MIL wanting 1:1 time with GC aged 1

Could you set a very clear boundary from the off? Or perhaps say he’s too young now but you will review the situation in a year? What does your husband say?

Is there anyone he's used to going to without you? It's useful to have that, especially if you have any more and need a babysitter.

If you don't feel comfortable, say no. If your MIL took 10 years to accept you into the family, you don't have any obligation to hand over your child to her just yet. One is still very young and this is for her benefit, not yours.

Obviously it's your choice but I'd bite her hand off 😂I love spending time with my children too but I also love going for a run, having time to get my nails done etc etc. If you don't feel like you need her help I would also consider it a worthwhile thing to do to allow her to develop a good relationship with your DS, for everyone's sake (unless you don't think that would be positive for your DS).

He is your son OP.

If you don't want to let her then it's your decision.

Fwiw I would feel the same as you.

Try and remember your own relationships with grandparents, I think it's a precious thing to have if it is in the interests of the child

I'm absolutely not suggesting you do something you aren't comfortable with - but could you use even a small break?

I come from a place of having one set of grandparents for my two who couldn't give a shit, so I'm biased, but I'd not mind giving her the odd day with DS. She's clearly capable as she has her other grandchildren regularly. You know her though, so if you are uncomfortable then it's perfectly fine to say no.

hmmmm. I would try to dig deep here and think are you really saying no for the right reasons - I would give my right arm to have more involved grandparents!!

I absolutely understand that you are saying you don't need or want the break - and I would definitely not say yes to the whole day - could she have him for a few hours/ for teatime?

Don't give up the groups you enjoy - that's important time for you - but couldn't you think of a way it could be helpful in the long run?

I have an 11 and 13 year old and honestly think my entire parenting experience would have been different if I had been able to rely regularly on grandparent invovlement.

one day you might like her to collect him from school while you are at work for example - I would try and give a little of what she wants now, it will be good for your son surely in the long run if they have a great relationship?

"No" is a complete sentence.

She wants to parent for a second time, she wants to do things her way without you there. No loving, caring only in the interests of the child grandparent would insist on being alone.

You don't have to do anything that makes you uncomfortable. Especially if you feel she will push for more.