To think a lot of MN are ableist?

@Kirbert2
I find attitudes like yours and in general the UK's quite culturally different.

In Denmark euthanasia has been performed up to age 3 on profoundly disabled children.

"A poster replied that the OP should keep an eye on that he may turn into a sexual offender when he’s older."

I'm pregnant with a little boy. This information is useful to me because if I do come across this type of individual, I'll be having a few choice words that may be followed by a middle finger, or two. What a plank. Boys/men are not sexual predators automatically by having a penis. It's usually women who have this line of thinking and it's seriously pathetic.

Not to derail the thread but I’d be interested to hear some examples of ageism on here? Just out of interest

In that thread people were responding to the OP who didn’t give a shit that her son was repeatedly hugging and hurting a little girl who didn’t want him to touch her “it’s just a hug who cares” “it means he likes her” “I won’t try to tell him to stop”.

Yes the sex offender comment was extreme but it was a reaction to the OP’s terrible attitude, not the child.

In that instance though the 4 year old wasnt accepting a no from the little girl he was hurting with his rough hugs. The girl was getting upset and the teachers and the OP/mum were not taking it seriously. Every child needs to learn to respect someone's no to physical touch. The OP was gloating about how the teachers were on her side and she wouldn't be telling her son to leave the little girl alone. The sexual assault comment was more about the OP's behaviour and her failure to teach her son.

Yet there seems to be different rules for comments when it involves disabled people.

I've reported comments before and nothing gets done so I've given up reporting them.

Ableism and ageism both thrive on here

@Sweetlifeofyours oh that is bad, especially when most children who are not ND or disabled in any way go through a hitting/biting/personal space issue. It's not ideal, but they grow out of it with guidance. And the guidance part is key - I don't think anyone should be annoyed that a child (disabled or not) is getting things wrong as long as all steps are taken to keep others safe and help the child learn. But so often (and I have been on the receiving end of this and it fucked me off royally) outrageous behaviour from a child goes uncorrected or even unsupervised, and then when someone has to step in the parent suddenly appears shouting about how their child is autistic and people should be sympathic. But that is down to terrible parenting.

I mean obviously that's a prime example of a comment that needs reporting. MN is reactively moderated.

I think MN reflects what society actually thinks, but sometimes doesn't say in real life (people are more candid online).

You notice rude comments about disability because it is a cause close to you. I notice comments about another thing I feel strongly about. If they go beyond the pale I report them, and so should you.

But if you are talking about differing viewpoints on societal issues (rather than nasty comments to/at a specific poster or their family) then I think everyone should be able to say what they think within the bounds of the law.

I mean there's an active thread at the moment with one poster suggesting that babies who are born severely disabled should be euthanised at birth in the pretence of lack of quality of life but in reality, it is to save money. At least one person has agreed with it as well.

Some of the comments on here in regards to disabled people, including children, are disgusting.

I think it's hard to understand unless you've lived it. My dc have ADHD. I now realise you can't just be stricter or have clearer boundaries etc. it just doesn't work. Their brains do not process info in the same way as your compliant neurotypical child.

But I probably would have made those suggestions pre-dc. "Have you tried putting clear boundaries in place by XYZ" "why are you allowing them to run about all over the place"

I think in general posters are trying to help, they just don't get it.

I'd say most people are compassionate. But one child's needs and wants doesn't trump anothers, and that applies particularly to body autonomy.