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Cleaner/receptionist did my hair at the salon

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Brood · 15/11/2025 17:47

An incident happened at my hairdressers today and I’m wondering if I was the unreasonable one. Before I get into that, I have been going to this salon for about 15 years. I attend between once a week and once a month.

In the past year, there have been issues I’ve been unhappy about. I’ll name two.

I like to get my hair blow dried on Sunday to do me for the working week. On one occasion, the stylist called over a girl working there cleaning the salon and told her it was an opportunity for her to learn. She blow dried and curled half my head of hair while the stylist did the other side. I paid full price but the side the unqualified girl did fell out before I got home.

Another time this unqualified girl rubbed in my colour and washed my hair even though I was booked in with the professional. I again paid full price but my colour wasn’t done right - she missed bits and didn’t put it at the start of the root and I had to wash it myself after 2 days.

I booked in to get my hair done today. The stylist was about 30 minutes late starting - this can be pretty typical, which can be a bit irritating if I’ve rushed to get there on time & could have been getting a coffee in the time I’m sitting waiting. It’s even more annoying that no staff members approach me to inform me how long the delay will be instead walking by me ignoring me.

When the hairdresser eventually came out, she sat me down & cloaked me up & went off to mix my colour. Then she disappeared into the staff kitchen. The same girl from before who works on reception and helps out sweeping the floor etc. came over and started rubbing in my colour independently. She got it all over my face, in my ears and down the back of my neck. After about an hour she came back to wash it out. During the wash, she applied very little pressure and I could tell when I got up the colour wasn’t properly washed out, she applied no conditioner and my hair was full of knots.

The stylist I was booked in with came over and told me this girl was going to start to blow dry my hair. I told her I would prefer to wait until she was ready to do it explaining I had booked in with her. I stressed that I had booked in with her for my colour and wash too. She said she was running behind. I told her if she didn’t have time to do it, I’d prefer to go home and do it myself. I then got up and went to pay. She followed me and I explained that when I ring a professional hairdressing salon to get my hair done, I want it done by a professional. I was told on the phone a professional would be doing it.

I explained that I had got my hair done before at hairdressing colleges and booked in with a student there where I would be charged half price. I explained that the girl who did my hair was not a student, had no hairdressing training and if I wanted an unprofessional job, I could do it myself and save my time and money.

I also said that it should be made clear on the phone if there is no professional available and that it’s not fair to the customer or the girl to be put in the position we were put in.

They asked me if they could clean the dye off me as it was all over my face and neck. I pointed out that it was that way because I had been placed in the hands of someone who wasn’t a professional

The stylist said sorry but I didn’t feel she really meant it. She said things got backed up and she felt it would be better for me to get my hair done with someone rather than no- one. I mean, really?! The manager seemed horrified but she was fully aware of what was going on. I think she was more horrified that they were being called out on it.

Am I the unreasonable one in this situation. Is it too much to expect that if I book in to get my hair professionally done and I am being charged professional prices that I get a professional job?

I came home with wet hair full of knots and spent about 15 minutes removing dye with nail varnish remover. I had a planned date but ended up cancelling it

Do you think this is ok?

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Brood · 15/11/2025 18:27

Kittlewittle · 15/11/2025 18:22

I'm surprised you went back after the first incident.

You clearly need to find a new salon, or DIY at home (dye is pretty easy)

I have consistently mentioned it if it came up when I was booking in. The salon did make me feel quite unreasonable for it though. It’s extremely frustrating. I think I’ll be labelled the difficult customer now

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Kittlewittle · 15/11/2025 18:22

I'm surprised you went back after the first incident.

You clearly need to find a new salon, or DIY at home (dye is pretty easy)

Hons123 · 15/11/2025 18:21

You were far too nice. You should have put an end to it the first time an untrained person approached your hair. You should not have agreed to anyone, apart from the professional stylist you booked. Even if it involved getting up and leaving with wet hair. You were far too polite to your own detriment, put up with this shite for far too long.

Brood · 15/11/2025 18:19

Steeleydan · 15/11/2025 18:18

Me neither, or gone to a hairdressers on a Sunday

It means the put the colour on your hair. Yeah, they open on Sunday, which is another reason why I like this salon. They’re closed on Mondays

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Brood · 15/11/2025 18:18

Dartmoorcheffy · 15/11/2025 17:51

Good for you on pulling them up on it. Did you get any money off?

The manager came over and said I didn’t have to pay. I think she just wanted me out of there. I was thinking they should have been paying me - the cheek. Having said that, if they charged me, I would have paid. They said it’ll never happen again. It’s very disappointing because to me it feels like they’re treating customers very unfairly

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Steeleydan · 15/11/2025 18:18

RoseAlone · 15/11/2025 18:00

I have no idea what having your colour rubbed in means. I've never had a colour rubbed in in my life!

Me neither, or gone to a hairdressers on a Sunday

Hankunamatata · 15/11/2025 18:15

Well done op for calling them out. Hope they didnt make you pay the full price for half a job

Brood · 15/11/2025 18:14

ShamrockShenanigans · 15/11/2025 18:06

I thought it wouldn’t happen again.

And nor would it if you hadn't have sat there and let it happen.

They are completely in the wrong but quite why you allowed it to happen again, is beyond me.

I think that’s why I got up and left. I was blindsided when she started rubbing the colour in and then realised after she had started that the stylist had disappeared. I was growing increasingly annoyed that the stylist hadn’t reappeared when the time came wash it out and the unqualified girl was doing such a bad job at washing it out (it took about 30 minutes) and it still wasn’t washed out properly, I sat there and told myself that I’ll wait and see if they try to repair this but if the unqualified girl is assigned to blow dry it, I told myself I’d leave. I am annoyed I didn’t say anything sooner

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MintDog · 15/11/2025 18:13

Just walk with your feet. I'm about to walk from my hairdressers about 30 years loyal service! Never does what I ask for, and because I'm considered their 'oldest' client doesn't even bother treating me like a client. Last time I went I had to get my own gown and ask for a cup of coffee! Still charged me the full £125 though.

aloris · 15/11/2025 18:08

I think there is a difference between a nonprofessional giving you a blah blow-dry, and a nonprofessional applying dye. The first is a bummer and a waste of your money. The second could potentially be dangerous for you.

RollAndSqareSausageBroonSauce · 15/11/2025 18:06

She needs to manage her bookings and time better. There's no excuse for continuing to do this to any customer, never mind the loyal ones.

ShamrockShenanigans · 15/11/2025 18:06

Brood · 15/11/2025 18:02

So they didn’t happen one after another. I had said it to the specific stylist responsible for that decision the next time I had her doing my hair (there are about 5 different stylists there) and I knew when I said it, she had asked the receptionist/cleaner to do it again because she went over and spoke to her and then seemed to be really under pressure for time. I thought it wouldn’t happen again. It’s tough because there are a couple of amazing stylists there. I know one of them would never dream of doing that

I thought it wouldn’t happen again.

And nor would it if you hadn't have sat there and let it happen.

They are completely in the wrong but quite why you allowed it to happen again, is beyond me.

Brood · 15/11/2025 18:02

TheWytch · 15/11/2025 17:53

You know it's not OK

Why did you go back after the first two instances?

So they didn’t happen one after another. I had said it to the specific stylist responsible for that decision the next time I had her doing my hair (there are about 5 different stylists there) and I knew when I said it, she had asked the receptionist/cleaner to do it again because she went over and spoke to her and then seemed to be really under pressure for time. I thought it wouldn’t happen again. It’s tough because there are a couple of amazing stylists there. I know one of them would never dream of doing that

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CurlyhairedAssassin · 15/11/2025 18:01

You're my hero for taking a stand on it. I think a lot of us somehow lose confidence in hair salons and just quietly say "thanks" when they hold the mirror up even though we're not happy with it. Well done!

DontStopMeNowGoodTime · 15/11/2025 18:01

You were taken advantage of because you are a long term customer and I assume have never complained about anything in 15 years. You've been treated appallingly and the hairdresser thought you were a walk over.
Did you pay? Did they offer you anything?

RoseAlone · 15/11/2025 18:00

I have no idea what having your colour rubbed in means. I've never had a colour rubbed in in my life!

RoseyK · 15/11/2025 17:59

I said yabu because you keep returning to somewhere that has on more than 1 occasion delivered poor service. This isn't the only salon on earth. Stop going there.

Deadringer · 15/11/2025 17:58

Did you pay, and if so what did you pay for? I would never go back again and I would leave a terrible review as that's what they deserve.

Brood · 15/11/2025 17:57

youalright · 15/11/2025 17:54

Well done for speaking up. I think you where very reasonable. If a trainee is doing your hair you should be told, given the choice and have a reduced price

This girl isn’t a trainee. She’s in college studying to be a teacher and just helps clean the salon and works on reception at the weekend. She has no training of any kind at all

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RollAndSqareSausageBroonSauce · 15/11/2025 17:57

You are not being unreasonable. If I was you though and seen the same girl who did a shit job the first time I probably would have refused to let her near me again with dye and i would have got up and left at that moment. It's crap when you have been a loyal customer of a hair salon and they do stuff like this as it's hard enough trying to find good stylists. It might be time to go elsewhere though. And as others have said, I would probably leave reviews somewhere, with pictures if you have them. I bet you're not the only customer to hate this.

londongirl12 · 15/11/2025 17:56

Well done on saying something!! You did totally the right thing and I’d be looking for somewhere else to go.

TartanMammy · 15/11/2025 17:56

Find a new salon.

Juniors are used in my salon for washing hair and applying toner, but other than that they clean, get teas and coffees, fetch things for the stylists. They are usually girls aspiring to be hairdressers themselves.
They can sometimes give my hair a rough blow dry before the stylist finished the styling and they are always supervised (big salon, lots of seniors around). I wouldn't be happy with paying full price for a junior to do my hair, and fuck it up.

FuzzyWolf · 15/11/2025 17:56

I hope you won’t be going back there!

YANBU.

Nsky62 · 15/11/2025 17:55

ajandjjmum · 15/11/2025 17:51

Seems a very poor way to treat a customer whose been loyal for 15 years!

Exactly

NearlyDec · 15/11/2025 17:55

Having a ‘Saturday girl’ wash your hair is common place but not for anything.