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Is it ridiculous to try and become a child psychologist at 42?

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Spookygoose · 17/11/2025 20:39

AIBU to even consider trying to do this? I’ve got a very high-paying but soul destroying career that I’ve begun to really hate (and which is completely unrelated to psychology). I want out and would love to train as a child psychologist. I own my own home outright & I’m married with one primary-age DD. I’ve got the funds to put myself through a psychology conversion MSc and then the 3 or 4 year doctorate to be able to practice as a licensed psychologist. However, I could not move to another area of the country for the doctorate (which I know is sometimes necessary). I live in the South East. I know doctorate programs are also ridiculously competitive and I’m not confident I’d be one of the most academically gifted students. My previous career was in the arts and I’ve always been creative but not amazing when it comes to maths and science. On top of that, even in the likely event I managed to get onto a doctorate not long after the MSc, is still be pushing 50 by the time I qualify. Am I dreaming or has anyone actually done anything similar?

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parietal · 17/11/2025 21:25

Look here for the BPS guide to careers in psychology

https://www.bps.org.uk/career-options-in-psychology

as people have said upthread, qualifying as a clinical psychologist is v hard because you need several years of relevant experience to get on the training course.

Educational psychologist might be a bit easier.

and there are many other psychology-related options that don't need so much training

Career options in psychology | BPS

This page will provide you with information about your options when it comes to pursuing a professional career in the field of psychology.

https://www.bps.org.uk/career-options-in-psychology

PolyVagalNerve · 17/11/2025 21:24

User34735278 · 17/11/2025 20:47

Not ridiculous but I wouldnt do it. I tried for three years to become a clinical psychologist- getting onto the training is brutally competitive because there arent enough training places and that was with extensive experience as an assistant psychologist and a first class psych degree. You will have to then do placements all over and with a young child that will be incredibly hard.

I am honestly not trying to be negative here but its not an easy road and the job is stressful at the end of it.

This is an accurate picture IME and then add in moving geographically for the course and then work - I’ve never known anyone not need to move

curious79 · 17/11/2025 21:21

Btw some of the people here are talking about the brutality of the path and lack of jobs. They're often referencing Clinical Psychology routes. You could become a child psychologist without being Clinical. It's not the only path

Cakeandusername · 17/11/2025 21:20

janetraven · 17/11/2025 21:05

I’m really curious to know what your current job is…well-paid, soul destroying but creative? I didn’t think there were well paid creative jobs!

I was thinking law until said arts based.
I really changed direction at at 45 but stayed same profession just totally different area and moved from private to public sector. Plus do a volunteer role with an organisation for children.

curious79 · 17/11/2025 21:18

Psychology is a profession that rewards grey hairs and experience (I am one!).

I say go for it. You could have another 25 years of working life ahead of you if you wanted to, not because you had to, but because you find it interesting and rewarding.

My only warning is make sure you are ok doing the stats and science modules feeding into it. But usually everyone can get through that with a bit of graft and effort

Doggielovecharlotte · 17/11/2025 21:16

I would always say go for it BUT there are much easier ways to work with kids in a therapy setting- why specifically are you wanting to do this route in psychology?

I’d narrow down more what it is you want to do

Busybeemumm · 17/11/2025 21:15

Breadandbutta · 17/11/2025 21:04

Agree. I tried it too. It's fiercely competitive. I applied for the doctorate 3 times, having been an Assistant Psychologist for 3 years and loads of voluntary experience. The closest I got to an interview for the course was the reserve list.

I wouldn't bother.

Yep i've been there too! Got a top grade degree, worked as an Assistant Psychologist for 3 years getting a low wage, applied for a the Clinical Psych Doctorate course 3 times before I made a decision that enough was enough! Even had a research publication.

I really would look at alternatives careers tbh. Some of my friends did succeed and found that it's stressful working in that field so in some ways I'm happy for me that I didn't get on although stung at the time.

CoffeeLipstickKeys · 17/11/2025 21:11

I really must emphasise get relevant work experience, see what current practice look like and the demands
Disavow yourself of heroic notions of saving children & big interventions. Think about having a caseload, clinic and meeting KPI and targets set by the health trust

Starconundrum · 17/11/2025 21:07

WetWashingWoes · 17/11/2025 21:03

The doctorate to qualify as a Clinical Psychologist is a full time role and you are employed by the NHS.

Yup, that's why I said it was intense!

but they both are now doing very very well.

That's why I cautioned on that bit. Especially with a young DC.

CoffeeLipstickKeys · 17/11/2025 21:07

During clinical training you’re employed and salaried by NHS, You are also on long placements with assessments & observation to complete. It’s quite full on

janetraven · 17/11/2025 21:05

I’m really curious to know what your current job is…well-paid, soul destroying but creative? I didn’t think there were well paid creative jobs!

Breadandbutta · 17/11/2025 21:04

User34735278 · 17/11/2025 20:47

Not ridiculous but I wouldnt do it. I tried for three years to become a clinical psychologist- getting onto the training is brutally competitive because there arent enough training places and that was with extensive experience as an assistant psychologist and a first class psych degree. You will have to then do placements all over and with a young child that will be incredibly hard.

I am honestly not trying to be negative here but its not an easy road and the job is stressful at the end of it.

Agree. I tried it too. It's fiercely competitive. I applied for the doctorate 3 times, having been an Assistant Psychologist for 3 years and loads of voluntary experience. The closest I got to an interview for the course was the reserve list.

I wouldn't bother.

FatalCattraction · 17/11/2025 21:04

You’re going to be 50 , all that time otherwise doing a job that is soul destroying. The journey to 50 sounds better doing something you will be happier in.

WetWashingWoes · 17/11/2025 21:03

Starconundrum · 17/11/2025 21:00

My peer group have just turned 50 and a lot of them are branching out into these areas now, mainly from education based working backgrounds.

There's also a lot of movement into SEN.

They have all got the jobs they wanted, or started their own companies and they all say their success is because they come from other backgrounds.

The only thing I'd caution about, is that they all worked while gaining their additional qualifications. Which is a bit intense for a few years.

The doctorate to qualify as a Clinical Psychologist is a full time role and you are employed by the NHS.

GreyCloudsLooming · 17/11/2025 21:03

I know four people who became clinical psychologists relatively recently. Three had psychology degrees - two had firsts, one had a 2:1 - and the other did a master’s in psychology to convert from another degree. Of those with psychology degrees, two worked as assistant psychologists for about two years before getting on the course. The other had a PhD in psychology and had a paid job as a researcher at university in psychology before getting on the course. Three were in their mid-20s, and one was 30.

greenmarsupial · 17/11/2025 21:00

Do you mean educational and child psychologist? If so, it is very competitive but age is definitely not a barrier. You would just want to have a plan B so it wasn’t a waste of a masters.

AutumnClouds · 17/11/2025 21:00

Someone else has suggested speech therapy - there are some speech therapy roles that are very psychological, whichever aspect of psychology appeals. Stammering treatment is very counselling heavy, brain injury is very neuropsychological, etc. And it’s only a two year masters.

CoffeeLipstickKeys · 17/11/2025 21:00

To be clear the doctorate is a generic training it doesn’t qualify you as a child psychologist . Do doctorate you’ll then apply for rotation or posts that specialise in child and adolescent

Why that specialism?

Really, go get work experience see if it’s the environment for you

Get a back up plan so if this doesn’t work out you have options

Starconundrum · 17/11/2025 21:00

My peer group have just turned 50 and a lot of them are branching out into these areas now, mainly from education based working backgrounds.

There's also a lot of movement into SEN.

They have all got the jobs they wanted, or started their own companies and they all say their success is because they come from other backgrounds.

The only thing I'd caution about, is that they all worked while gaining their additional qualifications. Which is a bit intense for a few years.

titchy · 17/11/2025 20:58

I don’t think direct from MSc to doctorate is realistic. Normally you work as an assistant psychologist for a few years then apply for the doc.

armquestion · 17/11/2025 20:57

Two relatives did this - both in their fifties, and both have full client lists now.

User34735278 · 17/11/2025 20:56

SalmonOnFinnCrisp · 17/11/2025 20:52

This.

Its easy to say "wooo! yeah go for it sister - you are never too old!" then make a tea and watch the kardashians.

The job is vocational anf draining. 2 of my cousins do it - its also highly highly competitve.

I'm in a similar boat to you, when i make the move i want something that is quite "practical" / pragmatic and will take less time to train.

Edited

Exactly and as someone who has tried to get on it, it is very, very hard. I didnt try a 4th time, I ended up going to work on a psych ward and becoming a therapist. Many of the mental health nurses/HCAs I worked with had also tried to get on the clin psych training and failed.

Again, I am not trying to be negative but if you are going to go for it, do it with your eyes open.

Oh and btw, the clinical psychologists I do know dont get paid very much for the massive responsibility they have. Looking back, I am actually quite glad I didnt get in.

Cakeandusername · 17/11/2025 20:56

Personally I’d look at your current well paid but soul destroying you hate role and see if you could utilise that skill set in another way or environment.

WetWashingWoes · 17/11/2025 20:56

your life experience will give you an edge. You’ll need experience of working in similar capacity. Some masters courses have the option of working on a placement. Getting onto the doctorate will be a lot about your experience so volunteer, do placements and see if you can work as an Assistant Psychologist.

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