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Cleaner/receptionist did my hair at the salon

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Brood · 15/11/2025 17:47

An incident happened at my hairdressers today and I’m wondering if I was the unreasonable one. Before I get into that, I have been going to this salon for about 15 years. I attend between once a week and once a month.

In the past year, there have been issues I’ve been unhappy about. I’ll name two.

I like to get my hair blow dried on Sunday to do me for the working week. On one occasion, the stylist called over a girl working there cleaning the salon and told her it was an opportunity for her to learn. She blow dried and curled half my head of hair while the stylist did the other side. I paid full price but the side the unqualified girl did fell out before I got home.

Another time this unqualified girl rubbed in my colour and washed my hair even though I was booked in with the professional. I again paid full price but my colour wasn’t done right - she missed bits and didn’t put it at the start of the root and I had to wash it myself after 2 days.

I booked in to get my hair done today. The stylist was about 30 minutes late starting - this can be pretty typical, which can be a bit irritating if I’ve rushed to get there on time & could have been getting a coffee in the time I’m sitting waiting. It’s even more annoying that no staff members approach me to inform me how long the delay will be instead walking by me ignoring me.

When the hairdresser eventually came out, she sat me down & cloaked me up & went off to mix my colour. Then she disappeared into the staff kitchen. The same girl from before who works on reception and helps out sweeping the floor etc. came over and started rubbing in my colour independently. She got it all over my face, in my ears and down the back of my neck. After about an hour she came back to wash it out. During the wash, she applied very little pressure and I could tell when I got up the colour wasn’t properly washed out, she applied no conditioner and my hair was full of knots.

The stylist I was booked in with came over and told me this girl was going to start to blow dry my hair. I told her I would prefer to wait until she was ready to do it explaining I had booked in with her. I stressed that I had booked in with her for my colour and wash too. She said she was running behind. I told her if she didn’t have time to do it, I’d prefer to go home and do it myself. I then got up and went to pay. She followed me and I explained that when I ring a professional hairdressing salon to get my hair done, I want it done by a professional. I was told on the phone a professional would be doing it.

I explained that I had got my hair done before at hairdressing colleges and booked in with a student there where I would be charged half price. I explained that the girl who did my hair was not a student, had no hairdressing training and if I wanted an unprofessional job, I could do it myself and save my time and money.

I also said that it should be made clear on the phone if there is no professional available and that it’s not fair to the customer or the girl to be put in the position we were put in.

They asked me if they could clean the dye off me as it was all over my face and neck. I pointed out that it was that way because I had been placed in the hands of someone who wasn’t a professional

The stylist said sorry but I didn’t feel she really meant it. She said things got backed up and she felt it would be better for me to get my hair done with someone rather than no- one. I mean, really?! The manager seemed horrified but she was fully aware of what was going on. I think she was more horrified that they were being called out on it.

Am I the unreasonable one in this situation. Is it too much to expect that if I book in to get my hair professionally done and I am being charged professional prices that I get a professional job?

I came home with wet hair full of knots and spent about 15 minutes removing dye with nail varnish remover. I had a planned date but ended up cancelling it

Do you think this is ok?

OP posts:
MTPF · 17/11/2025 04:49

Brood · 16/11/2025 22:23

Do you think? That would be very odd behaviour for a business… I say as if it’s not odd they’re letting the receptionist do my hair

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It's very odd to use the receptionist to do your hair, if they wanted to keep you as a customer they would be treating you properly. It's totally unacceptable to palm you off with an unqualified hairdresser and charge you full price. Either ask them what's going on, or find another hairdresser. Don't let them treat you like this again.

Jaggy1 · 16/11/2025 23:56

Brood · 16/11/2025 22:26

That’s scandalous. They can curl it after cutting it. Maybe the quieter places are the salons to go to. These busy places seem to have no respect. It’s such a vulnerable position to be in too because once someone has messed up your hair, that can’t be undone

Always full price too 🤣

It’s crazy, I just thought it must be ‘salon culture’ or something but when you go somewhere really professional the difference is crazy!

Barnbrack · 16/11/2025 23:56

Brood · 16/11/2025 23:40

It’s actually 5 days - the working week. It’s actually fine. My hair isn’t oily. It’s dry. I need to add oil to it a lot. This was recommended by several hairdressers and my hair has never been in better condition. When I used to wash it every day, it was like straw and all falling out. This is really common. Those with weaves can wash the hair a lot less often and it’s fine. Speak for yourself

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You still sweat even if it's not oily.

I don't wash my hair every day, 3 times a week ish, but mon-fru not washing? What about cooking smells and things. That's so weird to me

Brood · 16/11/2025 23:40

Barnbrack · 16/11/2025 22:33

But you'll sweat into.it, you're going a whole week not washing sweat off your scalp 🤢 it's not how it looks, it'd literally stink by then

It’s actually 5 days - the working week. It’s actually fine. My hair isn’t oily. It’s dry. I need to add oil to it a lot. This was recommended by several hairdressers and my hair has never been in better condition. When I used to wash it every day, it was like straw and all falling out. This is really common. Those with weaves can wash the hair a lot less often and it’s fine. Speak for yourself

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Barnbrack · 16/11/2025 22:34

Brood · 16/11/2025 22:23

Do you think? That would be very odd behaviour for a business… I say as if it’s not odd they’re letting the receptionist do my hair

Edited

Maybe your hair is smelly

Barnbrack · 16/11/2025 22:33

Brood · 16/11/2025 14:20

That has happened before. I usually tie it up for those activities in a way that it’s won’t be a mess. Some of the best blow dries are almost like a Brazilian blow dry, they last. This is probably one of the reasons I keep going back. My favourite stylist there does an amazing blow dry and cut

Edited

But you'll sweat into.it, you're going a whole week not washing sweat off your scalp 🤢 it's not how it looks, it'd literally stink by then

Brood · 16/11/2025 22:26

Jaggy1 · 16/11/2025 18:35

I stopped going to my regular hairdresser a few years ago due to this.
Not untrained but really new trainees, the hairdresser would do my foils, then trainees did everything else til the stylist came back and trimmed it quickly before shoving me out the door. Just hated it, my hairs so damaged they always hurt me drying it and attacking it with a brush 🤣 also meant I never got a good wet cut & couldn’t ever have my hair curled because they needdd it straight to cut.

definitely in the right to bring it up & call them out, I just stopped going there & now have a salon with no trainees! I know they need to learn somewhere and I’d be happy for them to do bits but they were just left to do it all & it was never a nice experience.

That’s scandalous. They can curl it after cutting it. Maybe the quieter places are the salons to go to. These busy places seem to have no respect. It’s such a vulnerable position to be in too because once someone has messed up your hair, that can’t be undone

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Brood · 16/11/2025 22:23

MTPF · 16/11/2025 22:06

I think they are trying to put you off booking an appointment. Take the hint and don't go back. They should be hony and just say they don't want you as a customer. Sorry to point this out to you, but you're clearly not getting the message

Do you think? That would be very odd behaviour for a business… I say as if it’s not odd they’re letting the receptionist do my hair

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Brood · 16/11/2025 22:16

Try2makeadifference · 16/11/2025 21:53

At my hairdressers there is a lady who does reception, sweeping, tea & coffee and shampoo/ conditioner/ toner.
She trained as a Hairdresser years ago but then trained and qualified in another profession. She has now semi retired and helps in the salon as her relative owns it. HOWEVER, she never puts colour on and never blow dries, styles etc. And, as I said, she actually qualified as a hairdresser previously. For them to have a girl, not even training to be a hairdresser, or supervised in any way carry out these things is absolutely insane and negligent.

Thank you. I feel exactly the same. I just can’t believe some people. I feel this rude, disrespectful, lacking in any duty of care and kind of exploitative. I also feel sorry for this young girl who is being put in this position. They have no consideration for her either and I doubt she has the maturity to understand she’s being taken advantage of and not being protected from putting customers at risk, which she shouldn’t be exposed to anyway & I doubt she feels like she can say no. It’s hard to understand the mentality

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MTPF · 16/11/2025 22:06

I think they are trying to put you off booking an appointment. Take the hint and don't go back. They should be hony and just say they don't want you as a customer. Sorry to point this out to you, but you're clearly not getting the message

Fiddy1964 · 16/11/2025 22:06

TheWytch · 15/11/2025 17:53

You know it's not OK

Why did you go back after the first two instances?

My thoughts also. Certainly would not have went back a 3rd time after first 2 occasions.

Try2makeadifference · 16/11/2025 21:53

At my hairdressers there is a lady who does reception, sweeping, tea & coffee and shampoo/ conditioner/ toner.
She trained as a Hairdresser years ago but then trained and qualified in another profession. She has now semi retired and helps in the salon as her relative owns it. HOWEVER, she never puts colour on and never blow dries, styles etc. And, as I said, she actually qualified as a hairdresser previously. For them to have a girl, not even training to be a hairdresser, or supervised in any way carry out these things is absolutely insane and negligent.

UnderTheStarryNight · 16/11/2025 21:50

I’m amazed you went back more than once after what they did. Don’t go there again.

Elemenopea · 16/11/2025 21:21

To be honest I’d want details of their insurance, pretty sure their liability insurers have no idea they have unqualified members of staff providing treatments to members of the public!!

Tuesdayschild50 · 16/11/2025 20:29

Absolutely not ok... I'd be fuming xx

Catsknowbest · 16/11/2025 20:13

Wexone · 16/11/2025 18:55

it's a skill ain't it 🤣
on hols recently and got my hair blow dried in the hotel she went phew when finished and pumped her arms 💪 I have very long thick hair and can not get it right at home and I have every tool you can get
I treat myself once a month to getting a blow dry. it drives my husband mad

Lol 😅 and good for you!

Bougee · 16/11/2025 19:11

Hairdresser/salon owner here, this is appalling and definitely shouldn’t be happening. The whole service should be done by the stylist (with the exception of an apprentice possibly shampooing) you are perfectly within your rights to complain. Definitely shouldn’t be someone unqualified doing a colour service even if it's just a root retouch. Shocking

celticprincess · 16/11/2025 19:07

I must be lucky as the juniors are my salon are apprentices. When they start at the college they start on general sweeping, hair washing, reception duties but then as they progress through their course they get more. Often they help apply a colour and are shown how to do it before getting left straight away. Our salon doesn’t have anyone who only cleans, does coffees and washes hair. They’re all trainees. And often even the qualified people will do those jobs depending on bookings.

I’d complain. I only complained once when I got home and my colour hadn’t taken at my routes. In the salon it looked like the lights were reflecting but at home it was clear. My grey roots now need a different mix after a new skin test and leaving on longer.

ThatChristmasMug · 16/11/2025 19:02

PuppyMonkey · 16/11/2025 19:00

Another one here fascinated at the blow dry that lasts all week. Grin

yes! 😂

PuppyMonkey · 16/11/2025 19:00

Another one here fascinated at the blow dry that lasts all week. Grin

Wexone · 16/11/2025 18:55

Catsknowbest · 16/11/2025 18:52

So would I...! My hairdresser does such an amazing wash, cut and dry and it will last perfectly 48hrs. I'm always devastated that despite perfect cut I can never 100% recreate it 😫

it's a skill ain't it 🤣
on hols recently and got my hair blow dried in the hotel she went phew when finished and pumped her arms 💪 I have very long thick hair and can not get it right at home and I have every tool you can get
I treat myself once a month to getting a blow dry. it drives my husband mad

Catsknowbest · 16/11/2025 18:52

Wexone · 16/11/2025 15:32

totally agree a good blow dry will last a week. even a beauty writer wrote an article on how a good blow dry will.last one week. I only wash my hair once a week anyway but if got a good blow dry don't need any dry shampoo towards the end of the week. love it and if could afford it would get it done every week

So would I...! My hairdresser does such an amazing wash, cut and dry and it will last perfectly 48hrs. I'm always devastated that despite perfect cut I can never 100% recreate it 😫

Evaka · 16/11/2025 18:51

This is bonkers. Find a new salon and someone good at their job, then only book them by name. I dont care who washes my hair but after that it must be the person I've booked and pay a premium for.

Catsknowbest · 16/11/2025 18:50

No its not ok and you are not being unreasonable...! My hairdresser would never do this. Yours is taking on more bookings than she can cope with and frankly it is greed because she is then expecting full payment for an unprofessional service!

mamagogo1 · 16/11/2025 18:44

How can a blow dry last a week, my hair is lank after one day and needs a wash for sure after 2, it smells too. Don’t you shower daily? Somewhat missing point of point I admit