I’m learning, in later life, the way we respond to situations and people, is a gift.
A couple we were friends with are seemingly phasing us out. They’re local parent friends, children are drifting apart, all fine.
The challenge I have is the husband is point blank rude to me. He all but rolls his eyes when he sees me, ignores me when we do go to group events with them. We are all in a small tight knit community, and bump into another often. This man is one to offer his help, whether it be running after or watching one of the kids briefly when out, or lift something. A true gentleman. However, recently he watched me struggling In a situation for an hour or so and again just pretended I wasn’t there.
If I try to speak to him, he keeps it as short as possible and walks off, and won’t be back. Won’t say hi to me first. I don’t know what has changed as we were once at one another’s for dinners, play dates and most weekends for walks and such.
I am not a confrontational person, and I don’t mind if people have other priorities, so naturally I would do as I’m doing, just be polite but not make an effort but I’m at a stage now where I feel like just not saying hello and ignoring him, because I’m fed up and also to see what he does. Given I don’t care enough to fix it, I’m happier just taking back a bit of control and stop welcoming someone I see who clearly would rather not be engaged with.
Is that immature?