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To drop my kids off at partying neighbours at 6am tomorrow

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Cheepcheepcheep · 15/11/2025 22:37

I won’t do this (I think!) because it wouldn’t be good for the kids but ideas welcome.

My 3yo and 5yo couldn’t sleep 2 weeks ago thanks to a wild party held by our student neighbours (sound system, professional security, hundreds spilling into the street).

DH is away with work this weekend and they are having ‘pres’. In my day this meant shots in the house and games. Now apparently it’s 50+ people shouting and screaming in the garden.

I knocked on their door earlier and explained that, we know we live near a uni campus, some parties are expected. But having another huge party 2 weeks later and keeping my tired preschoolers up (with no notice, I’d have taken them to my mum and dads had I known!) is unacceptable. I said I was going to be up with them at 5.30am (as usual) tomorrow and threatened to drop them over while they’re nursing their hangovers.

Obviously I won’t drop 3 & 5 year olds in a house of hungover students at 6am but AIBU for being tempted?!

OP posts:
BootMaker · 16/11/2025 02:16

Difficult one.

I live in a 'student area' of a city. I live here because it's an amazing area. It's green and there are so many independent shops and businesses and it's vibrant.

I accept that there's noise, I live in a Georgian beauty of a house that's a bit tucked away, but, there's noise every day. It's the trade off.

I like the area, I accept the downsides.

I choose to live here. My house cost over a million, the students are here because it's near the University.

It's mostly fine.

coxesorangepippin · 16/11/2025 02:11

Call the police, every time.

Also, at 6am, when your kids are up, take them outside to play on the front street, outside the student's house.

Encourage high jinks.and screaming

QuirkyHorse · 16/11/2025 02:07

kodakpp3 · 16/11/2025 00:00

Do they have an external meter box? If so there will be the main house fuse in it. They are sealed in with an easily cut wire.

Put all your own lights out. Dress in dark clothes. Quietly sneak round. If the box is locked your key will fit it, they’re all the same. O

Snip the wire and pull the fuse out. Depending on your feelings - leave it nearby or dispose of it.

Silence and darkness will reign.

You could add to the confusion by complaining that your lights have gone out too.

They won’t know what has happened, they’ll think either the PA has blown it or there is a power cut.

Wow!
I wouldn't be encouraging anyone to tamper with electricity, joke or not, this is ridiculous advice.

FunnyOrca · 16/11/2025 01:59

My student neighbours hosted pres tonight too. They do it fairly irregularly (less than monthly) and it’s the commotion of them going out and then returning that grates for me.

But I don’t begrudge them. We don’t hear a peep from them otherwise. Yours sounds more difficult! Given you are estimating the guest list at 100s, I would definitely let the university know.

Hope tomorrow isn’t a complete train wreck for you 💖

Isittimeformynapyet · 16/11/2025 01:34

Hoipers · 15/11/2025 23:24

My cousin had this issue.
Herself and a couple of neighbours started recording the parties and drunken racket at 2-3am.
Rang the police, and sent it to the police.
They sent it to the President of the university and the media.
It went viral.
After years of bullshit and promises from the university, it was the media attention that did the trick.
It was sorted.

Start video taping and send it into the local media naming the institution they attend.
Nothing to lose.

Herself and a couple of neighbours started recording the parties and drunken racket at 2-3am.

Herself did that?

Isittimeformynapyet · 16/11/2025 01:29

Cheepcheepcheep · 15/11/2025 23:09

Ah. Town starting with an F? I went to college there. I might be delusional, we enjoyed a night out at the Maltings, but no way would we have considered disturbing the peace like this.

Its quiet now but I didn’t get my 3yo down until 9.30pm and so I am terrified of tomorrow 😬

We’ve lived near to student for years, they’ve always been fab, this lot just don’t seem to give a shit about anyone else, it’s horrid.

Edited

I had a few rowdy nights at the William Cobbett, but that was decades ago.

bingewatchingnetflix · 16/11/2025 01:13

Why are you living in a predominately student area? If you care for peace and quiet then I’d consider moving. Think about the energy you give to this.. is it worth it for you and your family?

jbm16 · 16/11/2025 01:02

Surely complaining to landlord or letting agency is the best thing to do?

Hedgehogbrown · 16/11/2025 00:52

FreyjaOfTheNorth · 15/11/2025 23:20

Report them for what? Since when was having a party illegal?

Noise levels. You can't make any noise you want at any time you want.

Francestein · 16/11/2025 00:30

Here you go @Cheepcheepcheep Push your speakers up against the wall on their side and start playing this 10 hour long ditty at 05:30 and go out for the day.

savannahnights · 16/11/2025 00:29

FreyjaOfTheNorth · 15/11/2025 23:20

Report them for what? Since when was having a party illegal?

For breaking the noise bylaws. Having a party is not the problem, the excessive noise is.

MatLeave · 16/11/2025 00:28

Get the tunes on full blast and let your kids have a breakfast disco. See how they like it.

IntrinsicWorth · 16/11/2025 00:10

The TikTok shaming is genius but sdo it stylishly so they can’t write you off as a fun sponge.

Students will sleep through most things but the most irritating sounds likely to get on their wicks are - something very loud at about 6:30 am every single day. Yeah, they may sleep in after benders but they will need to get up for lectures normally. Nothing more irritating than being repeatedly woken up around 45 minutes to an hour before you actually need to get up.

And then you need someone to take up playing either the recorder or the violin before school. They are both intolerable.

ChristmasSparkles1 · 16/11/2025 00:04

Get the five year old a recorder and encourage them to practice every morning.

If you find anything left in the street knock on their door and return it.

Failing that contact the council/Uni. It won’t mess up their degrees if they respond reasonably e.g don’t be so antisocial again.

kodakpp3 · 16/11/2025 00:00

Do they have an external meter box? If so there will be the main house fuse in it. They are sealed in with an easily cut wire.

Put all your own lights out. Dress in dark clothes. Quietly sneak round. If the box is locked your key will fit it, they’re all the same. O

Snip the wire and pull the fuse out. Depending on your feelings - leave it nearby or dispose of it.

Silence and darkness will reign.

You could add to the confusion by complaining that your lights have gone out too.

They won’t know what has happened, they’ll think either the PA has blown it or there is a power cut.

AnnaPhylax · 15/11/2025 23:57

Video them and start a tiktok about student neighbours in a residential street tagging the uni

kodakpp3 · 15/11/2025 23:49

Cheepcheepcheep · 15/11/2025 22:44

Apparently was a friend of theirs who had a badge and was willing to do it.

Happy to dox myself - I live in a suburb of Guildford near to Surrey uni.

If you lived in Headingley, Leeds, either of your local councillors would offer advice as who to complain to, how to prevent future upset etc.

The council, there, have a number to call in such circumstances and will turn out late at night to wind down nuisance events such as this.

KitchenDancing · 15/11/2025 23:39

OhMaria2 · 15/11/2025 23:34

One word

Recorders.

Have you ever had a heavy night drinking? I remember my students days well and nothing would wake us.

Also, not fair for other neighbours who may be trying to sleep after a rough night too.

MungoforPresident · 15/11/2025 23:37

Cheepcheepcheep · 15/11/2025 22:41

Well that too. But I quite like the idea of banging on their door anyway!

Council don’t care. Landlord is some conglomerate offshore. Tempted to report them to the university who are fairly good but don’t want to screw their degrees, just want to get them to understand the impact of their decisions.

You just floated the very idea I would have recommended. You need to contact the university, give the address and detail the problem.

The uni won't let this affect their degrees at all, but they will get a stern talking to.

Universities highly value good neighbourhood relations, and hate to hear that students are causing issues in the community; this bad behaviour adversely affects how much housing (and in which areas) is made available to students in future.

Don't think twice about it; they will deal with it if they can find out who lives there.

Flippineck67 · 15/11/2025 23:36

I would let the kids outside in the garden when they wake up. Buy an annoying whistle/recorder for them to blow.

The Barney 'I love you' song on repeat works wonders at dispersing noisy drunks outside our bedroom window. Playing it 10 times in a row really works. Get the kids to join in.

I'd warn the students that every time their noise disturbs your kids then they will get disturbed by your kids in the morning.

OhMaria2 · 15/11/2025 23:34

KitchenDancing · 15/11/2025 23:09

They’ll sleep through it.

One word

Recorders.

Okiedokie123 · 15/11/2025 23:34

@JudgeBread obviously I would be no more likely to actually do that than the op is actually likely to turn up on their doorstep early doors with her children!
I have awful neighbours on the estate at the back of mine. Sadly I’ve never yet thought of a suitable way to get them to quit being so selfish. Being kept awake due to people partying until morning is awful. It drives a person to consider all sorts of ways of getting them to pipe down. Just knocking on and having a word…… doesn’t work! They don’t care.
@Cheepcheepcheep you have my utmost sympathy x

ChimpanzeeThatMonkeyNews · 15/11/2025 23:26

She’s joking. She isn’t really going to do any of those things.
She’s just getting it off her chest.

Hoipers · 15/11/2025 23:24

My cousin had this issue.
Herself and a couple of neighbours started recording the parties and drunken racket at 2-3am.
Rang the police, and sent it to the police.
They sent it to the President of the university and the media.
It went viral.
After years of bullshit and promises from the university, it was the media attention that did the trick.
It was sorted.

Start video taping and send it into the local media naming the institution they attend.
Nothing to lose.

Denim4ever · 15/11/2025 23:22

I understand, but 5:30 wake up is unsustainable for a 5 year old and a habit to break for a younger child.