Greedy husband?

I expect him to eat a lot more than me because he needs 2500-3500 cals a day dependant on exercise/manual labour and I need 1200-1400.
You should order enough food that you get enough too. Some men do not need that much food, DB and his wife eat the same as she is very active and he is not and they are a similar height

Is you DH overweight so consuming excess cals? Are you underweight?
Your post doesn't give enough info to see what is going on.

In my book if you order a pizza to share, that means half each. If one doesn't want to finish their half they can offer it to the other - but expecting more or thinking you 'need' more food so someone else must have less is greedy.

If one or both are still hungry after their half, in this scenario couldn't you get something on the way home? Being still hungry isn't always a problem that needs immediate solving. I'd quite enjoy fantasising about which takeaway to grab on the way back.

Are you worried others will think you are greedy op

@Bunchofcoconuts in the kindest way, I am really confused why you don't just adapt what you cook/order to make sure there is enough food for both of you? This should have only ever been a problem once and after that surely you just make more pasta/order your own meal?

I don't understand why him eating bigger portions has any effect on what you eat? Why are you taking cereal bars when you're eating out?

If we are sharing something we usually have half each (or he'll leave more for me if it's something I particularly like) but I often can't eat as much anyway so he always finishes up the leftovers and therefore has more. It wouldn't be acceptable for him to just assume he should get a bigger portion though! If he wanted more than half he would check with me and order more if I said I wanted half. Sometimes either of us might say "I don't want to share" and then we'd just order an extra portion.

Everyone is different.

I'm a certified fat lass and I couldn't eat a whole pizza but I have friends who are thin who could polish of a large and go in for pud.

Some men are like bottomless pits and others not.

The point really is that you should both be eating what you want to. Neither should dictate how much the other eats and you shouldn't be worrying about whether or not he has had enough.

If he's still hungry after a meal he has both opposable thumbs and a brain to put into action - he doesn't need you to carry snacks around for him like he's a hangry toddler.

No, my DH never does this. He loves his food and is overweight, and can be an arse in many other ways, but he wouldn’t take more than his fair share.

DH eats about twice as much food as me. At home, I take all the food I want at the start of a meal. I don't ever assume I will have the ability to add to my plate later in the meal because there's a high chance it will have been inhaled by then 😂If I overestimate, DH will usually apply eat it. He does all the cooking though so he's perfectly happy to make as much food as he anticipates is needed.

Half a pizza would not be enough for me, certainly not a 1/3. Order your own food.

For my DH and 2 ds we all have equal portions at home but when out they eat more than me.

My 15yo ds can easily eat a whole pizza, as can DH. Last week I ordered a pizza as a snack because it was 3pm and we were in a food hall with friends just me and 11yo ds. 11yo ate over 2/3 of the pizza and looked aggrieved at the 2 slices I got because he thought it was his tea!

Why not just say "we can't share a pizza' and suggest 3 between 4.

My husband is 6ft 5. Not overweight at all but eats ridiculous amounts. If we’re sharing we just order appropriately because we both know he’s a gannet.

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@Bunchofcoconuts does he eat more than his fair share of food at home - as in does he deliberately finish off food before you have had some?

I've put YABU because I don't really understand why, if you go out, you are going hungry. Meals out generally aren't 'shared unless tapas type thing. In my experience, folk would generally get a pizza each - if you leave a bit and he takes a bit of yours - fine - but you both eat what you need. Yes of course he probably needs more calories than you if he's bigger - but you are two separate entities who should eat what you need. Is he making you eat less than you need?

Actually now I've re-read the OP I'm a bit confused.

"It becomes more of a problem when we are away and eating out and I feel that this is almost leading to a food disorder as I tend to pack secret cereal bars in my luggage as I worry about being left hungry."

This heavily implies that when you're away, you often share food rather than ordering your own.

Why would you do that?

half a pizza isn't usually enough without a starter.

but you shouldn't have to be topping up your meals with extras because he eats it all. thats not normal.
its a lack of consideration.

You both need to have enough food. It's really that simple. If 1 pizza is not sufficient for you both to be full you need to order some sides or another pizza. The answer is not one of you being hungry (either you or him).

It doesn't matter what everyone else eats
What matters is that one pizza is not enough for both of you and you don't feel able to say anything.

• that's not enough for us we'll get one each and if there's any left we'll share it or take it home.

My partner is bigger than me, but I am more active. We have the same amount at mealtimes, but I struggle to keep weight on and he struggles to keep it off. Eat what you need, if he is keeping you hungry then that isn't on.

If my husband tried to take more than half the pizza we shared, I'd be using my words.

And my sharp elbows.

But if you know this about him, tell him to order himself some sides in future and make it clear you'll be eating as much as you want/need.

Packing snacks for yourself is ridiculous.

Weird, sometimes I eat more than DH.
When we first got together he did comment that I ate a lot for a girl😂I basically told him to fuck off and that was pretty much it.
Unless we are both trying to do a healthy kick, then he might try and encourage me to not eat a whole big bar of cadburys in one sitting, which is more about us trying to help each other than any sort of expectation. However, he knows that I may still eat it and that would be my choice, he might say 'why don't you just have a square each night' which is actually what I should do.
But normal food, no, we wouldn't question each others portion sizes. And also split fairly the food.
If there is a big steak and a small steak then I might dish him up the big steak, but he would then usually cut off a bit and give it to me unless he is absolutely starving.
We both do office jobs though, maybe if he was doing a manual job he might be more hungry than me??
Also, we are both average height, build and weight for our sexes. So there isnt a huge discrepancy between our body needs.
Also do you eat slowly? Mym mum eats in snail pace and always has tiny portions. I eat super fast and hoover food up.

My DH eats much more then me, he has a physically demanding job, he needs feeding 3 times a day and I often eat once

We dont share meals when out though - maybe share a few sides - but I often just have a starter and a few sides where as he will have starter, main and sides

If we did share a pizza - it would be a 50/50 share but then Id end up telling him to finish it off

I eat to my appetite , he eats to his, I make sure there is enough for both , I dont go without for him to get enough

My DH and DS’s serve themselves at home and I always make more than needed. They usually wait til I’ve served myself as they know I won’t go back for more and they know they can demolish what’s on offer. They also order what they want when we go out to eat (as do I). We always order more pizza and take the leftovers home too (when it is just me and DH).

I don’t give it a second thought.

Do you have children?

My DH is very tall and almost 5 stone heavier than me, he does a lot of exercises so he definitely needs more food than me. I eat food enough for me and he eats enough food for him, his is just always more than mine. The issue you’ve described is you’ve ordered food that’s not enough for both of you. Half of a pizza is not enough for him so you both can’t agree to to split one pizza cos that’ll mean you eat less, you should have both ordered yours

i wouldn't share a pizza