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To drop my kids off at partying neighbours at 6am tomorrow

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Cheepcheepcheep · 15/11/2025 22:37

I won’t do this (I think!) because it wouldn’t be good for the kids but ideas welcome.

My 3yo and 5yo couldn’t sleep 2 weeks ago thanks to a wild party held by our student neighbours (sound system, professional security, hundreds spilling into the street).

DH is away with work this weekend and they are having ‘pres’. In my day this meant shots in the house and games. Now apparently it’s 50+ people shouting and screaming in the garden.

I knocked on their door earlier and explained that, we know we live near a uni campus, some parties are expected. But having another huge party 2 weeks later and keeping my tired preschoolers up (with no notice, I’d have taken them to my mum and dads had I known!) is unacceptable. I said I was going to be up with them at 5.30am (as usual) tomorrow and threatened to drop them over while they’re nursing their hangovers.

Obviously I won’t drop 3 & 5 year olds in a house of hungover students at 6am but AIBU for being tempted?!

OP posts:
familyissues12345 · 16/11/2025 07:31

I would contact the Uni student services/accommodation officer, whilst they may not have security who can come out, I’m sure they will have a team who would get involved in some way. My son is at a diff uni and they regularly post on SM about antisocial behaviour in private student digs.

Also, do you have a community police team nearby? Could report it to them rather than the main police

EditorInChief · 16/11/2025 07:31

FreyjaOfTheNorth · 15/11/2025 23:20

Report them for what? Since when was having a party illegal?

For being inconsiderate fuckers. Having parties isn't illegal but annoying the shit out of your neighbours should have consequences.

nellly · 16/11/2025 07:29

Cheepcheepcheep · 15/11/2025 22:41

Well that too. But I quite like the idea of banging on their door anyway!

Council don’t care. Landlord is some conglomerate offshore. Tempted to report them to the university who are fairly good but don’t want to screw their degrees, just want to get them to understand the impact of their decisions.

Dh works in a uni. It won’t screw their degrees unless they literally break the law and get arrested for something. But it likely will get them a stern talking to about bringing the uni into disrepute.

Okthenguys · 16/11/2025 07:29

I would call the university and the police.

Againforget · 16/11/2025 07:25

I knocked on their door earlier and explained that, we know we live near a uni campus, some parties are expected. But having another huge party 2 weeks later and keeping my tired preschoolers up (with no notice, I’d have taken them to my mum and dads had I known!) is unacceptable. I said I was going to be up with them at 5.30am (as usual) tomorrow and threatened to drop them over while they’re nursing their hangov

you don’t mention their response

Againforget · 16/11/2025 07:24

Students paid for “professional security”? 🤔

themerchentofvenus · 16/11/2025 07:21

Absolutely 100% speak to the university and record the noise .

Don't worry about their degrees. The university will give them a stern warning so they wiĺl the. Hopefully not have any more parties like this!

materialgworl · 16/11/2025 07:14

Flippineck67 · 15/11/2025 23:36

I would let the kids outside in the garden when they wake up. Buy an annoying whistle/recorder for them to blow.

The Barney 'I love you' song on repeat works wonders at dispersing noisy drunks outside our bedroom window. Playing it 10 times in a row really works. Get the kids to join in.

I'd warn the students that every time their noise disturbs your kids then they will get disturbed by your kids in the morning.

And make noise for the other neighbours who will now not only deal with students but the kids too?

GehenSieweiter · 16/11/2025 07:10

Bananaandmangosmoothie · 16/11/2025 07:08

We had a group of neighbours like this for a year, partying and screaming random nights most weeks. Ignoring any requests to tone things down.

Then in the summer they sent a note through our door saying please could we be quiet and considerate for the next few weeks because they had exams. 🤣🤣🤣

And that was when you cranked up the decks, dusted down the glitter ball and invited everyone you could think of to a series of 'through the decades' garden discos, right?

Bananaandmangosmoothie · 16/11/2025 07:08

We had a group of neighbours like this for a year, partying and screaming random nights most weeks. Ignoring any requests to tone things down.

Then in the summer they sent a note through our door saying please could we be quiet and considerate for the next few weeks because they had exams. 🤣🤣🤣

Toddlerteaplease · 16/11/2025 06:37

Speak to
the university, I live in a student area and they are very keen that students are good neighbours. Fortunately I have rarely heard a peep grok
my student neighbours, and at least you know they’ll move at the end of the year.

butterfly990 · 16/11/2025 06:30

https://youtube.com/shorts/lb6h40XBMrI?si=nhpDKaJR0GBUO45r

This would work but equally it would impact your kids and probably set off all the neighbourhood dogs 😔

Before you continue to YouTube

https://youtube.com/shorts/lb6h40XBMrI?si=nhpDKaJR0GBUO45r

AlwaysTheRenegade · 16/11/2025 06:20

It sounds like that film Bad Neighbours. Is it like one of those American freshers events/ keg parties where they charge like a fiver on the door for unlimited cheap beer?

Whos doing the security? Other students? Is it really hundreds on the street? The police should be able to do something about that.

No advice sorry Op, but I think this is wild for a residential street in England!

Scarfitwere · 16/11/2025 06:18

Report to the uni. If they're horrible selfish unpleasant people, who gives a monkeys about their degrees. You certainly shouldn't.

Mumofoneandone · 16/11/2025 06:03

Keep a record of their actions for evidence.
Call the police every time.
Report to the university.
Report to the council.
(Local press, name and shame).
Contact your local MP.
Don't know if your council has it but ours state on their website that if noise issues are not resolved, you can go directly to the local magistrate to get them to deal with it.

QuietLifeNoDrama · 16/11/2025 05:59

You need to make a noise complaint to your local council. Some have an app for you to record others will send equipment. Make sure you keep a log of dates and times too.

GehenSieweiter · 16/11/2025 05:46

bingewatchingnetflix · 16/11/2025 01:13

Why are you living in a predominately student area? If you care for peace and quiet then I’d consider moving. Think about the energy you give to this.. is it worth it for you and your family?

She isn't.

GehenSieweiter · 16/11/2025 05:44

Friendlygingercat · 16/11/2025 02:44

When I was a mature student I lived on one of the roughest council estates in the city. Lots of students and general drop out types. There were shabeens every weekend and sound systems during term time. The flats faced in two directions and often if you went in to the back with ear plugs you could manage to get some sleep. It was something you just got used to if you chose to live in that area. The rents were low and it was what we could afford. Sometimes I went to a cheap hotel on a saturday night to get away from it. Mostly I just stayed up and slept through the following day. That was how I became a night owl.

Edited

OP lives in a residential area, not a completely student area.

GehenSieweiter · 16/11/2025 05:43

FreyjaOfTheNorth · 15/11/2025 23:20

Report them for what? Since when was having a party illegal?

They're causing a disturbance, routinely.
@Cheepcheepcheep I had upstairs neighbours like this, when I owned a flat. Not students but only slightly older - he had very loud decks and started post club, so around 2.30 to 4am, club level noise, until around 6 or 7am. Police routinely came but they just started up again once they left. One day it suddenly stopped, presumably other neighbours had spoken to environmental health or something, which I should have done too, or maybe he actually got a conscience. Speak to environmental health/local council, note down/record every instance, speak to Uni, call police etc. Having a party within reason is ok, routinely disturbing people isn't. It eould be a shame if one of their parents got to find out.......

Mapletree1985 · 16/11/2025 05:24

Cheepcheepcheep · 15/11/2025 22:46

FWIW I did call the police on the party 2 weeks ago, but obviously they had more pressing concerns.

Tonight was ‘just’ a party but my goodwill is seriously eroded after the events of a fortnight ago.

The police are all tied up investigating people who said something mean on the internet.

WiddlinDiddlin · 16/11/2025 04:44

Report to the University, that is why they have a policy that students are respectful when living in residential areas.

It's really not the police's remit, it is the universities, so use the available tool you have - call them every time this lot get stupid, it is the only way they'll learn!

Francestein · 16/11/2025 04:05

Leaf blowers & strimmers are also good. Got any hedges that need trimming?

Friendlygingercat · 16/11/2025 02:50

Nothing like an electric drill at 6 am!

Friendlygingercat · 16/11/2025 02:44

When I was a mature student I lived on one of the roughest council estates in the city. Lots of students and general drop out types. There were shabeens every weekend and sound systems during term time. The flats faced in two directions and often if you went in to the back with ear plugs you could manage to get some sleep. It was something you just got used to if you chose to live in that area. The rents were low and it was what we could afford. Sometimes I went to a cheap hotel on a saturday night to get away from it. Mostly I just stayed up and slept through the following day. That was how I became a night owl.

InterIgnis · 16/11/2025 02:26

Francestein · 16/11/2025 00:30

Here you go @Cheepcheepcheep Push your speakers up against the wall on their side and start playing this 10 hour long ditty at 05:30 and go out for the day.

Aren’t they likely to also be out of the house during that time?

I wouldn’t go the tit for tat route as it will only escalate it. OP is finding once every two weeks to be more than enough, she last thing she needs is for it to turn into a nightly occurrence.