Greedy husband?

I just think sometimes we eat more, sometimes we eat less. Very few people unless on a diet have a strict daily allowance that is correlated to their partners.

That's very true also - our appetites will totally vary depending on weather, activity levels, hormones or just because, which is why I always find posters insisting that men need x more than women, precisely, at every single meal, a bit daft. Maybe I'm starving that day and he isn't?

I just think sometimes we eat more, sometimes we eat less. Very few people unless on a diet have a strict daily allowance that is correlated to their partners. If my husband and I shared a pizza I’d expect half available to me. That’s the default. My choice if I eat all my half or leave some and offer it to him. The going in is not we share a pizza and two thirds of it is his as he is bigger than me.

but he’d also be equally appalled by the idea. I’ve never once seen him eat my share in over 30 years, and even when plenty left of something he always says, do you mind if I finish that. I’ve never genuinely seen a man behave differently. And I’ve never ever seen a woman default to i onky eat a third as I’m a woman.

I would agree with you on 'treats' though - like if we were splitting a bar of chocolate, i'd get very annoyed if he ate 2/3 of it!

My rough rule (it's not really a rule, just thinking about how we do it) is that protein and treats are 50/50. I mean obviously if we're having a chili or stew DH will have a bigger portion but if it's like steak or chicken breast or something then it's half and half. He may be larger but I need the iron more.

I would expect a taller and larger man to eat more than me overall but in the situation you outline I would expect him to default to half the pizza and order extra if he was still hungry. Not for me to default to eating less and being hungry and having to find more.

If you both had a pizza each would he eat his and then expect some of yours as well or would there be no issues with you eating all of yours?

I did say this was what worked for us given our respective needs - to each their own! He generally eats much more than me - when we first met and I mirrored his eating I put on quite a lot of weight, which it has taken me ages to lose. I like the expression 'penis portions' 😂

I would agree with you on 'treats' though - like if we were splitting a bar of chocolate, i'd get very annoyed if he ate 2/3 of it!

I guess a lot of people don’t like to match bread with more bread, but would rather have something contrasting on the side.

I guess a lot of people don’t like to match bread with more bread, but would rather have something contrasting on the side.

Assert your own feelings more!
Is he greedy or is he actually selfish??? I’d say the latter.

You packing cereal bars is extreme - you’re in charge of your food and you can eat what you like. Don’t let him bully you! X

Exactly, it's a treat and treats should be shared equally.

If we were sharing a pizza I’d expect to eat half should I chose to do so. I don’t know anyone who goes out for a meal and shares a dish according to height and weight.

i heard rumours or penis portions, but never seen it in th4 wild.

I'm 5'4 and DH is 6'4. He eats slightly more than I do.

However, if we're sharing something then we split it equally and he wouldn't dream of eating more than his half unless I'd specified he could have it, nor would he ask unless I offered of my own volition. If a pizza was 6 slices, he'd eat his 3 and not even consider touching the fourth until I'd offered it to him and was sure I was full. If he wanted more then he'd order it for himself or wait until we got home.

He also doesn't gobble his food down at break-neck speed like he's in a battle to clear his plate before everyone else. It's just manners.

Your DH is rude, and it's got nothing to do with him being bigger than you. I had an ex who tried this on me; served himself massive portions and gave me barely anything, two naan breads and me just one, wolfed down all the shared treats. I told him he was a rude bastard and started taking some of the food back off his plate and onto mine. It was a short relationship.

DH didn't even have to be told this sort of behaviour was rude, he just knew and didn't do it.

Yes, my husband and sons tend to eat more than me as they are physically larger than me. Men typically have more muscle mass, therefore their calorie burn is higher than women’s so need to eat more. Your husband obviously seems to have a larger appetite than you so if you are getting a meal to share make sure you order enough that you are both satisfied by the amount you have, rather than one of you ending up hungry or order separate meals. If you are making food at home just cater a larger portion for your husband.

I agree with PP, his eating shouldn't govern yours. But for what it's worth, if I were sharing a large pizza with my partner, I would expect him to eat 2/3 and I would eat 1/3. His calorific needs are significantly more than mine, not just because of gender/height/weight but also given his activity levels/muscle mass. If we ate 50-50, I would be overeating.

I do get miffed though at the speed with which he inhales food - especially if we are sharing a large bowl of popcorn or such in front of the TV. I like to munch my way gradually through the movie, and it is all gone in the first half an hour. I've learned to do separate bowls now 😂

This is just odd. Surely he can eat however much he wants and so can you? It's not like the more he eats, the less you get to eat . . .

Just order your own meals when out. Eat as much as you want at home.

Oh my dad can be like this because of his awful father - sees the biggest portion or “best bit” as a sign of status. It’s really difficult for people to get out of imo- but of course it’s that person’s responsibility to try, especially they’re a parent.

In this situation, I'd do a trip through McD's on the way home after leaving the other people.

How are you ordering when its just the two of you out? I don't understand how you are being left hungry if you are both ordering your own meals.

Does he take food off your plate before you have finished? That would be a feel my fork situation, but my husband would never take my food unless it was clear I'd finished/was offering it.

At home we put the serving dishes on the table and serve ourselves and always cook enough for plenty and leftovers.

YABU for not just ordering enough for both of you. My DH eats more than me so we don’t share food we order our own. When we do share he orders an extra side or something as he’ll want more. Just ask for what you want. If you start to speak up you’ll feel much less frustrated.

Yeah this. I mean, it's not a difficult problem to solve. You know your DH eats a lot so just order your own meal and he orders his own?!

I don’t eat much at all. My partner eats more than me - but he knows if he wants snacks he has to hide them from me because I am a trash panda.

Why not just order more food? DH does eat much more than me but if we are out we just get more sides etc so everyone has enough. It seems you knew it wouldn’t be enough for the two of you but didn’t do anything to fix it so you could complain.

My DP is also incredibly greedy, to the point where it’s angering me and making me sick. He literally ate all of our 19 month old dds weetabix, he’s eaten all of my chocolate. He will take food off my plate.

Urgh I need to get rid of him.

DP tends to have a larger portion than me but he has a physical job so appreciate he needs more calories. At home I serve him up a larger portion but if we’re out he’d order appropriately, in your case we would have got a pizza but he would have added something on the side for himself instead of taking my share!

What new arbitrary rule is this, many people have garlic bread wirh pizza?