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First night away with new BF, was he unreasonable

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India87 · 16/11/2025 20:02

As above - would you expect your partner to tell you if they were going to be bringing ‘kink’ items? Or is it appropriate to find out by walking into the bedroom after a bath and finding said items being worn?

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India87 · 16/11/2025 20:23

SunnyDolly · 16/11/2025 20:22

What did he say???

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That it was for my benefit and he thought I’d have liked it

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Tedster08 · 16/11/2025 20:23

Just seen what it was - I’d have run out straight away!

BeMellowAquaSquid · 16/11/2025 20:23

pinkyredrose · 16/11/2025 20:20

What was he wearing? A simple cock ring - no biggie, a full on leather torturers outfit with SS regalia - might need to throw this one back.

Snorted at this 😂😂😂😂

SunnyDolly · 16/11/2025 20:22

India87 · 16/11/2025 20:19

It was a mask with a sort of gag/toy on it. My reaction was to say WTF rather than laugh at the time.

What did he say???

Oldgreeneyedone · 16/11/2025 20:22

Oh, you have brightened up my day 🤣🤣🤣.. maybe have a long hard think if you want to see him again..A bit of prior warning would have been good but I would also have said wtf..

Figleafpants · 16/11/2025 20:21

India87 · 16/11/2025 20:19

It was a mask with a sort of gag/toy on it. My reaction was to say WTF rather than laugh at the time.

Nope. Thats the kind of thing that should be discussed first.

pinkyredrose · 16/11/2025 20:20

What was he wearing? A simple cock ring - no biggie, a full on leather torturers outfit with SS regalia - might need to throw this one back.

Sillysoggyspaniel · 16/11/2025 20:19

Greggsit · 16/11/2025 20:18

It has to depend on how kinky, surely? A feather, fine. The whole chicken....

Particularly like this given your username 😂

LoudSnoringDog · 16/11/2025 20:19

Like what items???

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India87 · 16/11/2025 20:19

It was a mask with a sort of gag/toy on it. My reaction was to say WTF rather than laugh at the time.

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Greggsit · 16/11/2025 20:18

It has to depend on how kinky, surely? A feather, fine. The whole chicken....

Gettingbysomehow · 16/11/2025 20:17

I'd leave then and there. Where is the consent in this scenario? Not to mention I am not into kink at all.

ACatAsleepInYourHat · 16/11/2025 20:17

Did he happen to have a couple of cock rings “accidentally” fall out of his pocket, op?

LilyTheLD77 · 16/11/2025 20:17

It really does depend on what it was.

If he was dressed as a schoolgirl, then run.

If he was in Man U pyjamas then .. well also run for even more obvious reasons.

ICantBeDoingWithThat · 16/11/2025 20:16

Did you laugh? 🫣

GarlicBreadStan · 16/11/2025 20:16

Kink is fantastic. As long as all parties are consenting (and enthusiastically consenting at that!).

It should never just be sprung on someone without prior discussion.

londongirl12 · 16/11/2025 20:14

So you’d never spoken about anything like that before so it came as a total surprise?

Pollqueen · 16/11/2025 20:14

Agree, depends on the kink 🤔

BeMellowAquaSquid · 16/11/2025 20:14

I’d definitely expect a heads up to a gimp suit as above 😂 intrigued as to said wear 🤔

Jeschara · 16/11/2025 20:13

No, it would put me off.

grumpygrape · 16/11/2025 20:13

Photo or it didn't happen 🤭

Calendulaaria · 16/11/2025 20:13

Wow, how awful. Some men are just gross.

DaisyChain505 · 16/11/2025 20:13

Nothing sexual should ever just be sprung on someone. Especially something that isn’t the norm.

Consent and communication is everything.

firstofallimadelight · 16/11/2025 20:13

No things like that should be discussed not surprised with on the night.

apostrophewoman · 16/11/2025 20:12

Sillysoggyspaniel · 16/11/2025 20:10

Depends on what it was. A blindfold, fine. Full on gimp suit, yeah I'd like a head's up.

🤣🤣🤣

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