Page 9 | First night away with new BF, was he unreasonable

India87 · 2025-11-16T20:02:58+00:00

As above - would you expect your partner to tell you if they were going to be bringing ‘kink’ items? Or is it appropriate to find out by walking into the bedroom after a bath and finding said items being worn?

SageSorrelSaffron · 16/11/2025 21:23

India87 · 16/11/2025 20:23

That it was for my benefit and he thought I’d have liked it

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Why the fuck would he think you would like to be gagged?
Like we don’t know the answer is - he likes women who are gagged, porn addled fuck. Revolting.

HildegardP · 16/11/2025 21:21

Yuk that yum.
Then run.

ThatCyanCat · 16/11/2025 21:17

whattheysay · 16/11/2025 21:14

This is not for your benefit it’s for his. I doubt many men would just think up that their girlfriend would like this and surprise her with it. He likes this and is gauging your reaction.

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And yes to this too.

Like I said, the worst way to find out. Shudder.

ThatCyanCat · 16/11/2025 21:14

FieldInWhichFucksAreGrownIsBarren · 16/11/2025 21:00

Don't be embarrassed!! Not everyone does face sitting despite what others might believe.
The Alan Partridge vision is most likely spot on tbf!

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But - but - Monty Python!

whattheysay · 16/11/2025 21:14

India87 · 16/11/2025 20:23

That it was for my benefit and he thought I’d have liked it

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This is not for your benefit it’s for his. I doubt many men would just think up that their girlfriend would like this and surprise her with it. He likes this and is gauging your reaction.

BunnyLake · 16/11/2025 21:13

FieldInWhichFucksAreGrownIsBarren · 16/11/2025 21:00

Don't be embarrassed!! Not everyone does face sitting despite what others might believe.
The Alan Partridge vision is most likely spot on tbf!

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No never done that in my life. 😬

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 16/11/2025 21:13

India87 · 16/11/2025 20:40

Eww I didn’t even think of that. It had ‘protection’ on it thinking back 😷

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Oh grim.

ChristmaslightsuptilJanuary · 16/11/2025 21:12

ThatCyanCat · 16/11/2025 21:09

I am so turned off by sub men, and this would be one of the most horrible ways of finding out he's sub. Honestly he'd have a better chance if he sprung the gag and expected me to wear it. I still wouldn't without a conversation to determine limits, safe word and so on, and if I didn't feel that sort of dynamic with him, but it could theoretically work. Walking in on him wearing that stuff and expecting me to go Miss Whiplash on him, ugh, yuck, horrible, no no no.

That’s nice dear

BunnyLake · 16/11/2025 21:11

Chichz · 16/11/2025 21:08

I am exactly the same. Cannot picture this at all and don't want to Google 🤣

I hope I don't ever get divorced because I don't think I'd cut it in today's dating world. 🤪

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Oh thank god I’m not the only one 😁. My ex had a high sex drive but neither he nor any of my former bf’s had kinks.

ThatCyanCat · 16/11/2025 21:09

I am so turned off by sub men, and this would be one of the most horrible ways of finding out he's sub. Honestly he'd have a better chance if he sprung the gag and expected me to wear it. I still wouldn't without a conversation to determine limits, safe word and so on, and if I didn't feel that sort of dynamic with him, but it could theoretically work. Walking in on him wearing that stuff and expecting me to go Miss Whiplash on him, ugh, yuck, horrible, no no no.

itsanothernamechangeone · 16/11/2025 21:08

Who are the 2% of people who think OP is being unreasonable?! Maybe PM her and ask for his number. One of you could be the next in line to sit of the mask

Chichz · 16/11/2025 21:08

BunnyLake · 16/11/2025 20:50

I’m so vanilla I don’t understand this 🤦‍♀️

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I am exactly the same. Cannot picture this at all and don't want to Google 🤣

I hope I don't ever get divorced because I don't think I'd cut it in today's dating world. 🤪

itsanothernamechangeone · 16/11/2025 21:07

APC303 · 16/11/2025 20:40

Probably something muffled/slightly gaspy

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😂😂😂😂😂

EveryKneeShallBow · 16/11/2025 21:06

Anyone else old enough to be reminded of this?

BeMellowAquaSquid · 16/11/2025 21:04

APC303 · 16/11/2025 20:40

Probably something muffled/slightly gaspy

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😂😂😂😂

ItWasnaMeGuv · 16/11/2025 21:02

It is a red flag. He is far too interested in porn, I surmise. It will only get more extreme I fear. Run.

CoffeeLipstickKeys · 16/11/2025 21:02

LilyTheLD77 · 16/11/2025 20:17

It really does depend on what it was.

If he was dressed as a schoolgirl, then run.

If he was in Man U pyjamas then .. well also run for even more obvious reasons.

Ha! I like your humour and wise advice. Ditto if it’s arsenal pyjamas he must be a fuckin sicko

BunnyLake · 16/11/2025 21:01

Soontobe60 · 16/11/2025 21:00

That’s even worse!!!

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Yes talk about off with the old, on with the new.

FieldInWhichFucksAreGrownIsBarren · 16/11/2025 21:00

BunnyLake · 16/11/2025 20:57

I’m feeling somewhat embarrassed at my naivete. 🫣 I’m also for some reason picturing Alan Partridge sprawled on the bed 😄

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Don't be embarrassed!! Not everyone does face sitting despite what others might believe.
The Alan Partridge vision is most likely spot on tbf!

Soontobe60 · 16/11/2025 21:00

India87 · 16/11/2025 20:26

Yes, he has been clear that he and his ex were very open with things, and he said after this happened that he needs to try to move on from that mindset and start afresh, which he says is hard because they were together a long time.

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That’s even worse!!!

Studyunder · 16/11/2025 20:58

MannersAreAll · 16/11/2025 20:09

Nothing sexual should ever be sprung on anyone.

Tbh even if the items were something I liked I'd still be very tempted to end the relationship based on the lack of discussion, and ultimately the lack of consent.

This!

Thistlesg · 16/11/2025 20:57

I’m sure this will be a funny story one day op but honestly wtf was he thinking? I can’t believe he didn’t gauge your interest in that sort of thing before doing that

BunnyLake · 16/11/2025 20:57

FieldInWhichFucksAreGrownIsBarren · 16/11/2025 20:51

Sorry but this actually made me laugh 🤣🤣

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I’m feeling somewhat embarrassed at my naivete. 🫣 I’m also for some reason picturing Alan Partridge sprawled on the bed 😄

Beefjerky · 16/11/2025 20:56

It’s your first weekend away together, you came out of the bathroom and he’s wearing some kind of gag mask, with a sex toy attached??? I can’t even….my fanny literally clamped shut at the mere thought of that!
What happened to some champagne and chocolates?
Jesus, I am not sure whether I’d laugh or cry, but I’d definitely get rid! A GAG MASK????

Millytante · 16/11/2025 20:54

India87 · 16/11/2025 20:23

That it was for my benefit and he thought I’d have liked it

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Yikes.
Honestly, sometimes think back fondly to the bad old days when women were just expected to be permanently up for a shag instead of now, when blokes expect women to all be mad keen on a wide range of kinks, anal sex, and whatever else they were brought up to regard as basic fornication, after watching porn from a tender age.