Lads trips

This must be about the 5th post today where it starts off with a random question and then it's drip-fed that the partner / husband has cheated before. Just say it in the initial OP!!!

Anyway, no it's not unusual to go away with friends but to be honest, if he can't be trusted to go on holiday with his mates and not cheat on you then there are far bigger problems and I would wonder why you were still with him.

We have gone on loads of trips separately. I don't have any issue with it and think it's healthy. You have one life, enjoy the trips together and separately that you want to do. And don't go on trips you wouldnt really want to go on. Ie football watching trips with the lads.

We do trips away without one another with our friends but we wouldn’t let it affect family holidays.

I agree with the other posters.

DH and I often have girls/lads trips. Usually one a year or more if big birthdays etc.

We always check dates and child care and make sure money is ok and is not impacting a family trip. But I very much enjoy my time away with my friend as does he. Whenever the other is away our DC always enjoy having the other parent to themselves and we plan some fun things.

Is there a particular reason you are concerned?

My DH goes on boys ski trips, sometimes weekends away with friends or to visit friends from where he grew up.
I don't go on as many as my friends are far far harder to pin down! But he’d have no issue if I did!

Yes you are being unreasonable.

It depends what the particular concern is. If you have the financial means for it, childcare covered for any DC, you have an equal amount of free time to use for your own trips, and he's not cheating/doing drugs/behaving like an arsehole when away, then what's the problem?

Normal for many couples for footie, golf, big birthdays etc. Dh did when he was a bit younger, not so much now we are in our 50s and some friends have moved away so not in contact as much (doesn’t go to home matches anymore either), but I would have no problem he wanted too again, if financial viable, would encourage him.

I dont see the problem. Trips with friends dont stop when youre married, its normal to do things with your mates.

Some might disagree but id not be happy if my partner felt uncomfortable with me going away without them. We are individuals still and dont need to do everything together.

Id question what exactly makes you feel uncomfortable about it? Is there already insecurity there? Is there some mistrust already?

I personally couldn't be with someone who stopped me going away with friends... Provided there were finances to still get away with me/family holiday etc. I don't like my life being curtailed (excluding being faithful of course) just because I'm committed to someone.

What are your concerns? I'd be reassured he offered you to come along tbh. X