Why is everyone away with the fairies?

I haven’t experienced anything like this, so I do think this must be a “you” problem.

I do think PP are right, it’s the way you are communicating. Stop volunteering information for people to confirm or correct you, ask more open ended questions. make sure you have full attention of who you are asking a question of, be clear in what you say. I think perhaps being a bit louder and slower would be a good start.

And the reason why they use a million different ways is because if they stick to one, people don't pay attention to it.

As per the emails sent from a phone perfectly capable of running the messaging app complaining that they don't have a messaging app login, which are sent with the messaging app activation email in the email chain. Or the emails from a different email address wanting to know why they aren't receiving emails anymore. Or the complaints that they weren't phoned when they went into the app and deleted the phone number or changed it to their spouse's, rather than adding their spouse's details as a second contact. Or the complaints about it not being included in the newsletter, written on the back of the newsletter where it's the first item on the page...

I get this 100%.

Circulated papers to 5 peolle at work last week. The decision makers on various projects. Every question asked was already answered in the papers.

Hubby has to have information repeated 3, 4, 5 timesto sink in.

It's endless and exhausting being other peoples brains. Gah.

Oh yes. This.

Nobody can concentrate because of the distraction of smartphones. It’s literally re wiring our brains. Imagine what the children who’ve been on tech since babies are going to be like…

Im thick and everyone else is smart.
So i will stay in my indoors bubble and avoid the world.

I agree with you op. 5 minutes spent reading mn threads proves you are correct!
Re the scenario you described I think you’d get on better if you asked “who have you brought with you?” Rather than “Have you got Mr Smith?” That way the other person has to do some thinking.

You see every day on here -

OP: My DD is 7. Blah blah school blah blah best friend blah blah teacher blah blah....
First response: How old is she?

It's like when my manager texts me for my email address when I know he has it already. He just can't be arsed to look for it.

It's not all a recent thing. Many years ago I had a job which involved coding information for data input. Some of the codes came up so often I just remembered them rather than having to look them up each time. We all had our own copies of the coding manuals on our desks, but some of my co-workers, once they realised I knew them, just kept asking me, instead of looking them up, or taking the trouble to remember them, themselves.

But I do agree people these days are just generally less aware of what's going on around them, probably due to having their faces stuck in their phones so much.

If you don't already use it, you might like this then:

https://letmegooglethat.com/

I’m 31. I don’t need to carry ID into every shop I run in to. I assumed the lighters would be near the tills which they were. Hence not being able to get one. Try again

I see people do stuff like this and I can relate to your reaction as I have been that "problem solver" for others.

I cannot adequately explain, other than to say that some people panic and therefore don't read through properly once the panic sets in, some people have bad habits about not reading properly/thoroughly, some people are used to getting other people to help them as soon as something worries or confuses them so they don't try to continue with resolving the problem themselves (even where that only means reading paragraph 2), and many people are less meticulous than you and I might default to being.

Yes I've noticed this so much within the last couple of years.

I swear people being on their phones a lot is part of the problem it always seems to be anyways when I go out,I'm ill now and in a wheelchair and my DH pushes me(in the wheelchair)😁 and the amount of people that go to walk into me and then want to blame me for them not looking despite the fact that my DH and myself have tried to make them aware that they're about to end up on my lap.

Most are on their phones the rest are on another planet.

I don't do that! I would check the details before emailing someone.

But human nature is to take shortcuts, so people won't always read things properly. So if you can phrase things in a way that reduces the likelihood of a shortcut leading to a misunderstanding it's worthwhile.

I agree it can be annoying when people appear to outsource their thinking.

I think I actually know where you're coming from OP.

I think people have simply stopped caring, they want instant information when they want it. They don't want it in advance and have to retain it.

Like a living Google.

It's like when my manager texts me for my email address when I know he has it already. He just can't be arsed to look for it. Or texts me asking for a specific date when I've given it already and all he has to do is scroll back through his texts.

People's minds are full of clutter.

My listening and attention skills have markedly declined. I blame it on chronic stress, cognitive overload and depression and menopause. And on social media habits which are attention murderers. I have started to wean myself off social media, start the day with a meditation, increase activity in the day and started to build better habits.

Yes, you see evidence of it here a lot too where people don’t read posts or moan that posts are “too long” if they are a few paragraphs, even when somebody specifically asked someone else asked them a question and they’re answering it. I don’t know how people function in life if they cannot cope with information that’s longer than a couple of sentences even when written down so they can read it again if necessary.

Or of course the patient transport person could have done their job properly. The job they are paid to do, which is to properly identify the name of the patient.

I had an appointment at Specsavers yesterday. Enter store and person on computer facing away from me asks my name. Then they say 'take a seat'. However there were no seats in the front of the shop so I look around me and end up saying 'where should I sit'.
They then wave there hand about, as if I'm daft and say...'here'...at the seat opposite them.

Couldn't they have just looked at me, instead of facing away and said with clarity, 'please come and sit here'.

So minor but such a succinct example of communication skills gone rogue.

That assistant is probably back home sighing about people who try and checkout without having found all their items or having their ID ready. This one was on you.

Haha. I must be the most boring person on earth. Nobody pays attention to me - a literal wallflower. Every so often I lose my cool at home but can't do that at work.

CantBeArsed-itis at its finest. Fuck a duck, what do you expect a court jester to deliver work requests?

Who knew you needed to have charisma to get a patient transfer done without having to spell it out over and over again?

I’m quite old, and I do get where you are coming from, OP. However, when I was young, in a relatively low-paid job, life was good enough that I could pay my mortgage, afford to heat my flat and buy groceries, keep myself fairly stylishly clothed and shod, and even afford a skiing holiday each year.
I get the impression that too many people in similar jobs to those that I was working in my 20’s are now struggling to do any of that, because the pay is so much less in comparison with the CoL, and that as the saying goes, you pay peanuts…
People are only going to work their hardest if they feel it’s worth it - which covers the explanation for your colleagues and people in shops. As for your DH, you’re letting him get away with relying on you for his admin, and you should stop enabling him!