asshole. Are you afraid of him? If he was discharged from the military due to mh problems is he now in therapy or doing something to deal with his issues or is he just lying around treating you like shit? Why didn't he put the socks on the baby in the first place? Or is actual childcare beneath him? @sellthebigissue If you are afraid of him I wouldn't confront him but rather getting my ducks in a row and plan my exit with the help of a woman's aid association.

He sounds like a complete arse, and I fail to understand why you'd even be with someone so thoughtless, let alone have babies together? ‼️

Tell him op. If he says I’m jsut telling you the truth, you say so am I, the truth is it was hurtful and unkind, and if you want truth, dropping babies socks repeatedly on the floor knowing how hard it is for your pregnant unwell wife to pick them up is nasty asshoke behaviour, nasty assholes don’t love people, they enjoy making them miserable, and that’s what you were doing. I hope you’re proud of picking on your pregnant unwell wife. I hope your children never see you behave like this, it’s hardly being a good dad either. I hope you’ve enjoyed some truths.

and walk off.

But you haven't let yourself go OP. You've had three pregnancies in a short space of time and you have been unwell.
A woman's body changing through pregnancy is the most natural thing in the world.

Atm your priority, quite rightly, is nurturing your children

Your body will recover from the pregnancies. You will regain fitness. You will lose weight. But that takes time .

And for a man to actually criticise a woman's body that has changed because she has given birth to his children is the lowest of the low imo. He is a misogynist and should be down right ashamed of himself. He should be showing you love and support and not criticising you.

No, it's not ok. If he was genuinely concerned about your health, he should be finding ways to help you exercise/eat well, with advice from someone who knows about your pregnancy/health issues. Not talking about how he liked how you used to look.

No, someone you love, and who loves you, should do so unconditionally x

along with the nasty comment about your body … he was “winding you up with some socks” - what does this mean? Was he holding them up making you jump for them, or throwing them on the floor? When you’re pregnant and when you’ve been ill?

he sounds like a real creep. And yes, it does sound like someone’s turned his head.

listen to your gut, OP. If you have to tiptoe and don’t dare have a discussion with him about how you feel, these aren’t good signs.

Oh OP I feel so angry on your behalf.

You have given birth to his babies and are pregnant with his third, and your health has suffered and what does he do? Starts negging you.

I'm sorry OP but given his absolutely uncalled for criticism, his change in behaviour, and his ott protestations about not looking at other women, I would very much suspect he has had his head turned.

You need to call him out on his negging and you need to ask him what he thinks he is playing at treating you with such disrespect.

Oh darling x
You sound so bloody lovely.
You should ABSOLUTELY cause a scene!
Why the fuck should he get away with saying these things about you??
You have given him beautiful babies, and he thinks he has the right to criticise your body?!
Arent you absolutely livid?
I know I would be.
Find your anger, how the fuck does he think what he has said is ok?
I am bloody fuming on your behalf.
This is utter disrespect, even if he looks like Brad bloody Pitt, what the fuck gives him the right to criticise your body?
Dickhead.

You're welcome lovely, I want to help, you don't deserve any of this. I wonder if the best way to address it is as part of broader conversation about what happens when the baby arrives. Starting with some of the practical considerations - I think I read upstream that's he's medically retired from the military? So he is going to be hands on? I think you can start from there. What you will need, how you will work as a team, etc.

From there I think you can move to what you can both do to make the last weeks as peaceful as possible so that none of your health issues are heightened by stress... and then this is your opener to say: "And something that has caused me stress recently is these comments..." I think you have to do it in a no-blame way and just say: "When you said those things, you may have thought you were joking, but after everything I have been through, and continue to go through, it did not feel that way to me. It made me worry about our relationship at a time when I want to be looking forward to the future, rather than be worried about it." Then you have to let that information sit with him.

Hopefully the penny will drop, he will either apologise or ask to think about it. If he gets defensive then that's not a good sign, unless he's the type to go off in a huff, think it through, and then come back and express his regret. We all have different communication styles - I recognise that - but the ultimate issue is that he needs to acknowledge how it has made you feel and resolve to do better, even if he thought he was being jokey. Does that make sense? If he gets angry then that is a bad sign of course - but I don't think you should shy away from the conversation on the basis that he could react that way - in fact I think you need to know if being straightforward about your feelings is something he can deal with, because as I say you are building a family with this man.

He's a real dick - these are disgusting things to say to a pregnant woman.

Beauty and gym-honed buttocks are all very well - but it's only skin deep. What about valuing your body for doing the most amazing thing- growing your babies. What about respecting and valuing you while your carrying his baby?

We all of us (if we're lucky) will grow old and wrinkly, and lose our youth and muscle tone. Hopefully he's with you for more than your buttocks and he should have more respect for the mother of his children. He sounds vain and shallow.

But is it really "so unlike him" or have you just always been acceptable to him so he hasn't felt the need to comment?

Please, do not let anyone, man, woman, boyfriend, friend, wife, relative, make you feel shit about yourself.

Also, don't jump to WLI. Give your body time to recover. You may lose some of the weight by yourself, you may learn to be happy with your changed body, who knows? I take WLI so am not instantly negative about them, but try normal ways first IF YOU WANT TO LOSE WEIGHT FOR YOU.

What do you mean by 'contraception wasn't on the cards' when you also say you didn't want more children and this baby wasn't planned?

If you're having sex without contraception you're planning to have a baby, unless you didn't have free will either about the non contraception or about the sex. The more you post the less good it sounds tbh.

The thing is, while objectively you both know that you have (understandably) put on weight and changed shape, he has chosen to say something that he'll defend as truthful but anyone who cared about their partner wouldn't say at all because they'd know it would hurt them. And that's not something you do to a partner.