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Pissingitdownquelsurprise · 2025-11-15T22:02:52+00:00

Had parents and sibling and niece & nephew (late teens) over this weekend Our Dc is 6 and bouncing all over the place talking to everyone, sibling and DN and DN are quiet people, which I get. Dd asking them if they wanted to play or trying to make conversation, no one really making any effort with her, so it always ends up being Dh and me running around playing with her, doing hide and seek and playing games etc. I totally get that they all probably don’t want to and it’s not much fun, but wouldn’t you give attention..,or at least talk to your little cousin/niece? Felt a bit sorry for her as she was literally getting nothing back and loves them.

Brefugee · 16/11/2025 13:13

OPs last post is a bit - meh. And not in the spirit and all that...

youalright · 16/11/2025 13:12

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Bit of an odd choice for a username then 🤔

ilovesooty · 16/11/2025 13:11

I see that the OP still hasn't got the message that people who disagree with her aren't child haters. Some people are so entrenched in their point of view that there's no reasoning with them. 🙄

Brefugee · 16/11/2025 13:09

I don't mind children in pubs that serve food, at age-appropriate times. If they are in a pub, especially one that doesn't serve food, at a non age-appropriate time they have to put up with fruity language and drunk adults. And if they get in the way they can expect to be told off directly, then asked where their parents are so they can be returned and the parents told to... parent.

At other child-appropriate places? i still don't expect them to be uncontrolled little hoydens either. But with more leeway from me because it's expected.

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ilovesooty · 16/11/2025 13:02

Pissingitdownquelsurprise · 16/11/2025 12:58

And therein lies the difference, which is fine, but not the way I see things and many others with families where we are. It’s an amazing thing to
have all the kids around

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And some of don't think it's a marvellous thing to be surrounded by kids in an adult environment in the evenings. It doesn't mean that you're a child hater if that's your preference. Children don't have to be included in everything.

KimberleyClark · 16/11/2025 13:01

I don’t mind interacting with children a bit but find it annoying when they are allowed to dominate a gathering, unless it is a children’s party.

Brefugee · 16/11/2025 13:01

Pissingitdownquelsurprise · 16/11/2025 12:55

Nope, I wasn’t lacking any parenting, I’m a great parent and actively care about and enjoy kids and other people. I don’t see them as an annoyance that needs to be kept away because i’m not a miserable person. HTH

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on the contrary.
You let your 6 year old child bounce round and annoy quieter, older, visitors.
Then you are rude enough to leave the room with your DH and play with child and ... leave visitors to their own devices?

you are not a great parent by that metric. HTH

In other respects, you might be fantastic, but we are all talking about what you wrote.

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Pissingitdownquelsurprise · 16/11/2025 13:00

ilovesooty · 16/11/2025 12:54

You've repeated it today.

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In response to others asking me about it

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RavenPie · 16/11/2025 12:59

I don’t drink but today and yesterday I believe that 4 adults not wanting to bounce, run, tomfool and play hide and seek with a 6 year old they don’t often see if fairly normal and as the parent of the 6yo AND the host it was your job to steer the conversation and activities towards something more inclusive. You shouldn’t expect people to travel to a different country for a flying visit and have to go outside to bounce and hide with a kid. You should have got out a pack of cards or a pad and pencil but you would rather bitch and whine about a 20yo not wanting to take a 6 yo they have little contact with away from the rest of the group and take responsibility for hiding, but not losing her, in a foreign country.

TheWytch · 16/11/2025 12:59

Pissingitdownquelsurprise · 15/11/2025 23:03

Nope, no pestering or repeatedly being brattish or having childish conversations. Have you met a 6 year old recently? A lot of them have a fair amount of interesting things to say.

Anyway i’m assuming you’re on the wind up or one of those awful child hating people…sad.

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They really don't.

SugarPlumpFairyCakes · 16/11/2025 12:59

I think each of them could have given her ten or twenty minutes of their time during their visit. She’s a member of your family and household. You don’t go to someone else’s house and not engage with them.

Very lame of your visitors. Next time go to theirs and don’t bother to engage.

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Pissingitdownquelsurprise · 16/11/2025 12:59

AliceMaforethought · 16/11/2025 12:50

What do you mean 'as do others'? I certainly wasn't drunk and I think it's very rude of you to come on and insult everyone who doesn't agree with you. Nobody has to play with your child if they don't want to. You sound very entitled.

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Cool

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Pissingitdownquelsurprise · 16/11/2025 12:58

ilovesooty · 16/11/2025 12:49

I think it's quite reasonable not to want to be surrounded by children in a pub later in the evening.

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And therein lies the difference, which is fine, but not the way I see things and many others with families where we are. It’s an amazing thing to
have all the kids around

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AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 16/11/2025 12:56

ilovesooty · 16/11/2025 12:54

You've repeated it today.

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Are you sure you are not just a bit sozzled and seeing double of the OPs posts?!

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Pissingitdownquelsurprise · 16/11/2025 12:56

youalright · 16/11/2025 12:49

Wow can't believe they flew to a different country to visit you and only stayed 6 hours.

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What? They don’t stay with me when they come over as not enough room, do you understand how that can be possible?

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Pissingitdownquelsurprise · 16/11/2025 12:55

Brefugee · 16/11/2025 12:47

No, am of the exactly the same opinion as last night and really shocked to see some people and their views towards children.

you know the views are towards you and your (lack of) parenting, right? Nothing to do with the child. Who was, in your words, bouncing around trying to talk to the adults. Which is annoying. HTH

Nope, I wasn’t lacking any parenting, I’m a great parent and actively care about and enjoy kids and other people. I don’t see them as an annoyance that needs to be kept away because i’m not a miserable person. HTH

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MrsPrendergast · 16/11/2025 12:54

Pissingitdownquelsurprise · 16/11/2025 12:52

This is the thing though, isn’t it? It’s such a miserable attitude’I wouldn’t want to be expected to entertain someone else’s child’ just sounds so awful. It wasn’t about that at all, I entertain my child and surprisingly, I actively enjoy it and spending time with her and other kids. I didn’t want or need people to ‘Entertain’ her (she isn’t a dog) I just wanted her to be able to form a connection with her and maybe actually want to, it’s sad, but it is what it is I suppose.

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Maybe if she was quieter and more calm around quiet calm people, they'd feel more inclined to interact?

ilovesooty · 16/11/2025 12:54

Pissingitdownquelsurprise · 16/11/2025 12:53

I think I said it once.

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You've repeated it today.

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Pissingitdownquelsurprise · 16/11/2025 12:53

ilovesooty · 16/11/2025 12:45

I don't think there's any evidence at all that anyone replying was drunk. People are allowed to disagree with you without being subjected to that repeated accusation.

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I think I said it once.

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ilovesooty · 16/11/2025 12:53

AliceMaforethought · 16/11/2025 12:50

What do you mean 'as do others'? I certainly wasn't drunk and I think it's very rude of you to come on and insult everyone who doesn't agree with you. Nobody has to play with your child if they don't want to. You sound very entitled.

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She means she had numerous messages supporting her.

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Pissingitdownquelsurprise · 16/11/2025 12:52

BauhausOfEliott · 16/11/2025 12:40

Why would they want to play with your six-year-old?

They’re not an age where they’d have their own kids and if they have no younger siblings, it’s likely they don’t have a clue how to interact with small children and probably don’t even know what children that age enjoy.

I wouldn’t expect to be required to entertain someone else’s kid at a social gathering or play games with them etc. I also find some kids much more fun than others and that would be a factor in whether I offered to play with them or not.

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This is the thing though, isn’t it? It’s such a miserable attitude’I wouldn’t want to be expected to entertain someone else’s child’ just sounds so awful. It wasn’t about that at all, I entertain my child and surprisingly, I actively enjoy it and spending time with her and other kids. I didn’t want or need people to ‘Entertain’ her (she isn’t a dog) I just wanted her to be able to form a connection with her and maybe actually want to, it’s sad, but it is what it is I suppose.

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AliceMaforethought · 16/11/2025 12:51

youalright · 16/11/2025 12:49

Wow can't believe they flew to a different country to visit you and only stayed 6 hours.

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If the OP is always like she has been on this thread, I'm not surprised!

AliceMaforethought · 16/11/2025 12:50

ilovesooty · 16/11/2025 12:49

I think it's quite reasonable not to want to be surrounded by children in a pub later in the evening.

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Children have no place in a pub.

AliceMaforethought · 16/11/2025 12:50

Pissingitdownquelsurprise · 16/11/2025 12:43

I think some were, as do others

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What do you mean 'as do others'? I certainly wasn't drunk and I think it's very rude of you to come on and insult everyone who doesn't agree with you. Nobody has to play with your child if they don't want to. You sound very entitled.