Made myself worse

If you needed to lose weight for health reasons then well done. You don't say what age you are. I have several friends over 40 who have used the weight loss jabs and lost an average of 3 stones (40 lbs). While this undoubtedly benefits their overall health, their looks have suffered with them appearing 10+years older as their skin sagged. They have resorted to fillers and botox to try and restore their pre weightloss looks but unfortunately they just look strange. As my American friend said, "You need to choose between your face and your fanny." (Fanny being American for bum!)

As women we are fed wads of material about how we should look. Effing ignore it. It's persistent, ruthless and completely unattainable. But more importantly, it's It's not real, it's a manufactured sales tactic by the trillion pounds per year beauty industry. Get therapy and try to accept the possibility that you may not actually see yourself accurately because we have been brainwashed.

He loves you the way you are. Trust the person who loves you and who has known you all this time to tell you the truth about how you actually look.

Get yourself to therapy to find out why you are in the hairdo olympics. Do you even know? Find a different hobby that isn't a fixation on your face and body because it's unhealthy. If you don't, you will one day pass by a mirror and think "oh, my god, what have I done to myself?"

Keep in mind that none of those things, besides exercise and good health, age well.

Someone at work, who is so naturally beautiful, has just had Botox and she looks so different and her face is almost distorted now. It's so sad, as she was incredibly pretty.

I'm sorry that you are upset, but it's possible that you do look more different than you realise.

It’s a shame. My friend has subtle Botox and lip filler. She feels good and likes the way she looks. My personal opinion is that she doesn’t look as good as she did before. But she’s my friend. So I’d never tell her my views. I would however tell my DH in the same situation and would expect him to tell me. But respectfully and not as a shot in an argument. It’s no wonder you feel hurt.

This!

Botox lips look absolutely awful.

Some of my friends have had Botox. They think it’s subtle. IMO it isn’t. I stay silent.

Lip fillers are so obvious and not normal too.

He's just being honest as he clearly doesn't like the botox and lipfiller look? These procedures change your appearance and it was how you looked naturally he prefers.

Ai

The Botox is fine as long as it’s subtle, but lip filler is something you either like or you don’t. It can look ok when someone has a full face of makeup on but odd when you’re not wearing makeup according to the men in my family

I’ve spoken to many men about it and most don’t like it, especially kissing filled lips or touching fake boobs. I wouldn’t like it if my husband changed his face
There’s a certain subset of men who like that stuff

Another one who thinks it's nice that he loves you natural. Honestly the look atm is so odd 😐 I don't think those having it done realise how jarring it looks.

Or is he worried you’re loosing weight, looking good with a little lip filler & Botox and is worried you’re going to find someone better than him and leave him.

only you know him, so only you can decide.

Loads of people don't like the fake look. I would be more insulted if someone preferred me with procedures than natural. I think it's actually a compliment.

He's being honest, most men don't like botox and fat lips I've 3 sons who say that. At least now you know his thoughts before you choose to have any more.

Completely agree

You are right, I was the one who misread it. I stand corrected.
OP you seem to be needy and seeking validation from others.
Chances are everybody is telling you what you want to hear. Frankly, when was the last time you told someone after having had plastic surgery that the end result was worse off ? Surgery is such a significant decision that takes time, money, and emotional investment, and people don’t want to make someone feel they’ve wasted their effort or fallen for something that didn’t work as promised.
Your husband is the only person who is being completely honest and you should thank him. You are being extremely unfair to him.

He’s being honest.

People do say ‘you look well’ when people have had cosmetic procedures. It’s non committal yet positive. If you don’t think they look good you don’t want to say anything too positive!

He is telling you that he thought you looked better before, I don’t think that’s shitty.

Preferring your natural beauty is better than wanting you to go through cosmetic procedures.

Unless I’m misreading it, her DH said that he was being a cunt.

He is allowed to have an opinion. There are many people who don't like the look of botox, myself included. However, calling you a cunt is completely out of order.

I think he may be worried you are going to get more 'work' done on your body and face and perhaps he's worried the real you will 'disappear' and you'll have the current look that's really strong at the moment.

Botox and filler often do make women look worse though, and older. He probably likes a more natural look.

He’s not being shitty. He’s being kind, telling you that you’re ruining your face with all that you are doing to it.
He met and loves you ‘natural’, not plumped up and ironed out.