To ask how would you feel if your do was going on a weeks holiday with their family?

Pre children I think it’s great. Unless as someone said you have big travel plans that require all thier annual leave or expect you to help fund it.

I’d wave him off and enjoy a week of watching crappy telly and having the whole bed to myself 😂

I don't think it would bother me. I can see that it's probably a nice thing for the family to do together and I like my own company

I’d feel like I should book myself a holiday without him too, which would be quite exciting.

Yes. This.

it’s what I was getting at in first post. It’s just impossible to know.

I’ve been on holiday with MIL and left DH.

Is this a 50 year old in a 30 year relationship leaving partner to go five star all inclusive every year.

Or a new relationship and a long planned family holiday.

I wouldn’t care less in my particular family set up, with four kids, would think it lovely. It wouldn’t happen, but would be lovely if it did. Without kids, would also have thought lovely.

Free hoooooouse

I'd immediately have a big girls night in (not that I couldn't do that anyway but I don't like to inflict it on my husband too often, me and my pals get rowdy!) and then spend the rest of the time loafing in my jammies and eating all the crap I love but I'd be far to embarrassed to cook for another human.

Caveat here is that my husband and I get boatloads of leave so it's not like we can't also go on holiday together as and when we like

I wouldnt mind at all.

Myself, DM and DSis go away for a week every year, just the 3 of us. It's a girls holiday.
My DH and sons stay home and never complain. It's tough if they did complain tbh, you dont get forever with your parents.

I'd be jubiliant 😁

Would depend on how old DP was tbh

My PIL are heading towards 80. Still fit (FIL could probably outrun me at 77), but they are getting older.

I suggested that dh and SIL go away with them for a long weekend to a place they always used to go when they were little. They are doing it next Easter holidays. I lost my dad recently (my mum a long time ago), and it made me realise how lucky they are both to have thier parents still here. They should make the most of it, all relive some childhood/family memories together.

Much as i love my DH, my brothers / sisters in law and all the children, I actually think it would be awesome to recreate the original nuclear family for a weekend / short break, so id be fine with it

Totally different to be eg the only DIL left at home

Sounds great. I regularly take my adult DC away and pay for everything. We have a lovely time.

I can’t imagine their DPs complaining about it. Why would they?

I would think it a bit rude of his parents not to include partners in the invitation tbh.

Op would then be at liberty to say no if they wanted to.

That’s a totally different scenario to not being invited in the first place as if you didn’t exist.

I'd be fine with that, providing that you weren't both struggling for annual leave.

Now we have DC, I would also be okay (although less than a week would be my preference). On the proviso that I get the same at another time.

Sigh.
Context needed.
Who is everyone involved, and what is actually going on…

I reckon it's op going away and her boyfriend not liking it.

I would have no objection at all. Why would I?

I enjoy my own company and have never felt anything but joy at being left behind by boyfriends or my husband going away for a holiday.

I think it's ok to go away for a week as long as it doesn't impact your partner too much. But I would find it weird that they'd want to do that rather than go away with partner or friends. Loved my parents but a week would be too long and they'd never have excluded my dh.

id feel envious at them having a free holiday, but also excited at the thought of having some time to myself and the perfect excuse to indulge in some solo treats.

How nice for them, rare to spend time like that as an adult with just nuclear family.

If no DC then I'd enjoy some quiet in the house. Order some treats and catch up on reading and hobbies.

Pleased they are close enough with their family to be able to spend time on holiday together and it also gives you time to do your own thing.

Unless there is drip feed information coming about the fact that it means he will use up all of his holiday and have no time left to spend with you or similar...

Pre children, I probably would have dumped a partner who objected to me going on holiday with my family. Post children, I have been on holiday with friends and with family, but checked with my Dh first that he would be OK workwise to take on full responsibility of the DC, and helped line up extra childcare for the days when he was working outside school hours. I wouldn't expect him to object unless for practical reasons. I didn't object when he ( only a couple of times in 30 years) went on holidays with friends. We don't own each other.

How long have you been together? I'd be a bit miffed if my DH did that.

I’d love the fact they had that relationship with their family and I’d use the opportunity to have a week all about me