To be really annoyed with nursery over this

You need to state sleep times are x to y only.

If she’s napping at nursery she probably needs it. It sounds as though you are unreasonably irate about the possibility of having more time with your toddler awake which suggests there are bigger issues than a slightly longer than normal nap. Not all children fit in to the idea of ‘routine’ or ‘what works for your family’ ans their needs change all the time. It sounds as though some adaptability and working on becoming less stressed about minor things would be really good for you.

It does sound argumentative and unyielding.
I completely understand not wanting dc to sleep late in the day. But, the child's schedule should be adjusted to encourage an earlier nap, then. ie consistently wake her an hour earlier each morning.
However, if the child is tired, she must be allowed to sleep according to her own needs. It's tough when that poses a conflict, but it doesn't last forever and we do have to listen to their needs.

Excuses Excuses Excuses 🙄

I think a poster a while ago had it right.

ignore all the posts about what others would do with their kids…..the point of the post is that nursery agreed to do something and they have now broken that.

like any other service you pay for.

sorry I can’t who said that.

When my child was three naps would be refused.. then the inevitable crash at 4 or 5pm. 😵‍💫

Our nursery look at sleep holistically, so they'll cap a nap or have a cut-off time if that's in the best interest of the child overall. If too long/too late a nap has a major impact on her night sleep that may be the way to approach it – that this isn't best for DDs sleep overall, because it means she goes to bed 2-3 hours later, but wakes at her usual time, so actually gets less sleep, or whatever the situation is.

They won't force a child to stay awake, though, so if DD is hard to wake once she has finally gone off, that might be tricky.

You are her mother and you know your child best. I couldn’t let my 2year old son nap but my grandson still needed his at 3. Children are all different.

@notaminorthing Its been well over 20 years since mine were doing exactly what you describe so you have my sympathy. Your DD may be a little young but I found that giving my younger child(ren) 'homework' too enabled me to focus more on the eldest. In those days we could get age appropriate 'work books' from WHSmith or similar and the younger two loved copying their big bro and 'doing homework'. Don't know if there's anything like that around now?

I'd tell the nursery that they have given up their nap. Or move to pre school.

If the child is ready to give up naps (which op said they were) but needs a little catnap this is how to do it. They get enough to keep them going but too much and they don’t sleep at night meaning they are exhausted the next day. Nighttime sleep is the most important. Also if you wake within 20minutes the child has not gone into a deep sleep which is hard to wake from. I have done this for years with many children and they have all been fine. Obviously all children are different and some still need their naps well into being 3 years old.

It’s not your daughter’s routine that is disrupted though, it’s yours in the evenings!
your daughter must need to sleep because she definitely wouldn’t sleep if it wasn’t needed!

@rainbowsandraspberrygin I do like a raspberry gin 😂

@notaminorthing but that's what you have to do when you have more than one child. I've survived 5 toddlers. I know it's hard but you can't let them rule your life!

Mine combined naps at that age but certainly still had them until attending nursery at three and a half.

It's tricky because I don't think a two hour nap is unreasonable but still being asleep at gone three probably is. I'd be requesting that nap time doesn't exceed 14:30 due to the knock on effect it has on the rest of her day. Or ask that the nursery don't put her down for naps at all.

Mine never went to bed that early as they didn't sleep for long at night. We'd aim for twelve hours so never before 19:30 once the naps went!

You can't make a 2 year old understand that, fgs. 🙄
A 2 year old needs a 60-90 min nap. They sleep because they are tired. Children's needs are different from adults.

This is ridiculous. Tell them to wake her after 20minutes. This gives her enough nap time to get through the day but not interfere with bedtime. All toddlers go through this difficult time and they should understand that nighttime sleep is the most important.

Honestly most nurseries don't have extra staff that come in to cover lunch breaks ime.

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maybe the gin and tonic helps you then?!

We must have been last in line when these obedient two year olds that can entertain themselves for hours were being handed out 😂 … it’s funny, I wrote a post a while ago about how my child needs constant entertainment and attention and all the comments were “it’s normal”, “he just wants his mummy” etc.