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To drop my kids off at partying neighbours at 6am tomorrow

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Cheepcheepcheep · 15/11/2025 22:37

I won’t do this (I think!) because it wouldn’t be good for the kids but ideas welcome.

My 3yo and 5yo couldn’t sleep 2 weeks ago thanks to a wild party held by our student neighbours (sound system, professional security, hundreds spilling into the street).

DH is away with work this weekend and they are having ‘pres’. In my day this meant shots in the house and games. Now apparently it’s 50+ people shouting and screaming in the garden.

I knocked on their door earlier and explained that, we know we live near a uni campus, some parties are expected. But having another huge party 2 weeks later and keeping my tired preschoolers up (with no notice, I’d have taken them to my mum and dads had I known!) is unacceptable. I said I was going to be up with them at 5.30am (as usual) tomorrow and threatened to drop them over while they’re nursing their hangovers.

Obviously I won’t drop 3 & 5 year olds in a house of hungover students at 6am but AIBU for being tempted?!

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mazedasamarchhare · 17/11/2025 09:30

Your kids are a perfect age for a drum kit!

Ddakji · 17/11/2025 08:13

I don’t care if it mucks up their degrees, I would contact the university Every Single Time. When I was a student we never had house parties. That’s what the union was for!!!

And I would ring their doorbell on the half hour for the next few hours.

yaysummerisover · 17/11/2025 08:08

Cheepcheepcheep · 15/11/2025 22:37

I won’t do this (I think!) because it wouldn’t be good for the kids but ideas welcome.

My 3yo and 5yo couldn’t sleep 2 weeks ago thanks to a wild party held by our student neighbours (sound system, professional security, hundreds spilling into the street).

DH is away with work this weekend and they are having ‘pres’. In my day this meant shots in the house and games. Now apparently it’s 50+ people shouting and screaming in the garden.

I knocked on their door earlier and explained that, we know we live near a uni campus, some parties are expected. But having another huge party 2 weeks later and keeping my tired preschoolers up (with no notice, I’d have taken them to my mum and dads had I known!) is unacceptable. I said I was going to be up with them at 5.30am (as usual) tomorrow and threatened to drop them over while they’re nursing their hangovers.

Obviously I won’t drop 3 & 5 year olds in a house of hungover students at 6am but AIBU for being tempted?!

I had noisy neighbours once everytime parents went away party started. I was heavily pregnant so I got up at 5.30am put ac/dc in full blast and took dogs out for a walk, they never did it again

JoBrandsCleaner · 16/11/2025 22:35

I did something a bit like this years ago. My neighbours seemed to have an all weekend party when the parents were away. So at 9am I put a very loud annoying song on with speakers at the wall and went out. It went something like ‘badger mushroom’.

SemiRetiredLoveGoddeess · 16/11/2025 22:30

Cheepcheepcheep · 15/11/2025 22:41

Well that too. But I quite like the idea of banging on their door anyway!

Council don’t care. Landlord is some conglomerate offshore. Tempted to report them to the university who are fairly good but don’t want to screw their degrees, just want to get them to understand the impact of their decisions.

I wouldn't worry about screwing up their degrees. They couldn't give a shit about you .Make a phonebvideo recording of their noise and keep a diary.

Anybody who an afford so called professional security is well off and very entitled. Rich Mummy and Daddy?

Then get down to their University and complain like mad. See your local Councillor as well.

Good Luck

TwinklySquid · 16/11/2025 21:39

I’d write them a letter telling them that you’ve had enough and if they don’t wind it in a bit you’ll report them to the university.

Cheepcheepcheep · 16/11/2025 18:57

wantom · 16/11/2025 18:34

If your "nice student with the letter" would tell you when they plan a gathering (in the spirit of rapprochement) would you be able to arrange to stay with a friend or family that night? Not easy parcelling up you and the kids, but still....

I know it's not the same thing, but my neighbour informed me that a big teen party would be happening in their garden with marquee (if you don't mind) on a Saturday night during the Summer. I went to my sister's house. Admittedly I don't have young children.

This is usually the arrangement with the bigger student parties and it works well. My issue is the frequency - I can’t be impinging on my mum and dad that often (my dad is seriously ill and has carers 4x a day, which means hosting at theirs isn’t the easiest with two busy kids). Plus in the heat of last night I was informed the next party is Wednesday as one of the girls is having her 21st. I work, as does DH, the kids are in nursery and school, so we can’t just stay at my parents’ 10 miles away on a random weekday. And it will mean we’ve had 3 parties in 3 weeks. I used to be a big fan of a weds night out, but that was 15 years ago when it was a Varsity night not now when I’m running a department meeting the following day at 9.30 so don’t fancy two grumpy kids late at night and in the morning before that 😬 I’m not saying my schedule or my kids schedule takes precedence, it’s all give and take, but surely neighbourly consideration means it’s not a weekly occurrence?

I’m seriously hopeful Wednesday will be pared back after the note but we shall see.

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Mandylovescandy · 16/11/2025 18:37

101 for noise complaint every single time and keep on at the council. Harder for council to ignore multiple 101 records.

wantom · 16/11/2025 18:34

If your "nice student with the letter" would tell you when they plan a gathering (in the spirit of rapprochement) would you be able to arrange to stay with a friend or family that night? Not easy parcelling up you and the kids, but still....

I know it's not the same thing, but my neighbour informed me that a big teen party would be happening in their garden with marquee (if you don't mind) on a Saturday night during the Summer. I went to my sister's house. Admittedly I don't have young children.

HandmadeNanna · 16/11/2025 18:30

Cheepcheepcheep · 15/11/2025 22:37

I won’t do this (I think!) because it wouldn’t be good for the kids but ideas welcome.

My 3yo and 5yo couldn’t sleep 2 weeks ago thanks to a wild party held by our student neighbours (sound system, professional security, hundreds spilling into the street).

DH is away with work this weekend and they are having ‘pres’. In my day this meant shots in the house and games. Now apparently it’s 50+ people shouting and screaming in the garden.

I knocked on their door earlier and explained that, we know we live near a uni campus, some parties are expected. But having another huge party 2 weeks later and keeping my tired preschoolers up (with no notice, I’d have taken them to my mum and dads had I known!) is unacceptable. I said I was going to be up with them at 5.30am (as usual) tomorrow and threatened to drop them over while they’re nursing their hangovers.

Obviously I won’t drop 3 & 5 year olds in a house of hungover students at 6am but AIBU for being tempted?!

I wouldn't actually do this, but on a flight to Canada I had booked the cot seat - they have a cot which hangs in front of the seat for a baby to sleep in. Another couple with a baby were sat next to me. I asked the air hostess for the cot as my dd was needing her sleep. Cot was set up in front of me and before I had a chance to put my daughter in it the other couple quickly put their baby in the cot. I called the air hostess back and I explained what had happened but she couldn't/wouldn't ask the other couple to take their baby out of the cot. I stood up, thrust my baby into the arms of the air hostess and walked off to the back of the aeroplane. My daughter did the rounds of the air hostesses and a couple of passengers who fell in love with her for most of the flight as the other couple did not once take their baby out of the cot, giving it a bottle and changing it's nappy in the cot in front of me!

Cheepcheepcheep · 16/11/2025 18:26

Izzywizzy85 · 16/11/2025 18:20

Can’t see what this said, but assuming it was having a go at you for leaning on your horn. It isn’t you that’s causing the problem for your neighbours, it’s the inconsiderate prick who blocked your drive.
However, the note did make me chuckle 😁

I know right! I want to be my usual acerbic self about it but to be fair it’s the sort of well intentioned thing I would have done when I was 20 and not quite as bitter and bitchy as I am now

Yep, the post was critical of me leaning on my horn but I’m a bit confused as I didn’t think it was mean, just saying they hated it, hence my justification just this once!

The dad was very apologetic. I’ve spent most of the afternoon kicking myself for not saying ‘sorry, wouldn’t usually but my patience is a bit short after all the parties they’ve been having/the lack of sleep etc’. L’espirit d’escalier!

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Izzywizzy85 · 16/11/2025 18:20

Cheepcheepcheep · 16/11/2025 18:10

I’m sorry! I’ve not done it before! But I had a supermarket shop and two kids to get in and my tolerance is somewhat depleted after last night!

Can’t see what this said, but assuming it was having a go at you for leaning on your horn. It isn’t you that’s causing the problem for your neighbours, it’s the inconsiderate prick who blocked your drive.
However, the note did make me chuckle 😁

Cheepcheepcheep · 16/11/2025 18:15

Cheepcheepcheep · 16/11/2025 18:10

I’m sorry! I’ve not done it before! But I had a supermarket shop and two kids to get in and my tolerance is somewhat depleted after last night!

I have a weirdly enthusiastic mod on here - honestly please don’t feel like you need to delete mildly critical points, I’m very happy to debate stuff!

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damemaggiescurledupperlip · 16/11/2025 18:15

If only you knew where the President / Chancellor of the university lives. You could park outside his house and play your car stereo up hiiiiigh every night until he got the message and the message trickled down

Cheepcheepcheep · 16/11/2025 18:10

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I’m sorry! I’ve not done it before! But I had a supermarket shop and two kids to get in and my tolerance is somewhat depleted after last night!

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bellocchild · 16/11/2025 18:10

LadyHexham · 15/11/2025 23:05

I had partying students next door, in a terraced house. Not just once.
Maria Callas, 6am at full blast with the speakers directed at their wall did the trick.

The local bus stop outside Sainsbury's was a social partying meeting place. It was sorted out by the store playing loud, depressing dirge music, with occasional bursts of Schoenberg and squeaky-gate music.

Goodluckwiththatone · 16/11/2025 18:06

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Cheepcheepcheep · 16/11/2025 18:02

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To drop my kids off at partying neighbours at 6am tomorrow
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Cheepcheepcheep · 16/11/2025 18:01

Well, I’ve had this off them (or rather, the one girl over there who I think gets that it’s not ok - she was unofficial spokeswoman last night) today. I’m inclined to give them the benefit of the doubt for now, although the contents are certainly worthy of a law student (or politician!) - no actual commitment to change but acknowledgement that they’re in a community here. It could be worse I guess.

I will leave to one side the fact I took my kids out for an hour and came back to the parents of one of the students having blocked access to my drive. I took great pleasure leaning on my horn until he came out, apologised and moved. Anyway. For now an uneasy truce lies!

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TheWK · 16/11/2025 18:00

MrsMoastyToasty · 15/11/2025 22:44

Ring the police. Report as a noise nuisance to the council.
Failing that put the kids telly on repeat and full blast...or start learning the recorder/trombone/bagpipes.

Please don’t bother the police with this. If it is an issue speak the council

Please don’t clog up the police systems with this

Sometimessmiling · 16/11/2025 17:53

Cheepcheepcheep · 15/11/2025 22:41

Well that too. But I quite like the idea of banging on their door anyway!

Council don’t care. Landlord is some conglomerate offshore. Tempted to report them to the university who are fairly good but don’t want to screw their degrees, just want to get them to understand the impact of their decisions.

Report them to Uni, they will get a warning. Might be enough to encourage more respect

Jinamood · 16/11/2025 17:27

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LoveSandbanks · 16/11/2025 14:53

Againforget · 16/11/2025 12:34

You’d all left uni or were at uni?

12?? So this was a 12 bedroom property? Or sharers

I can’t imagine the…. Carnage

did you all get on? How many bathrooms???? @LoveSandbanks

We hadn’t been to uni. Most of us were working ft. There were several bathrooms and kitchens, not enough bathrooms but kitchens were fine. There was a huge shared living room but not often used. We all had our own rooms, no sharers. Boys were NOT allowed to stay overnight. Sometimes they did but we covered for each other. The landlord kept an office in the property so he still had a legitimate reason to visit 🙄

I genuinely don’t remember much carnage to be honest. We were all utterly skint with minimal family support of any type so we all looked out for each other, even those who we weren’t close with. It was back in the day of j mobile phones so if you got a late night phone call on the shared phone you’d have some grovelling to do 🤣

a lot of us had 2 jobs so sleep was sacrosanct. You never disturbed another woman’s sleep!

Againforget · 16/11/2025 12:34

LoveSandbanks · 16/11/2025 12:33

I lived in a shared house in my early 20’s of 12 young women. Obviously the house was huge. We once had a shared party that become the stuff of legends. Several of the girls had boyfriends who were club bouncers which gave us our professional security!

Im fairly sure given the size of the house, driveway and space between neighbouring properties disturbance of neighbours was pretty minimal.

Youd also think that a house with that many women in would be constant bitching and arguing but it really wasn’t.

You’d all left uni or were at uni?

12?? So this was a 12 bedroom property? Or sharers

I can’t imagine the…. Carnage

did you all get on? How many bathrooms???? @LoveSandbanks

LoveSandbanks · 16/11/2025 12:33

StillweriseLH · 15/11/2025 22:43

Professional security? Hundreds of people? What sort of residential area are we talking here, because professionals who have been hired to keep security up surely won’t be letting hundreds of people in a three bed semi?

I lived in a shared house in my early 20’s of 12 young women. Obviously the house was huge. We once had a shared party that become the stuff of legends. Several of the girls had boyfriends who were club bouncers which gave us our professional security!

Im fairly sure given the size of the house, driveway and space between neighbouring properties disturbance of neighbours was pretty minimal.

Youd also think that a house with that many women in would be constant bitching and arguing but it really wasn’t.