AIBU to not let 10yo have TV in bedroom?

My daughter asked for a TV in her room last Xmas (she was 10) and I told her no for various reasons. I didn't have a TV in my bedroom until my teens when I got one for my Sega Mega Drive or to watch the soaps if the rest of the family wanted to watch other things.

TV in a child's bedroom? Never. Reading in their bedroom. Fine. Homework done in bedroom. Fine.
When I was accused of being The World's Most unreasonable Parent, I used to say: 'If you think the food (insert issue in question) is better at X's house, you must speak to X's parents and ask if you can live there.'

YBU letting him have a phone at 10, never mind a tv in his bedroom!!

Absolutely not to both.

also no phones at 10.

I didn't like the idea of allowing my kid a TV in their room but I allowed it from this age on after a lot of pestering. We agreed that homework had to be done first and that it had to be off by a certain time. I have to say he has stuck to it pretty much. Sometimes it's a little later at night but only by 30 mins max. It made the house a lot more peaceful with him gaming in the room instead, I was less stressed and so was he, his mental health was better, having some time to himself away from adults. It worked out well for us but if you do decide to do it, explain to him why you want it off by a certain time and stick to it more or less and put parental controls in. We have a rule too that there's no gaming until after 6 if he's out sick from school

You'd think so!

I wouldn’t allow TVs in bedrooms at that age. My eldest is only 8 so I don’t really know what age I would allow it but as my 2 eldest share a room I would probably wait until they’ve both finished GCSEs, or late secondary for the younger one. We do have a TV in our room, so no one else has to suffer watching the football with DH, and the kids are allowed to sit in our bed and watch a movie together. I don’t mind them doing that but wouldn’t want them sat up in their rooms for ages watching TV.

I had a TV in my room from 13ish. I very distinctly remember recording some very dodgy C4&5 programmes that were on v late night on my VHS, and very not suitable for a 13 year old.

Late 80s and early 90s, we all had either a 14" TV with a Super Nintendo or a Sega Megadrive, or a home computer + 14" monitor in our bedroom from the age of 8 upwards.

Therefore I think it's reasonable that a child at 10 can have a bedroom TV. Flat screen 24" or 27".

I would draw the line with smartphones though and wouldn't issue one until secondary age (12). I'm also with the upcoming proposal to limit social media usage until after GCSEs (16).

We only had one TV in the living room when I was growing up. I didn’t have my own until I was 22 and had left uni!

But if I’m honest I absolutely LOVE watching TV snuggled up in my bed with a cup of tea so my DC also had one from 13. We both love a binge watch and watched many things together over the years (he’s an adult now) but we agreed there’s only so many emergency service dramas (me) and episodes of Doctor Who (him) we could stand so I took my police car to my room and he took his Tardis to his!

This is what I've said to daughter as I too didn't have a TV till that age (& even then it was a bloody tiny black and white one!)... I considered putting a TV in our room for that reason but her room is the biggest so seemed the best idea 🤷‍♀️

Following this post though I am tempted to move it to the store room in between times as it's pretty big and probably quite a distraction, even though she can't use it 🤔

Food for thought.

I’d never let a kid have a tv in their bedroom. Basic parenting surely?

No!

So my 10 (nearly 11) year old has asked for a curved gaming monitor for his bedroom for Xmas and we have said yes... I am quite particular about screen time as well though, and it will absolutely Only be a gaming monitor Not a TV. He uses a Nintendo switch and it times out after an hour (sometimes he's allowed an extra half hour if he's in the middle of a good game with a friend), and like his tablet, turns off completely at 7pm. I don't see an issue with it tbh! Neither him nor me have a problem with him playing on the big screen in the lounge (which is what he goes now) but He is also convinced it will improve his game play 😂 we will see!

His 12yr old sister has a TV in her room that they share when OH and I want to watch something not child friendly downstairs in the evening (very rare, once a fortnight) or on a Saturday afternoon, but the rule is that she has to let her brother share, and the remote control is an app on her phone that I can block in-between times 😁

She obviously wishes it wasn't so but doesn't complain too much!

Nope. No screens in bedrooms. Not phones, not tablets, not TVs. DS asked when he was 11 but very easily accepted 'no screens in bedrooms' (which I was surprised by) and no one's muttered about it since!

YANBU
I know I'm in the minority but I'd never have a TV in the kids rooms....I like spending time with them...and I like them to read/ make/draw/ sew...even if it means a lot more tidying up. I want them to live in the real world not a screen one.

I didn't have a tv in my room till I was 16. It was the rules. We had the main telly in the lounge and my parents had an ancient tv (and i mean ancient, it didn't even have a remote control) in their room that we could use if we wanted to watch something alternative to what parents were watching downstairs. It wasn't a thing when I was young and I was always amazed if a friend had a tv in their room. All I had was books.

No. I did allow my DD at 12, we lost touch for a bit, not allowing DS, he's 10.
DD was a good child and would only use when allowed.
DS has the downstairs, if he wants to watch a movie upstairs then he can use an ipad.

I’m surprised by these answers; mine all have TVs in their rooms (teens now). I’m not aware of any of DCs friends not having TVs in their rooms.

Up to you innit?

My sons are now 20 and 17 . Never had a TV/gaming system in their room. They asked for one I said if you pay for the aerial extension etc.....🤭

Research years ago linked TV in kids bedrooms to worse grades. Bedroom should be for reading, playing, sleeping.

We had this rule, no TV in bedrooms. Do you have another space downstairs for video games, if so this is a better option.

No screens in the bedroom (for adults or children, in my view)! And, I bet most of their friends don't have them either.