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Cleaner/receptionist did my hair at the salon

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Brood · 15/11/2025 17:47

An incident happened at my hairdressers today and I’m wondering if I was the unreasonable one. Before I get into that, I have been going to this salon for about 15 years. I attend between once a week and once a month.

In the past year, there have been issues I’ve been unhappy about. I’ll name two.

I like to get my hair blow dried on Sunday to do me for the working week. On one occasion, the stylist called over a girl working there cleaning the salon and told her it was an opportunity for her to learn. She blow dried and curled half my head of hair while the stylist did the other side. I paid full price but the side the unqualified girl did fell out before I got home.

Another time this unqualified girl rubbed in my colour and washed my hair even though I was booked in with the professional. I again paid full price but my colour wasn’t done right - she missed bits and didn’t put it at the start of the root and I had to wash it myself after 2 days.

I booked in to get my hair done today. The stylist was about 30 minutes late starting - this can be pretty typical, which can be a bit irritating if I’ve rushed to get there on time & could have been getting a coffee in the time I’m sitting waiting. It’s even more annoying that no staff members approach me to inform me how long the delay will be instead walking by me ignoring me.

When the hairdresser eventually came out, she sat me down & cloaked me up & went off to mix my colour. Then she disappeared into the staff kitchen. The same girl from before who works on reception and helps out sweeping the floor etc. came over and started rubbing in my colour independently. She got it all over my face, in my ears and down the back of my neck. After about an hour she came back to wash it out. During the wash, she applied very little pressure and I could tell when I got up the colour wasn’t properly washed out, she applied no conditioner and my hair was full of knots.

The stylist I was booked in with came over and told me this girl was going to start to blow dry my hair. I told her I would prefer to wait until she was ready to do it explaining I had booked in with her. I stressed that I had booked in with her for my colour and wash too. She said she was running behind. I told her if she didn’t have time to do it, I’d prefer to go home and do it myself. I then got up and went to pay. She followed me and I explained that when I ring a professional hairdressing salon to get my hair done, I want it done by a professional. I was told on the phone a professional would be doing it.

I explained that I had got my hair done before at hairdressing colleges and booked in with a student there where I would be charged half price. I explained that the girl who did my hair was not a student, had no hairdressing training and if I wanted an unprofessional job, I could do it myself and save my time and money.

I also said that it should be made clear on the phone if there is no professional available and that it’s not fair to the customer or the girl to be put in the position we were put in.

They asked me if they could clean the dye off me as it was all over my face and neck. I pointed out that it was that way because I had been placed in the hands of someone who wasn’t a professional

The stylist said sorry but I didn’t feel she really meant it. She said things got backed up and she felt it would be better for me to get my hair done with someone rather than no- one. I mean, really?! The manager seemed horrified but she was fully aware of what was going on. I think she was more horrified that they were being called out on it.

Am I the unreasonable one in this situation. Is it too much to expect that if I book in to get my hair professionally done and I am being charged professional prices that I get a professional job?

I came home with wet hair full of knots and spent about 15 minutes removing dye with nail varnish remover. I had a planned date but ended up cancelling it

Do you think this is ok?

OP posts:
EmeraldRoulette · 15/11/2025 19:20

I'm horrified

But I'm also horrified that you never said anything before

And went back

I think they are relying on this kind of behaviour to get away with it

What is wrong with everyone now? (okay, not everyone.)

How do you get through life if you can't even have these kind of confrontations?! And you say you would've paid if they asked you to. Just… What?!

WomanOfSteel · 15/11/2025 19:20

Jesus YANBU. I worked in a hairdressers on a Saturday as a teen. My job was cleaning, making drinks, washing/drying towels, washing hair (and remembering who wanted a firmer wash/special treatments). I’d do the occasional taking out of curlers, neutraliser, etc, but the customer would be asked if it was ok first - they were usually regulars (weekly/fortnightly) and I would be shown the correct technique and never had any complaints. This would only be at busy times like Christmas. I would never have been asked to colour hair, style, blow dry or anything like that. I do colour my mums hair occasionally (not in a salon) and have never got it all over the place either. That’s terrible.

NewGoldFox · 15/11/2025 19:17

Had this happen to me and they still charged the price of the senior stylist! Never went back.

Lynz301 · 15/11/2025 19:14

Steeleydan · 15/11/2025 18:38

No shit it's Saturday!!
The OP states she goes to the hairdressers on a Sunday, I just commented I'd never heard of a salon open on a Sunday

It’s not super common, but there’s at least one local salon here (Glasgow) that opens on a Sunday!

Brood · 15/11/2025 19:12

wizzler · 15/11/2025 18:43

There is a thread on MN at the moment where someone went to get their hair dyed and ended up in hospital having a skin graft. YANBU to expect a professional to do your hair

WTH? Really? That’s terrifying. That actually makes me feel quite angry

OP posts:
Shitmonger · 15/11/2025 19:11

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 15/11/2025 18:29

Of course you do.

You know exactly what OP means.

Don't be that person.

Tbf I also found it confusing. Usually professional colour is applied with a brush and either foils or paper or whatever depending on what you’re having done. If you were at home using a box dye you might rub it in. So if this unqualified person was literally rubbing it into the OP’s hair like it was a box dye then that’s even worse than her trying to apply it with the brush.

Especially since there would be no way to develop the colour at different speeds that way and it would all end up one flat, dimension-less colour.

Brood · 15/11/2025 19:10

rainbowsandraspberrygin · 15/11/2025 18:43

Do you usually have the same stylist?

if my hairdresser had done this I’d be fuming. I only have her as she knows me and my hair and she’s lovely too.

that’s so disappointing when you’ve been going so long and have a weekly appointment. Maybe they are too comfy with you now and feel like they can mess you around.

do you have any local options to swap to?

There is a stylist I prefer to go to but he’s hugely in demand and very hard to get even if I book well in advance. He is brilliant.

Another couple of stylists in this salon are good too.

It’s the same stylist that’s been responsible for this irresponsible and disrespectful practice every time, so I think I won’t book in with her again. She had a baby over a year ago and ever since her head hasn’t been in the game at all. She sometimes pops out to take calls and leaves me sitting there. Once she left the salon to buy things for the child in the middle of my appointment. She’s made comments that her child is her number 1 priority now. But I don’t feel like that should be my problem when I’m being charged full price - her convenience shouldn’t be at my expense, on my time. She doesn’t seem to be able to compartmentalise work and home and be professional at work.

There are other options but I’d be starting from scratch, which is quite anxiety provoking as well when I’ve known this salon for so long. Having said that the current practice is unreasonable, imo, and unsustainable

OP posts:
PodMom · 15/11/2025 19:06

My local branch of Saks is often open on a Sunday, not every Sunday. Not sure if it’s alternate or first one of the month but they definitely open some.

OP, i wouldn’t go back.

dynamiccactus · 15/11/2025 19:05

Petesdragoness · 15/11/2025 17:52

I've had someone junior wash my hair before but that's all and that was after the foils have been taken out and all checked to make sure they processed correctly. Id be going elsewhere in future

Same. And it was a junior, not a receptionist.

You explained your concerns very clearly OP and weren't remotely unreasonable.

Go elsewhere in future.

Fundays12 · 15/11/2025 19:01

It seems to me they are doing it because they know your a long standing client and feel able to take advantage. Personally I would be looking for a new salon.

Pollyxplummer · 15/11/2025 18:56

Steeleydan · 15/11/2025 18:38

No shit it's Saturday!!
The OP states she goes to the hairdressers on a Sunday, I just commented I'd never heard of a salon open on a Sunday

I'm very surprised to hear you haven't heard of this. Surely weekends are the busiest times for salons, as that's when a lot of their customers are going to be available? It would be very bad for business to be closed at the weekend.

In my experience, salons tend to be open at weekends and close Mondays instead. Sometimes Mondays and Tuesdays.

Isobel201 · 15/11/2025 18:55

YABU, definetly find another salon. I use a hairdresser who only does her own clients even though she rents a chair in a salon.

ConnieHeart · 15/11/2025 18:53

ajandjjmum · 15/11/2025 17:51

Seems a very poor way to treat a customer whose been loyal for 15 years!

Even if it was my 1st visit I would expect the service I'd paid for

HonoraBridge · 15/11/2025 18:47

This is very poor indeed. If I were you, I wouldn’t go back.

WLnamechange · 15/11/2025 18:44

Steeleydan · 15/11/2025 18:38

No shit it's Saturday!!
The OP states she goes to the hairdressers on a Sunday, I just commented I'd never heard of a salon open on a Sunday

I saw further down the post about the blow-dry on a Sunday after reading the post about 3 times, apologies. But FWIW I've never heard of a salon opening on a Sunday either.

rainbowsandraspberrygin · 15/11/2025 18:43

Do you usually have the same stylist?

if my hairdresser had done this I’d be fuming. I only have her as she knows me and my hair and she’s lovely too.

that’s so disappointing when you’ve been going so long and have a weekly appointment. Maybe they are too comfy with you now and feel like they can mess you around.

do you have any local options to swap to?

Isittimeformynapyet · 15/11/2025 18:43

Steeleydan · 15/11/2025 18:38

No shit it's Saturday!!
The OP states she goes to the hairdressers on a Sunday, I just commented I'd never heard of a salon open on a Sunday

Fight!-fight!-fight!

wizzler · 15/11/2025 18:43

There is a thread on MN at the moment where someone went to get their hair dyed and ended up in hospital having a skin graft. YANBU to expect a professional to do your hair

ShodAndShadySenators · 15/11/2025 18:42

Brood · 15/11/2025 18:27

I have consistently mentioned it if it came up when I was booking in. The salon did make me feel quite unreasonable for it though. It’s extremely frustrating. I think I’ll be labelled the difficult customer now

You won't be called the difficult customer, you'll be called an ex-customer. Because you won't be going back, will you?

Have they considered what would happen if an accident occurred, like a client getting hair dye in their eye? The receptionist/sweeper-up/dogsbody won't be covered under their liability cover, the business wouldn't be insured. It's a huge Health & Safety issue as far as I'm concerned. They shouldn't be allowing an untrained person to put chemicals on customers, full stop.

Steeleydan · 15/11/2025 18:38

WLnamechange · 15/11/2025 18:33

Today is Saturday?

No shit it's Saturday!!
The OP states she goes to the hairdressers on a Sunday, I just commented I'd never heard of a salon open on a Sunday

TheHillIsMine · 15/11/2025 18:35

Brood · 15/11/2025 18:27

I have consistently mentioned it if it came up when I was booking in. The salon did make me feel quite unreasonable for it though. It’s extremely frustrating. I think I’ll be labelled the difficult customer now

Don't let them make you feel unreasonable and who cares if you think you are difficult ? You'd be silly to ever go back though.

WLnamechange · 15/11/2025 18:33

Steeleydan · 15/11/2025 18:18

Me neither, or gone to a hairdressers on a Sunday

Today is Saturday?

TheHillIsMine · 15/11/2025 18:30

Oh come off it. You know it's not okay. Don't do the faux I'm not sure, crap. You're an adult presumably. You know your service was shit.

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 15/11/2025 18:29

RoseAlone · 15/11/2025 18:00

I have no idea what having your colour rubbed in means. I've never had a colour rubbed in in my life!

Of course you do.

You know exactly what OP means.

Don't be that person.

Pollyxplummer · 15/11/2025 18:29

The fact that you are a regular, loyal customer is working against you. They no longer feel they need to impress you, they think you're a sure thing. So they treat you how they want, and give their attention to the people they are trying to reel in.

It absolutely shouldn't be like that. But sadly, it is.

Take your business elsewhere.