To think parents should keep their vomiting children off school

I don’t need to, I don’t work in the English education system. No such thing as attendance awards in my school or indeed in the country I work in

It makes a huge difference! Norovirus isn’t like chickenpox where you’re infectious before symptoms start - you’re very unlikely to catch norovirus from somebody before they vomit or have diarrhoea. But if they vomit in a classroom or even in a communal toilet, the risk of catching it is enormous because of the tiny particles of vomit that spread in the air. They’re then infectious after vomiting or diarrhoea. The 48 hour rule is there to prevent repeat episode of vom or diarrhoea within a classroom or workplace and also so that they will be less infectious in general when they return.

Like with most bugs, they were probably contagious before the symptoms appeared, so it won't make much difference.

Nah. You've tried to deflect the focus from any criticism by pulling the "why are you so affected" line already. It didn't work then and it's not worked now.

You've also tried to attack my personality to hide yours. Smoke and mirrors, anything so you don't have to do any self reflection.

They’re meant to keep them off for 48 hours after the last bout of sickness/diarrhoea. It infuriates me when a parent tries to send their child in knowing they have sickness and diarrhoea.

@Sweetlifeofyoursi agree with you that @Poleon is clearly a parent who sends a vomiting child in to school and it has certainly touched a nerve. Utter selfishness on their behalf. Thankfully we’re not all like @Poleon

Not trolling, just not letting you throw out some weak justifications for your very transparent motives and hope no one calls you out. You can call me all the names you can think of to try and distract from that if you like, I suspect you use that tactic quite often, but it doesn't bother me at all.

You've said yourself that "Parents who send their vomiting children into school are selfish and I think it’s wrong and nothing will change my mind" so by your own admission you had no questions in your mind so why create a post to ask AIBU? You weren't asking a question - you just wanted lots of people to tell you how right you were and inflame a discussion about how much better your way of thinking is than others. A self congratulatory pat on the back.

And job done, you seem to have achieved the validation you were looking for so that's a success for you!

Ah, yes the "you're getting wound up, calm down" tact. Also the "I'm off, don't want to reply anymore, not flouncing, honest". Forgot to list those on the indignant reply bingo so thanks.

Well we are never going to agree then because my original point still stands. I am not talking about getting fines, I didn't mention fines. I am talking abut the general piling on of guilt to many parents who are just doing their best.

I imagine your posts are referring to (admitedly very annoying) minority of parents who do take the piss and that is what is driving your tone but in the same way that you can cite individual parents who bring in ill children against school advice, I can find examples of schools that insist children come to school despite being ill, sometimes by suggesting parent are being hoodwinked by the child or sometimes just hoping the illness will resolve. Schools are definitely not always right there and there are many that are driven by their need to meet Ofsted targets and guidelines as much as by anything that is in the child's interests.

What it comes down to is a lack of trust between schools and parents and allowing the minority of parents who behave bady to colour the way schools treat the majority, who are usually just doing their best

I have already given reasons about why I regularly sent my son to school when he had vomitted either in the morning or the night before, as an example as to why it is not as black and white as you are saying. I had to deal with two different of teachers with your attitide on the two occasions my judgment was not proved correct so I know how it feels to be 'told off' in the way you would a child. I said nothing at the time as I am an adult and just took it on the chin, but it really did nothing to help my situation and certainly didn't change anything about what I was doing.

In any case there is nothing further to say I suppose. I am not even sure why I bothered to post this,other than your dismissive tone (which I am sure comes from exasperation with this issue) has obviously hit a nerve with me, even 10 years afterwards. I shall have to go and think about why that is, so that at least is a good thing to come out of this short,slightly bad tempered interaction with a stranger - I think!

Having worked in an infant school for over ten years, I’ve lost count of the times that children have come into school and tell us that they’ve been sick in the night, or even that morning. It’s bloody selfish ‘parenting’!!! And the children who looked absolutely dreadful and threw up at school, got sent home and then turned up the next morning is bloody selfish too! The office would ring their parents and make it quite clear that we don’t tolerate that.
For the posters berating you @Sweetlifeofyours, I assume they’re the selfish arses that would be happy to send their children in and compromise the other children and staff in the school.

Ugh, of course you're not unreasonable, the 48 hour rule sucks but exists for a reason. Both mine had it last week (luckily husband and I didn't get it), each had one bout of nighttime sickness and that was it... but they obviously needed to be kept off a) to stop it spreading and b) because even though they felt much better and weren't sick again, they were still really tired and needed the rest to recover properly.

I thought why I made the post in the first place was obvious

It was obvious, yeah. You weren't really asking a question you were looking for confirmation that you are, in fact, correct and amazing. "How AWFUL are some parents, I could never I'm just too selfless! Oh, am I just being unreasonable in doing the right thing, I just don't know. Best start a thread to have people validate me". Etc etc.

Then responses such as "well, if that's what you think that your problem, I was just innocently wondering", "of course not, I can't help it if you're a terrible person", fake laughter and faux breeziness blah blah blah. It's all been done before - that's what AIBU is these days.

The making the post in the first place was self-righteous, I thought that was evident from the way I said you just wanted to whip up outrage and have a pile on. Sorry if that's wasn't clear.

How is your little one op? @Sweetlifeofyours

I think I am the exact opposite of selfish. I would love to take a day off any time my child had a sniffle or seemed under the weather. I work 3 days a week and already had to take about 4 days off this academic year as my children were physically to sick to go to school, or the school or nursery rang me to get them. My Husband has also took similar.
I teach up to 150 kids a day a core subject that they need to pass their exams and get into college. I teach a lot of GCSE groups. If I am constantly off, they fail.
So I have to be 100% sure my child won’t make it through a school day before calling in. If I think they can make it through and they aren’t too ill, I will send them. 99% of the time I make the right call and my kids are absolutely fine when I pick them up.
You can be sick in the night and be ok in the morning. If they aren’t well enough I obviously wouldn’t send them in.
As I have previously stated, I have before been called to collect my kids and been told I can’t go as there is no cover. I literally had to fight and cry to leave!

That attitude does my head in! My kids are older now but when they were little, the number of times friends would say ‘they were sick in the night but only once so can’t be a bug’ - yes it bloody can!! They affect different kids in different ways. Luckily my kids weren’t prone to stomach bugs but the anxiety was there each time and I did actually think about kids who suffered badly, unlike the selfish ones!!

YANBU
I don’t agree with people saying parents home or job circumstances might be difficult so they might want to send their kids in if only vomited once. My home circumstances are difficult, I’m a working single parent and have had my daughter wiped out with a sickness bug for the past 4 days, she got symptoms after a kid in her class vomited at school and another one got sent home with a high temp. I know we can’t eliminate viruses but if I knew that parents in her class had sent their kids in after they had been sick at home I would be upset.
Why is it ok to put other families at risk of financial difficulty, problems at work, exhaustion, to avoid it for you? My boss wasn’t happy and I’ve been told I need to fit in extra hours to try and make up for missed work, which is almost impossible for me, particularly this time of year. YANBU at all

That may be, but I am a teacher and have a duty of care to the pupils I teach. I can’t just walk out the door and leave my classes alone. If I am being told that there is no one to cover my lessons as cover had been exhausted I am literally stuck between a rock and a hard place.

This. It is absolute bullshit.

they just do not care about anyone other than themselves.

Yes, there are exceptions, but it is clear the OP isn’t talking about those.

we have a parent the same at our school. Five years in everyone has had enough. She doesn’t work. it is just sheer incompetence on her part.

In our case she lives next to school and just does not answer phone.

Ultimately, it’s the kids that suffer.