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First night away with new BF, was he unreasonable

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India87 · 16/11/2025 20:02

As above - would you expect your partner to tell you if they were going to be bringing ‘kink’ items? Or is it appropriate to find out by walking into the bedroom after a bath and finding said items being worn?

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Laura95167 · 16/11/2025 20:54

Ok... im going to do it... can you give an example? How "kink" are we talking? Feather tickler or whole chicken?

Though in answer to your Qn id have expected notice before something was presented to me

Apologies, just read more of your comments but cant delete. Yes a fetish mask and "gag" should be discussed - and a new one bought tbh. Id defo have laughed then left. For me nothing is less sexy than the embarrassment of walking into that unexpectedly, I think even if it was my thing id be so startled id have to laugh. He defo should have considered how to introduce this better

Takingbackmylife · 16/11/2025 20:53

I didn’t even know these masks existed but yes wow I’d totally have the ick! So creepy!

SconehengeRevenge · 16/11/2025 20:52

grumpygrape · 16/11/2025 20:13

Photo or it didn't happen 🤭

Edited

Oh for the laugh emoji again

FieldInWhichFucksAreGrownIsBarren · 16/11/2025 20:51

BunnyLake · 16/11/2025 20:50

I’m so vanilla I don’t understand this 🤦‍♀️

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Sorry but this actually made me laugh 🤣🤣

nocoolnamesleft · 16/11/2025 20:50

NannyOggsScones · 16/11/2025 20:49

what on earth did he think you were going to do - just come out the bathroom and hop on board?

i don’t really want to ask this but why did it have a condom on it?

It implies that the filthy toad hadn't even had the courtesy to buy a new toy, but was using one he'd previously used with a different woman.

FieldInWhichFucksAreGrownIsBarren · 16/11/2025 20:50

Just when I think I've fucking heard it all...

I would also have said what the fuck and then hot footed it out of there.

On the plus side he's given you a fantastic tale to share with your bestie, you'll laugh about this-I promise.

BunnyLake · 16/11/2025 20:50

pinkfondu · 16/11/2025 20:25

As in for you to sit on?

thats unacceptable

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I’m so vanilla I don’t understand this 🤦‍♀️

NannyOggsScones · 16/11/2025 20:49

what on earth did he think you were going to do - just come out the bathroom and hop on board?

i don’t really want to ask this but why did it have a condom on it?

CelestialGazer · 16/11/2025 20:49

Idontjetwashthefucker · 16/11/2025 20:35

She has said what the item was

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Yes sorry, the problem with commenting on a thread which is moving so quickly. Definitely YANBU (ie the OP) given the new info.

Oldgreeneyedone · 16/11/2025 20:47

Not the same but once I got sent a pic ,from a boyfriend I liked and had already been with,of a pair of sheer underpants he wanted to wear!!!I decided to never saw him again after that as I found his kink gross... but I can laugh now

vitalityvix · 16/11/2025 20:47

Jesus fucking Christ I think my life would flash before my eyes! Totally inappropriate to introduce something like that without talking about it first. I’d be out of the relationship.

ICantBeDoingWithThat · 16/11/2025 20:47

😮

Figleafpants · 16/11/2025 20:45

India87 · 16/11/2025 20:40

Eww I didn’t even think of that. It had ‘protection’ on it thinking back 😷

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Ewwwwww it was the same mask he used with his ex wasnt it?

🤮

Oldgreeneyedone · 16/11/2025 20:45

OP can you laugh about it now,now that you are not in the same room as him?

LilyTheLD77 · 16/11/2025 20:43

He was wearing nothing but a mask with a dildo for a nose that had a condom on it and he honestly thought you'd like that?

Are you sure this wasn't for a YouTube video / art project?

Tedster08 · 16/11/2025 20:42

LingeringDogFart · 16/11/2025 20:36

Nothing. He had his mouth full.

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😂

Cantbloodyrememberthenameonthread · 16/11/2025 20:42

I’m sorry but I’m howling at this 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 more about his train of thought than anything. He thought he ATE with the idea. How embarrassing!!!

Happyjoe · 16/11/2025 20:41

I'd probably laugh, a heck of a lot - at him - for being so utterly presumptuous, then tell him to sod off out of my life.

Nah, deffo a turn off. Sorry OP, a shame.

Zucker · 16/11/2025 20:41

Just goes to show that for some of these idiots it matters not who the woman is, so long as she has a pulse. Girl shaped therefore next girlfriend.

APC303 · 16/11/2025 20:41

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 16/11/2025 20:33

Couldn't really make it out but it sounded a bit like...

"Mmmm bmmmy ffgh ssdd mmm gg Drub cjhgt ssshk. Ghut buby twee?"

You should ask him to take his gag out.

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Ha, beat me to it 😂

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India87 · 16/11/2025 20:40

Childanddogmama · 16/11/2025 20:35

Oh another one who thinks that just because one previous partner liked something all future ones will too!! He should have worked on finding out what you would have enjoyed exploring together. God I hope he bought this mask new!!

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Eww I didn’t even think of that. It had ‘protection’ on it thinking back 😷

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APC303 · 16/11/2025 20:40

SunnyDolly · 16/11/2025 20:22

What did he say???

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Probably something muffled/slightly gaspy

backslashruby · 16/11/2025 20:39

Whereismyfleeceblanket · 16/11/2025 20:29

Shame there wasn't hand cuffs.

You could have tied him to the bed and gone home. Ltb.

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TomatoSandwiches · 16/11/2025 20:39

He must think women are a monolith and lovely how he tried to make it a you problem with " well me and the ex were just open about this stuff "
Open doesn't mean surprising your newish partner with kink gear on a random weekend in the hopes she goes along with it because HE has decided you should.

What a grim piece of shit, glad you're chucking this one back, sleazy sod.

crazeekat · 16/11/2025 20:38

LingeringDogFart · 16/11/2025 20:36

Nothing. He had his mouth full.

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🤣🤣🤣🤣😆😆😆😆but eugh 🤢🤢🤢