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Cleaner/receptionist did my hair at the salon

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Brood · 15/11/2025 17:47

An incident happened at my hairdressers today and I’m wondering if I was the unreasonable one. Before I get into that, I have been going to this salon for about 15 years. I attend between once a week and once a month.

In the past year, there have been issues I’ve been unhappy about. I’ll name two.

I like to get my hair blow dried on Sunday to do me for the working week. On one occasion, the stylist called over a girl working there cleaning the salon and told her it was an opportunity for her to learn. She blow dried and curled half my head of hair while the stylist did the other side. I paid full price but the side the unqualified girl did fell out before I got home.

Another time this unqualified girl rubbed in my colour and washed my hair even though I was booked in with the professional. I again paid full price but my colour wasn’t done right - she missed bits and didn’t put it at the start of the root and I had to wash it myself after 2 days.

I booked in to get my hair done today. The stylist was about 30 minutes late starting - this can be pretty typical, which can be a bit irritating if I’ve rushed to get there on time & could have been getting a coffee in the time I’m sitting waiting. It’s even more annoying that no staff members approach me to inform me how long the delay will be instead walking by me ignoring me.

When the hairdresser eventually came out, she sat me down & cloaked me up & went off to mix my colour. Then she disappeared into the staff kitchen. The same girl from before who works on reception and helps out sweeping the floor etc. came over and started rubbing in my colour independently. She got it all over my face, in my ears and down the back of my neck. After about an hour she came back to wash it out. During the wash, she applied very little pressure and I could tell when I got up the colour wasn’t properly washed out, she applied no conditioner and my hair was full of knots.

The stylist I was booked in with came over and told me this girl was going to start to blow dry my hair. I told her I would prefer to wait until she was ready to do it explaining I had booked in with her. I stressed that I had booked in with her for my colour and wash too. She said she was running behind. I told her if she didn’t have time to do it, I’d prefer to go home and do it myself. I then got up and went to pay. She followed me and I explained that when I ring a professional hairdressing salon to get my hair done, I want it done by a professional. I was told on the phone a professional would be doing it.

I explained that I had got my hair done before at hairdressing colleges and booked in with a student there where I would be charged half price. I explained that the girl who did my hair was not a student, had no hairdressing training and if I wanted an unprofessional job, I could do it myself and save my time and money.

I also said that it should be made clear on the phone if there is no professional available and that it’s not fair to the customer or the girl to be put in the position we were put in.

They asked me if they could clean the dye off me as it was all over my face and neck. I pointed out that it was that way because I had been placed in the hands of someone who wasn’t a professional

The stylist said sorry but I didn’t feel she really meant it. She said things got backed up and she felt it would be better for me to get my hair done with someone rather than no- one. I mean, really?! The manager seemed horrified but she was fully aware of what was going on. I think she was more horrified that they were being called out on it.

Am I the unreasonable one in this situation. Is it too much to expect that if I book in to get my hair professionally done and I am being charged professional prices that I get a professional job?

I came home with wet hair full of knots and spent about 15 minutes removing dye with nail varnish remover. I had a planned date but ended up cancelling it

Do you think this is ok?

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Teddy1949 · 15/11/2025 21:16

Good for you! You’ll feel a lot better for standing up for yourself rather than brooding about it later, especially when you are 100% in the right.

IsawwhatIsaw · 15/11/2025 21:15

Why are you still going there?
you’re being ripped off , paying for a professional service and not getting it

ConnieHeart · 15/11/2025 21:15

I can't believe that anyone not qualified as a hairdresser, even a junior, would be allowed anywhere near someone's hair

Brood · 15/11/2025 21:14

Teddy1949 · 15/11/2025 20:36

I was treated very badly at a salon I had been going to for years, I think I was taken for granted. I didn’t complain in person but phoned to cancel the next appointment, when I explained why the manager called to say the stylist was very upset, I said how did they think I felt. I never returned and can’t understand how you have put up with this for seemingly a long time. Don’t know about you, but where I live there are plenty of salons to choose from.

That’s awful. I live in a small area so there aren’t many salons and less good ones. The previous owners of this salon were personal friends so I got treated well over the years, got prioritised for appointments at busy times. It’s hard to build up that relationship again, but experiences like this make me consider looking elsewhere. I come from a family where we’ve been conditioned to keep the peace at all costs but I’m an adult now so I’m getting better at speaking up even if it can take a while

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Flux1 · 15/11/2025 21:13

Sometimes salons think that regulars will accept anything. I went to a salon for 10 years where the (award winning!) owner was my colourist / stylist. I probably appeared very easy going so when she was under pressure I was the one who would be left longer or didn't have the colour washed out properly. I voted with my feet and moved to a salon who appreciated my business. I've been going there for over 20 years now and they always prioritise their regulars and appreciate loyalty. If I was you, I wouldn't go back.

Kittlewittle · 15/11/2025 21:13

Brood · 15/11/2025 21:08

I didn’t keep having bad experiences. I had maybe 15% of bad experiences in the whole time I’ve been going there. The most recent experiences though and the fact these instances aren’t once offs are becoming harder to brush off

Utterly bizarre. One is too many. Repeated ones, that you say is about 15% is far too many. Find somewhere else.

Again, I would have done after the first incident. They clearly don't value you as a customer.

MrsVBS · 15/11/2025 21:12

Definitely YANBU, awful way to treat a loyal customer, time to find a new salon. If you pay for a qualified hair stylist that’s what you should get and definitely not someone who isn’t qualified. If my hairdresser is running late she lets me know and offers me a drink and snack while I wait with a magazine.

sonjadog · 15/11/2025 21:10

15% is way too many bad experiences! One is too many, but for a place I really liked, then I would give them the benefit of the doubt. Once. The second time they messed up, that would be it and I would be going somewhere else.

Brood · 15/11/2025 21:10

ladyamy · 15/11/2025 21:07

How does a blow dry on a Sunday last the whole week? I’m not being cheeky, just curious!

It’s a good blow dry. It depends on who does it though. Some are better than others. By Friday, it doesn’t look as good but it’s still passable. I don’t have oily hair so maybe that helps

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Brood · 15/11/2025 21:08

NimbleDreamer · 15/11/2025 21:06

Eh? I don't get this. Why would you keep going back when you've had repeated bad experiences?

I feel like at this point it is on you because you keep going back knowing how bad the place is.

I didn’t keep having bad experiences. I had maybe 15% of bad experiences in the whole time I’ve been going there. The most recent experiences though and the fact these instances aren’t once offs are becoming harder to brush off

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ladyamy · 15/11/2025 21:07

How does a blow dry on a Sunday last the whole week? I’m not being cheeky, just curious!

HelterSkelter224 · 15/11/2025 21:07

Brood · 15/11/2025 18:27

I have consistently mentioned it if it came up when I was booking in. The salon did make me feel quite unreasonable for it though. It’s extremely frustrating. I think I’ll be labelled the difficult customer now

You’re definitely not being unreasonable - and I wouldn’t care if they think you’re a difficult customer because if I were you I wouldn’t be a customer of this place any more, if only for the reason that this is how they treat you after 15 years! Find somewhere else, you deserve better! I’m also confused by the “rubbing in of colour”, have they been doing it right??

NimbleDreamer · 15/11/2025 21:06

Eh? I don't get this. Why would you keep going back when you've had repeated bad experiences?

I feel like at this point it is on you because you keep going back knowing how bad the place is.

Puffalicious · 15/11/2025 21:06

Brood · 15/11/2025 20:34

I would honestly love to find someone like that. It’s so hard to find a great stylist and such a relief when you do. I do think having your hair done can make you feel like a million dollars

Yup, worth it's weight in gold.

I used to go to a very well-known, highly regarded & pricey salon. The stylist I had got more & more popular (& pricey) so it was becoming common for trainees to 'finish off' your foils/ blow dry. I had enough after a few visits, told them so & never returned.

Strangely, my now hairdresser trained with this salon, & told me this is so common & the reason he struck out on his own as soon as he could. He's all about the whole person & the whole experience.

Seems like it's a common theme in hairdressing. If you do return perhaps the same will happen with another stylist.

Brood · 15/11/2025 21:05

gamerchick · 15/11/2025 20:49

Yes. Today is Saturday. Could be another Sunday but the OP said today.

Unless we're in Australia?

Today is Saturday. My appointment was today. I was explaining my history with the salon of attending for the 15 years and regularly going for a Sunday appointment so that my hair was done for the week. Sunday would be my preferred day but it depends on availability

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CosySeason · 15/11/2025 21:05

You should have stopped them before they started or they should have at least offered to fix it.

I wouldn’t go back as they care about quantity over quality.

MikeRafone · 15/11/2025 21:05

they are overbooking then taking the Micky, you though called them out on it

but it'll most probably happen again and then they'll be "sorry" as this is just how they operate

Luna6 · 15/11/2025 21:03

Mulledjuice · 15/11/2025 19:45

I cannot fathom that

  1. you have kept booking even though they are regularly very late for your appointment
  2. you rebooked after not having had a satisfactory outcome after complaining last time
  3. you let the receptionist/cleaner keep rubbing the colour into your hair
  4. you then WENT TO PAY - why??! I wouldnt have been opening my purse
  5. you are going there again!

They sound shite but you are unbelievable.

Quite! Why on earth are you considering going back.

Brood · 15/11/2025 21:02

gamerchick · 15/11/2025 20:50

Yeah that was weird as well. If I've had a bad hair job I wouldn't reach for nail varnish remover. It'll be loads of conditioner with a towel wrapped round my head for 10 minutes.

The nail varnish remover was to remove the dye from my skin because it was all over my face, ears and neck

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gamerchick · 15/11/2025 20:58

JustJoinedRightNow · 15/11/2025 20:56

I think she means to get the dye off her skin.

A bit of neat shampoo or washing up soap does that.

JustJoinedRightNow · 15/11/2025 20:56

gamerchick · 15/11/2025 20:50

Yeah that was weird as well. If I've had a bad hair job I wouldn't reach for nail varnish remover. It'll be loads of conditioner with a towel wrapped round my head for 10 minutes.

I think she means to get the dye off her skin.

StephensLass1977 · 15/11/2025 20:52

I voted unreasonable simply because you kept quiet and kept returning. They obviously assumed you were happy with this dreadful arrangement. I just don't know why you didn't speak up earlier. Apologies if there are anxiety issues at play.

gamerchick · 15/11/2025 20:50

Liondoesntsleepatnight · 15/11/2025 20:47

Wtf did you use nail varnish remover? Just hot water and shampoo will do the job, use loads of conditioner.

Never use this salon again

Yeah that was weird as well. If I've had a bad hair job I wouldn't reach for nail varnish remover. It'll be loads of conditioner with a towel wrapped round my head for 10 minutes.

gamerchick · 15/11/2025 20:49

WLnamechange · 15/11/2025 18:33

Today is Saturday?

Yes. Today is Saturday. Could be another Sunday but the OP said today.

Unless we're in Australia?

Liondoesntsleepatnight · 15/11/2025 20:47

Wtf did you use nail varnish remover? Just hot water and shampoo will do the job, use loads of conditioner.

Never use this salon again