To be really annoyed with nursery over this

Ring the nursery each day at 2pm to wake her. They will soon get the message as it will be a pain you calling

It happened with ours, and she would be given a chance to nap during the day, would take it up, they wouldn't wake her so it would go 2-3 hours and then she would be awake until 10-11pm at night, and to top it off when she was overtired would have night terrors. It took so many meetings and conversations before they took our requests seriously, but then still allowed it sometimes. It was fresh hell (from someone that uses 8-11pm to clean, cook, work and sometimes even read).

Tbh tho op, you won't win this one.

Nurseries structures & staffing are based around all the ones in the tweenie/toddler rooms sleeping for pretty much 2 hours after lunch daily and they won't ever want to wake them, as kids are always cranky when woken. If you push it they will likely just lie & say they woke her when they didn't and its impossible to prove. My sister pulled her daughter from a nursery when she got old enough to talk and told her they were wrapping (swaddling) her (age almost 3!!) to try and force her to nap. Because they wanted all the kids asleep at the same time.

I feel your pain OP.....we had a similar issue with our little girl after she had been at the childminders (she was apparently really tired there, way after she dropped her naps all the other days) but the others slept too even some rising school age, so not sure if it was a kind of routine she got them into and relished abit of time to herself!
I never challenged it too much because I didn't want her to not let DD nap if she genuinely needed it, but it was annoying!
Also because they went out she would often nap in the car!
We had lots of 9-10pm bedtimes at age 2/3.
In your situation though, I think they are definitely being unreasonable as they could have given her a shorter or an earlier nap.

YABU. You have five other nights to do homework when your two year old goes to bed early, that is A LOT for a reception child in their first term.

I get that it’s annoying but surely not the end of the world twice a week. Maybe because she doesn’t nap at home anymore she makes up for it on nursery days? She clearly needs it to sleep that long with all the distractions and noise of nursery.

I was responding to a comment not made by the OP. They’d have to pip in themselves as it was their comment, but I think the point was that it’s not obvious not to let a young child sleep past 2pm as not all children are affected in the same way by later sleep. IE have a word with the nursery but perhaps cool off about what is perceived as obvious. Our nursery just put DD down if she’s tired which we have obviously agreed to 🤷🏻‍♀️

I’m a former teacher who used to get home at 6 pm and do homework with my DC before marking 120 books. There was no time to spend on my phone or write stroppy emails. I have no wish to start a thread about it.

I agree OP, that would have really annoyed me too! Our nursery was great, I think we said an hour nap max for our second as we had the same issue, and they adhered to that no problem. I’m surprised too that they don’t have a schedule of having all the kids awake by a certain time, 3.15 is mid afternoon! Do you have any other nursery options? Or could you consider dropping the nap completely?

Do you have a partner? Why can't they do bath and bed for the 2 year old or help with the homework?

I preferred childminders for this. They don't let the kids sleep all afternoon because theyre heading out on school run! It made my life much easier and ny kids slept better at night for it.

But the OP is saying that it does mess up her kids routine. Both kids. All kids are different.

that’s why is so infuriating for her. If it didn’t effect their evening then I’m sure she wouldn’t have minded and wouldn’t have started a thread!

Put your other child to bed at the usual time. Just skip the reading / homework this eve. It wont hurt them. I'm a parent of 5kids ages between 15years to 9 weeks so I do understand the struggle.
If this is your only issue with the nursery then I'd let it go. You can also phone at 2pm every day and request management stick their head in the room to confirm your child is awake. Not that you should have to but it's just an idea.

If this happened more than once or twice I would complain. Most toddlers have their deepest and most restorative sleep between 8am and midnight, so I wouldn’t want to regularly lose 1-2 hours of that.

The latter I think.

i’m furious on your behalf!! That’s so annoying. It’s not even just 10 mins over. It’s loads over!!!!

Yeah, sleep begets sleep. .... sometimes 😂

This is so true. DD2 just slept in the car on our way home from nursery and she still went to bed as usual at half 7.

Yanbu op. Our school (prep) has two rooms. Nap time is 12:30-1:30. All napping kids are in one room and all those who don’t nap/requested by parents to not nap go in the other room. They are encouraged with ‘quiet time’ - teachers do puzzles, story time, quiet activities with them. Any child that’s too noisy or loud is taken outside to the play area if they want to.
Sounds like a lazy nursery that’s doing what’s best for them.