Made myself worse

I'm not against a 'little help' and if it's something you want to do, that's your choice. Your husband has expressed his opinion (even if it wasn't great timing) and perhaps he's not said anything previously because, he knows it's your body therefore your choice. Lip fillers in my personal opinion are probably the one thing that can look obvious and over-the-top very quickly. I don't know many men, who would think it's a fabulous look. He clearly does find you attractive, and likes you as you are - most men would have encouraged you to have a breast enlargement, when you suggested it. He's not stopping you from having Botox or lip fillers, that's still very much your choice, but he's telling you he prefers you without it. I prefer my husband clean shaven, but if he decided to grown a beard, that's his choice, I wouldn't tell him he couldn't but I'd say I prefer him without it. I wouldn't find him unattractive with a beard, as he's still my husband, I'd just prefer him without it.

Yes. That’s what AIBU is for, asking for opinions. Everyone is sharing their opinion.

Agreed, it's the polite way to say I don't like it but I don't want to tell you that.

He is right, it doesn't look nice, if my husband deliberately changed his looks i would say the same to him

It is fake and looks fake same as faking baldness on men or men getting botox

I think it would’ve been more cruel to say something about a procedure that you couldn’t reverse. As this filler and Botox are temporary, he probably felt ok about feeding back to you.

Do you think you’ll have them again?

Yes. Lip filler makes everyone look worse and I won’t change my mind on that.

He didn’t really need to say that to you though OP, unless you asked for his opinion.

Obviously it's wrong that it came out in this way but I think actually it can be a bit unfair to partners when the person they're in a relationship with has cosmetic procedures done. You fall inlove with someone and they're face is often a part of this then all of a sudden they start changing it. Similarly, all these procedures do have the affect where a lot of people who have them look very similar to eachother.

It clearly hasn't changed how he feels about you but he is allowed to prefer how you naturally looked before you started with these procedures. Maybe the conversation about your breasts made him feel like he had to say something before it got out of hand.

Could have been worded more delicately - perhaps if he said "I thought you were even more beautiful naturally and I don't think you should have any more alterations to your body because you look great as you are".

Whole heartedly agree with this.

everyone says I look well

'Everyone' really isn't going to say otherwise, are they? It's generally noticeable and the safest/nicest thing to say is that you 'look well'
Not saying you don't but don't put too much stock in 'everyone says'

Your partner probably loved the way you looked before botox and lip filler, and maybe prefers a more natural look. Is the "everyone" who comment positively other women who also have botox and fillers? That might skew opinions a bit. Also, most people would say something nice if only to be polite.

Tbh 0.5 ml of filler is noticeable, and unless you had very thin lips previously, it will give a bit of a pout. I think this look has become more normalised in recent years, but I still find it noticeable and sometimes jarring. I think that very few of those injecting are skilled enough to do it in such a way that is subtly enhancing, rather than distracting and artificial looking. However,, that's the look that many aim for, so whatever rocks their boat, but other's don't have to like it.

Opinions on here are implicit. Anyone starting a thread on here is consenting to opinions, no matter how agreeable they may or may not be.

So no, my opinion wasn't requested because it doesn't need to be.

Do you have any more silly questions?

It sounds like he loved you as you were and wasn't so keen on the change, although he still thinks you're lively. Why did you have it done?

It’s a really tough one, and not nice if it’s made you feel self conscious. It sounds like it’s just his way of saying he prefers your natural looks but definitely came across wrong in an argument.

My personal opinion is that Botox can look great if done well but I always find lip filler noticeable and distracting when I’m talking to someone. My SIL gets 0.5ml and I think she looks so much better without! (Not that I would ever say this to her).

From the way the men I work with speak, I don’t think that many men like the look. As long as you’re happy with it then that’s what matters.

My impression is that most men prefer the natural look. Obviously you do what makes you happy, but he loves you just as you are naturally.

I'm not sure it's any different than if my DH shaved his facial hair off and asked my opinion and I told him I prefer him with the facial hair.

Im sorry but Botox and fillers look completely unnatural and odd to me - I really don’t know what is attractive about having lips like Donald Duck - appreciate yours might not be like that

I don’t think people who have it can see it because they never see their face moving

see Demi Moore on the one show tonight…awful!

Apologies for all the typos, the cat is lying on me lol

Realistically, 0.5ml of filler will make very little difference on most people. The pillowy celwb lips are usually around 3ml. And a small amout of botox can loik very natural and give a refreshed loik depending on where you get it. But really its hard to tell on yourself, b3cause when your face is still it looks great, its when it moves it loik odd. I can tell my smile has changed since having filler, but i wanted to replace a sudden loss of volume, and felt very self concious of my lips, so im happy to have a slightly different smile but have proper lips again.

I think it would be a lot more hurtful if he was urging you to have a boob job, get your face sorted out, etc, etc. He obviously should not have voiced his opinion in such an undiplomatiuc way but, if you think about it without seeing it as a criticism, it might give you a great deal of comfort and confidence. He has said you are lovely as you are and so you shouldn't feel the need to have stuff injected into your body on a regular basis, to the point where you won't look like you any more.

Did anybody ask for your opinion?

You had botox and lip filler and it made you feel good about so ignore all the other pp who have a negative opinion about it. Your face, your life.

My guess is he was trying to dog at your insecurities during an argument and hit you where it hurt. Fuck him as long as you like how you look.

Sounds like you are being insecure and over reacting. Nobody else would tell you if you didn’t look good by the way. I don’t look at people with Botox and filler and think ‘oh they look good’ I think they look like they’ve had Botox and filler and looked better before, I’d never say anything other than they look lovely to them though. It’s an unnatural look even when done well so not everyone will like it and he’s allowed an opinion.

Just because he is allowed an opinion it doesn’t mean he can say whatever he wants. That was really unkind and I’d be sad knowing he thinks that. It doesn’t sound as if you’ve overdone the procedures so I assume he must look like a Greek god himself to be making these comments

Imho plastic surgery should be limited to two categories:

• Disfigurement as a result of cancer, burns or injury
• Physical abnormalities, ie deviated septum, inverted eyelashes

Nobody needs fuller lips or botox. Or BBLs. Or breast augmentations.

Your natural looks, what you were born with, are far more attractive than any highly-skilled plastic surgeon can ever achieve. Remember that.