Step daughters 18th meal

I know I said we don’t get along, we don’t have any bond which is understandable she has only been a child who didn’t chose this. But she does not have a bond with anybody. She is very shy and quiet and rarely talks to her dad (I don’t know her relationship with her mum). She treats me the same as every family member; with contempt. So what I’m trying to say is, we have no bond but it’s the same as her dad. So playing happy families the two of them just doesn’t sit right.

Yeah it just seems strange to be going out the two of them with my step daughter when they both have partners, why not the four of us go out?

It’s not for you to decide that her relationship with her parents “doesn’t sit right”. This comment makes you sound really childish.

That is an annoying comment for him to make. So the two people that have given her a split and dysfunctional family get to take her out and pretend they have been wonderful family! Brilliant!

I know I said we don’t get along, we don’t have any bond which is understandable she has only been a child who didn’t chose this. But she does not have a bond with anybody. She is very shy and quiet and rarely talks to her dad (I don’t know her relationship with her mum). She treats me the same as every family member; with contempt. So what I’m trying to say is, we have no bond but it’s the same as her dad. So playing happy families the two of them just doesn’t sit right.

I know I said we don’t get along, we don’t have any bond which is understandable she has only been a child who didn’t chose this. But she does not have a bond with anybody. She is very shy and quiet and rarely talks to her dad (I don’t know her relationship with her mum). She treats me the same as every family member; with contempt. So what I’m trying to say is, we have no bond but it’s the same as her dad. So playing happy families the two of them just doesn’t sit right.

I know I said we don’t get along, we don’t have any bond which is understandable she has only been a child who didn’t chose this. But she does not have a bond with anybody. She is very shy and quiet and rarely talks to her dad (I don’t know her relationship with her mum). She treats me the same as every family member; with contempt. So what I’m trying to say is, we have no bond but it’s the same as her dad. So playing happy families the two of them just doesn’t sit right.

I know I said we don’t get along, we don’t have any bond which is understandable she has only been a child who didn’t chose this. But she does not have a bond with anybody. She is very shy and quiet and rarely talks to her dad (I don’t know her relationship with her mum). She treats me the same as every family member; with contempt. So what I’m trying to say is, we have no bond but it’s the same as her dad. So playing happy families the two of them just doesn’t sit right.

You said you don’t get on with her mother? I imagine the whole scenario would just stress your SD out (speaking from experience!). With the greatest respect, it’s about your SD, not you. Just take her out with you and her DF, or even just you and make a nice day of it.

I know I said we don’t get along, we don’t have any bond which is understandable she has only been a child who didn’t chose this. But she does not have a bond with anybody. She is very shy and quiet and rarely talks to her dad (I don’t know her relationship with her mum). She treats me the same as every family member; with contempt. So what I’m trying to say is, we have no bond but it’s the same as her dad. So playing happy families the two of them just doesn’t sit right.

Yeah it just seems strange to be going out the two of them with my step daughter when they both have partners, why not the four of us go out?

When did society change so much ..that people think it is ok for a child to be rude , dismissive,and ungrateful towards an adult...what happened to manners ,do we not teach that any more at home ???

Part of the first wives club ?

Don't be so deliberately stupid. You know damn well what the OP meant. Just because she's a stepmum doesn't mean she is simply a fucking skivvy who has to take on responsibility for all the domestic shit. The one to blame here is the sperm donor who should have taken responsibility for HIS daughter rather than dumping the child related grunt work on the new woman. Sadly some men do this, cheered on, aided and abetted by the squealing handmaidens of misogyny some of whom have popped up like bindweed on this thread. The OP simply should have been welcoming, kind and courteous to her stepdaughter but left daddy dearest to tidy up after his child, to do the school run etc. Instead the OP does the work while the bearer of the flaccid dick wafts around pretending to be father of the year. No the OP doesn't need to be invited not does she need a medal for not "throwing a mega tantrum" as you spouted in your other hyperbolic post. The OP has misplaced her frustrations in this case. There's nothing wrong with just the two parents and their daughter having celebratory meal. But the OP does have a problem. With her husband who has dismissed her efforts with the DSD. She didn't need to do that stuff. Not her child after all. Daddy dearest should have expressed appreciation either by acknowledging her unseen work instead of ignoring the fact he's been able to slack off. If parents are so keen to tell stepmums how unimportant they are then they should be delighted to do all the work such as clearing up mess made by the child, taking care of their child, ferrying their child. Or pay someone a professional wage to do it. But don't expect someone else to do that work for free for you and your offspring without basic appreciation. They don't have to fucking do it.

thanks. I know she didn’t have a choice so I’ve never forced a relationship on her, I’ve given her anything she wants but she didn’t want it which is fine.
i just feel like I’ve been a free nanny for 9 years.

You can be raised by people who are not biologically related to you , you do know that right ?