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Christmas appetisers, starters, hors d'oeuvres - so confused

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Normye · 18/11/2025 11:50

I’m hosting Christmas for the first time this year. I’m happy with my cocktail, dessert and main menu.

But I’m really confused about starters, hors* *d'oeuvres etc.

I would like to put effort into making something nice people can pick at as lunch is a bit later. My family never do a traditional starter but my mum always tries to get one in ie a soup. Just not enough room in the stomach.

But what do people do? I would love to put some posh hors d'oeuvres down at some point for people to enjoy.

I’ve seen some really fun pastry wreath recipes which look fun but I have no idea when would be best to serve them.

im getting so confused. What do people do? My mum would love a prawn cocktail but I just could not stomach a traditional starter before a massive meal.

I’ve got a list of things:
Brie and cranberry bite
salmon blinis
glazed sausages
sausage rolls
Pesto pastry wreath
Goat cheese log with pistachios
burrata and roasted tomato dip with crostinis
pear, Brie and rocket canapes
crab vol au vent
Salmon pate
whipped ricotta something
charcuterie wreath

I just don’t know how to incorporate them/serve them

I was thinking of just doing 3/4 hors d'oeuvres to serve at some point in the morning and have that as the starter and then just have a few things out like the goat cheese log and charcuterie bits

I’m genuinely so confused and overwhelmed

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eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 18/11/2025 12:36

We have smoked salmon and cream cheese mini blinis before the main dinner... with drinks - casually not at the table.

Fifthtimelucky · 18/11/2025 12:34

I never do a starter for Christmas lunch, but I do putout some dips and crudités with some crisps a coupe of hours before lunch, to stave off any hunger pangs.

Not very festive or exciting, but there is plenty of rich food to come!

ImFineItsAllFine · 18/11/2025 12:26

During my whole childhood we never had a starter at all on Christmas day. Now we are grown up, DH's family like to serve pate de foie gras and toast. Personally I'm not a fan, so when I'm hosting we do smoked salmon on blinis. I think fish/seafood is generally a good option if everyone likes it, and go easy on the carbs. I really wouldn't serve loads of different choices though or people will fill themselves up.

Peridot1 · 18/11/2025 12:21

It really all depends on the timings of everything else. Breakfast and then what time you will have Christmas dinner. And what time people are arriving.

We tend not to have Christmas dinner until around 5pm. Breakfast at around ten so if we were having canapés or nibbles I would do them around 1ish with a glass of fizz.

itsthetea · 18/11/2025 12:17

Pastry, cheeee, sausgaes are all I would say too Rick as the start of Christmas dinner - glazed sausages and sausages rolls and then pigs and stuffing?!?

something light - your mams idea of prawn cocktail is lighter and fresher than vol au vents and sausages

or melon and Parma ham is also light and refreshing

Doseofreality · 18/11/2025 12:17

Just put some tubs of Pringles, Celebrations and bowls of KP nuts out and be done with it.

Not worth stressing out over it.

boulevardofbrokendreamss · 18/11/2025 12:14

We don’t really do anything, would rather eat all the roast potatoes. If we do I just do some M&S party food but avoid sausages (PIB) and pastry - it’s just too much. I’m not a Mumsnet chicken type we eat loads and also have a lot of cheese after desert!

TheProvincialLady · 18/11/2025 12:13

Do you mean canapés? Those are small, bite sized and tasty - a few will keep people going while they wait for the main event but without filling them up too much and spoiling dinner.

A lot of what you describe it more suited to a buffet, which you definitely won’t want to serve unless it’s going to be a long wait until dinner because people will eat a lot.

What time are your guests arriving and what time are you serving dinner?

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