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Greedy husband?

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Bunchofcoconuts · 17/11/2025 09:48

Does your husband expect to eat more than you?
Over the years I have always accepted the fact that my DH expects to have a much larger portion of food than me. He has always said that because he is much taller and of a larger build that he needs more. This is fine most of the time and if we are eating at home I just cater for his large appetite. It becomes more of a problem when we are away and eating out and I feel that this is almost leading to a food disorder as I tend to pack secret cereal bars in my luggage as I worry about being left hungry.
For example whilst away last week we met friends for wine and pizza. As the pizza's in this particular establishment are large we agreed to share one per couple. I was quite surprised as I would say my DH had at least two thirds of the pizza we shared, whilst the other couple split theirs down the middle.
This has made me question the fact that he always takes the lions share of food and I guess I just want to ask if this is the case in other people's relationships?

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BillieWiper · 17/11/2025 09:58

But why only order one pizza? You know he could easily eat a whole one or almost a whole one? So if you want half a pizza or more you'll need a second one.

Is he really saying he needs more food than you specifically? Or he just has a bigger appetite? Would he stop you dishing up same sized portions for yourself? Would you eat a portion that big?

I mean how could he stop you, it's your food that you cooked?!

To me I'd just accept he's greedy but I wouldn't let him take food out of my mouth!

TenderChicken · 17/11/2025 09:56

No not at all, DH would split things down the middle. He does the cooking at home and will give me the choice piece of meat/yorkshire/whatever as well, because he's very sweet.

If your DH is a big eater why do neither of you suggest ordering more food, or acknowledge sharing doesn't work? You shouldn't be going hungry OP!

Therealjudgejudy · 17/11/2025 09:55

Why is he policing how much you eat?

Surely if you are hungry, you just eat/order more food??

Justlostmybagel · 17/11/2025 09:54

The obvious answer is to get two pizzas? Is your husband overweight? If not, he's not being greedy, he just needs more food.

TranscendentTiger · 17/11/2025 09:54

Greedy or hungry? It does make sense that he needs more food than you do if he's much bigger.

However, in the case you gave where you were out for pizza, why didn't you just speak up? Or if a pizza between two won't be enough, get a side as well.

I know I couldn't often share food with my father or DS as they eat fast and need a lot of food. If we do do a communal type meal, I'll remind them that I eat slower so can they leave me xy&z please. Or we'll discuss before ordering. Communication is key. To be fair to them both, they would also offer me anything they know I like and would ask before finishing anything in a shared meal.

ViciousCurrentBun · 17/11/2025 09:53

He eats much more than me. If I ate as much as him I would be overweight

If you are eating out order the amounts you both need.

NewCushions · 17/11/2025 09:53

I don't think how much he eats is relevant. what's relevant is whether you are getting enough. Afte ryou had 1/3 of the pizza, did you feel satisfied or not? Because if not, then there's a problem. If you do, then there isn't. The fact that you take cereal bars with you suggests that yes, he regularly eats YOUR food, leaving you hungry. In which case, the answer is to say, "no, this is my food. If you're still hungry, order something extra."

dontmalbeconme · 17/11/2025 09:53

You should have got a pizza each!

I would expect an average man to eat more than an average woman, yes. They will have greater calorie needs.

I wouldn't expect two adults to split one main course between them and have enough food. The problem here is that you ordered one meal for two people.

DeQuin · 17/11/2025 09:50

Why are you letting your DH dictate how much you eat? Assuming you are not really struggling financially (which I am reading you are not, given going out for pizzas) you should both be 100% in charge of what you each eat individually, and giving no fucks about what the other person is eating. If I went out and we shared a pizza and I was still hungry, I would order another one (or pudding, or something else).