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To drop my kids off at partying neighbours at 6am tomorrow

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Cheepcheepcheep · 15/11/2025 22:37

I won’t do this (I think!) because it wouldn’t be good for the kids but ideas welcome.

My 3yo and 5yo couldn’t sleep 2 weeks ago thanks to a wild party held by our student neighbours (sound system, professional security, hundreds spilling into the street).

DH is away with work this weekend and they are having ‘pres’. In my day this meant shots in the house and games. Now apparently it’s 50+ people shouting and screaming in the garden.

I knocked on their door earlier and explained that, we know we live near a uni campus, some parties are expected. But having another huge party 2 weeks later and keeping my tired preschoolers up (with no notice, I’d have taken them to my mum and dads had I known!) is unacceptable. I said I was going to be up with them at 5.30am (as usual) tomorrow and threatened to drop them over while they’re nursing their hangovers.

Obviously I won’t drop 3 & 5 year olds in a house of hungover students at 6am but AIBU for being tempted?!

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OnNaturesCourse · 15/11/2025 23:21

Just another jokey thought, could you sign up their address to get some free noise canceling demos from different companies? 😂🤘🏻 Or sign them up to hearing loss companies websites to get the crappy junk mail sent to them, or insomnia help ones, AA? 😂

FreyjaOfTheNorth · 15/11/2025 23:20

Cheepcheepcheep · 15/11/2025 22:41

Well that too. But I quite like the idea of banging on their door anyway!

Council don’t care. Landlord is some conglomerate offshore. Tempted to report them to the university who are fairly good but don’t want to screw their degrees, just want to get them to understand the impact of their decisions.

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Report them for what? Since when was having a party illegal?

Duechristmas · 15/11/2025 23:18

We had a set of neighbours known for their amazing parties that often went on to 6am.
There was no escape from the sound system.
Another of the neighbours would always try to sell revenge by mowing the lawn at 8am on a Sunday.
I can categorically say two wrongs don't make a right!

I would also be keeping a record of frequency, recording noise levels and complaining to the university.

OnNaturesCourse · 15/11/2025 23:18

KitchenDancing · 15/11/2025 23:09

They’ll sleep through it.

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It was just supposed to be funny 🙄

But honestly OP, get your kids out being kids first thing in the morning even better if they are slightly grumpy, tired kids. Blast your music at silly AM as a lovely wake up call... You need to show that life continues even on a hangover and hours sleep when they live where they do. Continue to be civil when speaking with them if/when they are being antisocial with the noise etc - keep in mind we were all daft young folk at some point but also that everyone needs to learn to be respectful at some point. Definitely get some evidence and go to the Uni and police. Oh, and amazon do great noise cancelling headphones that I have been able to slip onto my little ones to keep them asleep during fireworks etc and I've found audio books played loudish is sometimes enough to direct kiddos attention to that instead of the party noise (and eventually be able to drift off having something else to focus on) Even maybe wireless headphones to listen to depending on kids ages.

Good luck. 🍀

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Cheepcheepcheep · 15/11/2025 23:18

TheSmallAssassin · 15/11/2025 23:10

I have heard that, in our University city, you can ring University Security and they will send someone round in situations like this.

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Surrey uni do have this, but it’s been cut to the bone. And in fairness, they only come over post 11pm. Which is fine as a one off, but it’s now seemingly fortnightly and it’s not fair on my 3yo and 5yo to be disrupted every 2 weeks because they want to scream and have a baseline (parties and drinks fine but this is a lot )

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Ruby0707 · 15/11/2025 23:16

I would suggest you need to keep a log and report to the council as noise pollution.

MatchaMatchaMatcha · 15/11/2025 23:10

Report them to the university as well

TheSmallAssassin · 15/11/2025 23:10

I have heard that, in our University city, you can ring University Security and they will send someone round in situations like this.

KitchenDancing · 15/11/2025 23:09

OnNaturesCourse · 15/11/2025 22:50

Next door neighbors? Get the kids out into the garden after breakfast, wrapped up warm with the noisiest toys they have. Play loud games of tag and whats the time Mr Wolf, encourage lots of excitement and squeals.

They’ll sleep through it.

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Cheepcheepcheep · 15/11/2025 23:09

CautiousLurker2 · 15/11/2025 23:02

I live next town along, also with a univeristy college, so feel for you. My DD is in halls in London and shares an apartment with students that are similarly minded to your neighbours and who are still up at 530 choosing to go clubbing and bring home 20 or so drunk randoms who scream/shout/and play music all night in the kitchen (next to her room) thurs-sunday. She is on her knees. Some of her flatmates travel home to Birmingham at the weekend as it’s the only way to escape and the uni do nothing.

No idea why [this minority of] students have no consideration for others.

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Ah. Town starting with an F? I went to college there. I might be delusional, we enjoyed a night out at the Maltings, but no way would we have considered disturbing the peace like this.

Its quiet now but I didn’t get my 3yo down until 9.30pm and so I am terrified of tomorrow 😬

We’ve lived near to student for years, they’ve always been fab, this lot just don’t seem to give a shit about anyone else, it’s horrid.

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JudgeBread · 15/11/2025 23:06

Okiedokie123 · 15/11/2025 23:02

I’d be tempted to repeatedly bang on their door every morning at 7am until they get the idea that you can be annoying too. Each morning when they open the door I’d be tempted to breezily sing”wake up it’s a beautiful morning…….”
and other splendid morning songs.
“Morning has broken……”
Im sure there are more!
maybe whilst standing their with a tray of breakfast pastries lol.

Don't forget a tinkly laugh to add to the absolute douchebaggery 🙄

LadyHexham · 15/11/2025 23:05

I had partying students next door, in a terraced house. Not just once.
Maria Callas, 6am at full blast with the speakers directed at their wall did the trick.

CautiousLurker2 · 15/11/2025 23:02

Cheepcheepcheep · 15/11/2025 22:44

Apparently was a friend of theirs who had a badge and was willing to do it.

Happy to dox myself - I live in a suburb of Guildford near to Surrey uni.

I live next town along, also with a univeristy college, so feel for you. My DD is in halls in London and shares an apartment with students that are similarly minded to your neighbours and who are still up at 530 choosing to go clubbing and bring home 20 or so drunk randoms who scream/shout/and play music all night in the kitchen (next to her room) thurs-sunday. She is on her knees. Some of her flatmates travel home to Birmingham at the weekend as it’s the only way to escape and the uni do nothing.

No idea why [this minority of] students have no consideration for others.

Okiedokie123 · 15/11/2025 23:02

I’d be tempted to repeatedly bang on their door every morning at 7am until they get the idea that you can be annoying too. Each morning when they open the door I’d be tempted to breezily sing”wake up it’s a beautiful morning…….”
and other splendid morning songs.
“Morning has broken……”
Im sure there are more!
maybe whilst standing their with a tray of breakfast pastries lol.

OnNaturesCourse · 15/11/2025 23:02

Have your children kick a ball or similar into their garden, knock on their door to get it back...and repeat, for ages. Tell the kids their garden is the goal in the football game 😂

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Cheepcheepcheep · 15/11/2025 23:00

ShamrockShenanigans · 15/11/2025 22:54

FWIW I did call the police on the party 2 weeks ago, but obviously they had more pressing concerns.

You and presumably your neighbours reported to the police that there were hundreds of partygoers spilling out onto the street from residential property, and they didn't attend?

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Yep! Genuinely - we’re on a WhatsApp group and were chatting while reporting (our 60 something neighbour is our cheerleader, she lives with her 90 something mum in the house she was born in!) As there was no violence, they couldn’t attend as it was antisocial not violent and they didn’t have capacity.)

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ShamrockShenanigans · 15/11/2025 22:54

Cheepcheepcheep · 15/11/2025 22:46

FWIW I did call the police on the party 2 weeks ago, but obviously they had more pressing concerns.

Tonight was ‘just’ a party but my goodwill is seriously eroded after the events of a fortnight ago.

FWIW I did call the police on the party 2 weeks ago, but obviously they had more pressing concerns.

You and presumably your neighbours reported to the police that there were hundreds of partygoers spilling out onto the street from residential property, and they didn't attend?

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Cheepcheepcheep · 15/11/2025 22:52

OnNaturesCourse · 15/11/2025 22:50

Next door neighbors? Get the kids out into the garden after breakfast, wrapped up warm with the noisiest toys they have. Play loud games of tag and whats the time Mr Wolf, encourage lots of excitement and squeals.

I really get it but even my kids (and they are loud) can’t compete with the bass of the soundsystem and drunk girl screaming

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Cheepcheepcheep · 15/11/2025 22:50

IsntItDarkOut · 15/11/2025 22:46

I might knock on their door every hour from first thing and ask them stupid questions… or take a video and report to the landlord and the uni. I’m sure the uni can get involved in students behaviour.

The temptation to send my 3yo (who has just learned what knock knock jokes are) to bore them for hours while I nap is so tempting! If only I didn’t care about my kids 😬

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OnNaturesCourse · 15/11/2025 22:50

Next door neighbors? Get the kids out into the garden after breakfast, wrapped up warm with the noisiest toys they have. Play loud games of tag and whats the time Mr Wolf, encourage lots of excitement and squeals.

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Cheepcheepcheep · 15/11/2025 22:49

We have previously had good outcomes from the uni but that was when they had a dedicated town/student liaison person. Which has obviously been cut.

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IsntItDarkOut · 15/11/2025 22:46

I might knock on their door every hour from first thing and ask them stupid questions… or take a video and report to the landlord and the uni. I’m sure the uni can get involved in students behaviour.

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Cheepcheepcheep · 15/11/2025 22:46

FWIW I did call the police on the party 2 weeks ago, but obviously they had more pressing concerns.

Tonight was ‘just’ a party but my goodwill is seriously eroded after the events of a fortnight ago.

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Whatabouterytoutery · 15/11/2025 22:46

We lived above the loudest partying neighbours who actually had young children of similar ages to your and it didn’t seem to encourage them towards sleep ever at the weekend.. You have my unbridled sympathy. It wasn’t fun.

80smonster · 15/11/2025 22:46

You need to check out Gravel Man on TikTok, he’s got shifty neighbour retaliation down pat: https://vm.tiktok.com/ZNdEqxR9s/
Could you subvert somehow and try and dial Mr Tumble onto their Bluetooth speaker, volume 100?