To be really annoyed with nursery over this

This was happening with my 2 year old so I asked them not to let him nap. He’s tired when I pick him up but goes straight to sleep at 7pm.

If you have a busy day and need an early night, do you force yourself to stay awake in order to stick to your own arbitrary routine or do you let yourself get more sleep?

Children are humans that need more sleep some days than others. Just like adults do,

How many kids are there? I'm questioning nursery's ability to have separate schedules for kids.
Also, re my previous suggestion, I'm thinking it wouldn't take that long to change your dc's habits.

Some of these replies 🤣 YANBU. I have 3 DC one is a 2yo and one is a 5yo and absolutely no way can I do homework with the 2yo around! Or anything that requires actual attention because…🌪️ and yes they are little pests at that age.

i would be annoyed and would definitely ask again. I need that time with the other DC and also down time for myself!

You actually are not being unreasonable to want nursery on board with your sleep routine, you're not unreasonable to find out why they won't wake DC. Our nursery has a no wake policy, but I have the opposite problem, my DD won't nap unless every other child is and wakes up at the drop of a pin.
But I do think you're massively unreasonable to claim later bedtime means you can't help your older DC, especially when you managed to update this thread 19 times in an hour tonight between 18:38-19:38, seem like that would have been a good time to do homework.

The nursery my sons went to were always willing to follow my wishes regarding naps. I really wanted DS2 to keep napping when others were not, mainly because I was working full time, wanted an evening with him and was happy for him to go to bed around 8pm. I can't remember how old he was, but they would move him down to a younger room if possible, or find a little cubby in his room (not great but it mostly worked). So an entirely different problem to yours, but the staff worked with the parents (to a degree obviously).
I went over to breastfeed at lunch time for quite a while and would see staff wake little ones from naps as per parents' wishes....I didn't envy them - a bunch of grizzly toddlers, but I respected different parents have different wishes, as well as different home lives.

Maybe their priority is doing what is best for the child, and not forcing a clearly tired child to wake up purely for your convenience?

Put the children to bed at bedtime. They can be upstairs resting or looking at books without being asleep.

Baffled by all the replies to this!
Of course you’re reasonable to ask them to wake your child up by a set time. You’re paying them to look after her, and this is an extremely reasonable request. They don’t have a policy about not waking, so just very politely but clearly remind them tomorrow how important it is she doesn’t sleep past 2.15, regardless of the time she goes to sleep.
Can’t believe you had to deal with so many challenging replies! While it’s nice to hear so many people manage to easily entertain and 2 and 5 year old a lot of people could have just a little more empathy and remember how hard solo evening / bedtimes are, and that’s without a late nap messing it up.

OP- I think you’re getting a really hard time. I’ve worked on and off in early years for a very long time and your request is not even slightly unreasonable!

I'm pretty sure it's Ofsted who say the staff must not wake the children. However most nurseries ignore this (unless Ofsted are there) and follow the parents wishes..
At least they should have told you they couldn't follow your wishes. Then they have lied to you about how long she slept (unless a mistake has been made on the diary). It sounds like you aren't happy with the nursery in general though so I'd move her.

Sorry but I couldn’t get past the image of a 2yo….. checks notes….. body slamming into you and other DC. 😅😅😅😅 You sound quite dramatic tbh.

Nursery are being unreasonable. You are also unreasonable, talking about your 2 year old like she’s just some kind of annoying pest. She’s a young child who needs love and attention.

I'm speaking about changing her readiness to nap earlier so she wakes earlier.

We had this as DD phased out her nap. She napped at nursery long after she stopped napping at home. I asked nursery to limit naps to an hour and they did no issue. We had an open dialogue though so if she'd been under the weather or was tired, I would let them know. Equally if she specifically said she was tired then nursery would let me know and she could have a bit longer. It worked both ways.

We had this in our nursery, sometimes they would let him sleep until past 3 (they would go to nap around 12ish!)

My kid has always been bad to fall asleep (for example he is still awake right now in his bed, he is nearly 4…) so any long nap and past 2 would completely mess up the bedtime routine. And then it was a bad cycle: he went to bed late, he was tired in the morning, of course had a long nap again in the afternoon and it started again. I had to speak with the room leader and explain that this was impacting his night sleep. I don’t think you are being unreasonable.