Ashamed of the way DS is behaving

@Fountofwisdom you want someone's career to end just because you've decided they're having too much fun? You sound very bitter.

YABU. I thought you were going to say that they were hassling people or being sexist. What you describe just sounds like high spirits. You must be easily intimidated if you'd be scared by a girl turning cartwheels and some people popping champagne. What a fuss about nothing!

You are lucky your children allow you to follow them. Mine don’t .

This is the post

www.facebook.com/share/p/1DDUaLPvX1/

Why? Is there an age limit on fooling about and having fun?

Where's the lack of integrity in what he's doing?

You mean a woman doing cartwheels on a train platform, unless OP’s 29 year old son is dating a girl? That doesn’t have to be intimidating but a train platform is not the place for tomfoolery by adults, nevermind kids which is bad enough.

I’m a middle-aged woman in London and avoid using the tube late at night because of obnoxious morons like the OP’s son and his friends. Playing music out loud, boorish, noisy and dangerous behaviour - it’s very irritating for other passengers and can be intimidating when it’s a group of them.

BTW, you’re not allowed to have open containers of alcohol on TfL public transport, and it’s the same in other towns and cities. Hopefully, the little oik will get fined or nicked by the BTP for drunk & disorderly at some point and that will fk up his legal career.

Nothing on social media is fully private.
Just mention "oh i read that nothing on social media is fully private. Is your company happy if that video gets out?"

Well, he hasn't changed just because you now know more about him.
You can't unsee what you have seen but you can unfollow to not see anything else that might upset you.

Your DS and his friends sound like obnoxious dicks, I would be embarrassed too. 29 is far too old for that kind of behaviour. And he’s a solicitor? Only a matter of time before his drunken japes get him into a scrape that could have professional consequences.

If it was my son, I’d definitely be having a serious word.

So many people crawling out from under their rocks to clutch their pearls in public

It's a train platform cartwheel and some champagne, not molly off the Berghain toilet floor.

I’ve done my fair share of idiotic things when drunk and luckily never filmed. However, you’re totally right I was 18-21 at the time

No, he's not a 'young lad'. A young lad is someone aged 16-20.
This is someone who is 29 and is well and truly an adult, even if he isn't acting as one.
He needs to grow up and start developing some integrity.

Hes nearly 30. Time to stop acting the clown, methinks

I think you’re massively over reacting, and anyone travelling in London on public transport will be used to far, far worse. Even when travelling alone I like watching the groups of youngsters having innocent fun and enjoying their twenties, we’ve all been there.

This.
Twenty nine is way too old to be behaving in this way.

Does seem strange behaviour to advertise publicly online for a 29 yr old solicitor.....
Is his instagram public ?

Did you behave perfectly in your twenties OP, with total awareness of everyone around you? I very much doubt it.

The comments on here are borderline ridiculous IMO - he’s a young lad in his 20’s out with his mates - his behaviour is totally normal.

I am over 60 now and retired but what I have observed over the years is the rise of the "kidult" I dont know who coined that but its very accurate. Young people who used to act daft in their teens used to have calmed down by about early 20s and settled down got on the property ladder etc. Now it seems that many are getting into their 30s and still behaving as if they were teenagers. I know that I would be horrified if my kids were still acting like silly teens when approaching 30 😬

I would find it irritating from a 18 yo but be more understanding. 29 is way to old not to be aware he is being an obnoxious twat.

As others have said, I think it would be best to say something about his behaviour isn't acceptable. I'm not sure "intimidating" is the main issue, it's just plainly disrespectful to everyone else around him.

I would also unfollow him if he continues to post things like this.

I don’t think you are. I’m nearly 50 and this thread is honestly making me rethink MN. People out living it up being judged by older women on the internet actually feels like a modern day version of church shaming from the 1950s. It is actually more uncomfortable reading that I participate in these conversations than the actually 20 somethings out living their lives, being annoying and boisterous but so what. Being part of the gossipy, judgy older woman class sits far more uncomfortably with me. I’d prefer to be living it large with the 20 somethings except my hip would give out or something.

I hate seeing my children drunk. It just gives me the ick somehow. Especially my youngest who becomes a bit of a dick after a few drinks. Thankfully none of them drink often but it’s not nice

I agree with this. Obviously the behaviour sounds irritating but a group of 20 somethings people being a bit loud on the train and a bit drunk seems fairly normal to me and more annoying than intimidating unless they were directly interacting with others in a way that might feel threatening. .

I'd find the cartwheel alarming but more that I'd be worried a drunk person doing that on a tube platform might really hurt themselves or someone else but if they only did it once I wouldn't find it too bad in fact it might make me a bit wistful for when i was younger and did some bloody idiotic things.

I appreciate I may be unusual on this though

To me it would make sense to disagree or disapprove of what he's doing (although there are much worse things he could be doing), but not to be ashamed. You didn't make him behave like this, he decided to independently as an adult. You have absolutely nothing to reproach yourself for.