Would you expect/would your family join in with the Tom foolery?

You played hide and seek with your child whilst you had visitors ?

Sorry, other people's young kids are annoying at the best of times. When they are clowning around wanting attention, it has the opposite effect on me. And it sounds like it had the same effect on the young adults present too. It is not their job to provide entertainment to your child.

Would be happy to have a good chat, playing games is a no though. It’s a bit rude to be doing that instead of talking to the group I think. Although a family board game? Count me in, lol

Hide and seek is a game for kids to play with other kids.

Did you just ignore your guests while you played hide and seek with your DD? I’m trying to imagine this scenario, tbh I’ve spat my tea out laughing.

I think her asking them to play or respond once was fine but they made it clear they didn’t want to so she should have the social skills to have picked up on that and you should have stepped in to stop her becoming a nuisance.

And also, having a run around and playing silly games is only awkward at first. It soon becomes quite fun (to me, at least). Especially if you have other family members playing too - getting my strict, elderly Dad involved in a silly game with my niece, who he adores, and my husband is actually so heartwarming.

Spot on

I’m not boisterous and neither are my dc. Hide and seek is a kids game that kids play with other kids - not so much their adult cousins, especially indoors. I would make an effort to be nice to a 6yo but I wouldn’t be “running around playing”. I would chat or play a board game or card game and so would my dc but I wonder if these particular cousins had the sense that they were getting shoved on the kids table and dug their heels in.

So she was constantly pestering them, even after they'd made it really clear they didnt want to play/have childish conversations? Rude, brattish and showing a lack of ability to pick up on social cues. This is not the fault of your child, it's on you to teach her appropriate social behaviour

Shes not saying shes a brat shes saying shes acting like a brat and thats on you. You need to teach her to amuse herself at times and learn to say Mummy and daddy can't play hide and seek right now the grown ups are talking and your being rude by keep interrupting

Board games. Get them engaged in board games.

Them sitting on phones is rude. Were they trying to look busy so your DD would leave them alone? Still rude. It doesn't sound like they are there to visit your DD, just you. Yes, they could ask a few polite questions, but that doesn't mean they have to play.

I'd make the effort to play with a grandchild, niece or nephew myself but if it were a random friend's 6 year old, no thanks.

Do your friends who come around and play have young children themselves? That makes a big difference. I'd be more likely to play and interact more intensely if it were that kind of set up.

Yes, Isn't that the point of visiting family - build relationships and make nice memories?

I am very lucky, as my sister is always very keen to interact with my baby. Similarly my husband and I always try to go above and beyond with niece, as she's our baby's only cousin.

I had aunts that were silly and fun, aunts that were kind, and aunts that were disinterested growing up (DF was one of 9). I am very fond and keep in touch with those that made an effort.

I think it is the type of game that is being played that is the issue. Quite frankly an 18 and 20 year old (or most adults) don't want to be playing hide and seek - and those are your guests.
I also think sometimes at that age they don't necessarily know how to interact with a 6yr old. It doesn't always come natural especially if they're not used to spending time around young children like that. I think you'd be better off having some activities for your child to be getting on with whilst you had a catch up and maybe a board game or something where you can all play together.

Most people aren’t the biggest fans of other children. It’s different when it’s your own child.

If I went to someone’s house, it wouldn’t be to spend the time with a six year old.

If they are people you don't see very often in your home then I would class that as guests, even if you share a bloodline.

Did they all just sit politely alone in your living room whilst the three of you played hide and seek?

‘only little one there’

’make an effort’

’initiate chat and play’

But they haven't made the effort there is a million things you can expect them to do doesn't change they don't, why would she be excited to see people who don't interact with her?

Some family are better at playing and interacting with little kids than others. If it became clear that these particular visiting family members weren’t good at playing with my child I would have explained to my child that the adults were going to have a chat and catch up and that she could do an activity of whatever I had set up for her such as crafts, tv, toys etc for a while.

I wouldn’t take it personally or dwell on it for any length of time

Family who don't want to play hide and seek. With family we might go down to the park with the kids for a bit, play a game, do a jigsaw, push the kids on the swings in the backyard - but they would also spend a good part of the visit amusing themselves.

Your children are the centre of your universe, not everyone else's.

Nope, its really not.

I very much sense your DC can do no wrong, and you completely pander to her, even when she's being a brat. Not an approach that generally encourages good social skills.

Hide and seek when adult guests are round! You don't see how inappropriate that is? Really?