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Lost my ring, handed in, pub denying so.

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AJLOAL · 15/11/2025 08:35

So, 3 weeks ago on a rare night out I lost a ring (was just a tad tispy!). I phoned the pub, taxi etc the next morning but no joy.
Put an insurance claim in which is currently being processed.
Last night my DD found a FB post with a photo of my ring and a caption saying it had been handed into the bar the following afternoon of my visit.
I phoned the bar, and the manager (he said he hadn't been there long) looked, spoke to staff who said they knew nothing about it but there was another manager he could message and he'd ask them to phone me back.
Since then I've received a reply from the lady who handed it in with a description of the staff member and possible name.
If it doesn't reappear do I have any recourse? I'm sure the police won't be interested.
The ring is worth about £1,000.
AIBU to think I'll get it back?

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Londonrach1 · 16/11/2025 19:27

Report to police but suspect pub has given it to someone who claimed it on day 1.

yellowlabrador · 16/11/2025 19:27

phone the police. Report as a theft. Also I'd be outing the pub and it's dishonest, horrible staff all over social media. They have stollen your property

smithsgj · 16/11/2025 19:24

Lostuser · 15/11/2025 18:03

I don’t think 111 will be much help

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Bit like your post then?

Moochuck · 16/11/2025 19:15

Could you post on Facebook what's happened? The pub won't want the bad press

Superhansrantowindsor · 16/11/2025 19:06

Please please please keep us updated! I think of the police don’t help you put it all over local social media. I wouldn’t visit a pub if I knew the staff were so horrible.

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AJLOAL · 16/11/2025 19:01

grumpygrape · 16/11/2025 18:58

Rooting for you OP. I hope the lovely person who found it and handed it in will help with getting the Police to investigate.

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Yes she has agreed to. Her husband and uncle were with her when she handed it in also.

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grumpygrape · 16/11/2025 18:58

AJLOAL · 16/11/2025 18:39

I hope this happens for me!

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Rooting for you OP. I hope the lovely person who found it and handed it in will help with getting the Police to investigate.

uggmum · 16/11/2025 18:56

If the ring was handed in and you feel that a staff member might have kept it. Then I am pretty sure it is a crime.
there is a crime of ‘theft by finding’.
so if the police take it seriously then someone could at least be held accountable

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AJLOAL · 16/11/2025 18:39

loobywench · 15/11/2025 09:44

This exact thing happened to mum who lost a ring in the pub toilet. She took it off to wash her hands and forgot to put it back on. I phoned the pub who said it hadn't been handed it. I put a post on Facebook a couple of days later and someone responded saying they had handed it in. I phoned the pub back and it had miraculously appeared!

I hope this happens for me!

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Arlanymor · 16/11/2025 18:37

Thanks for the update, but how disappointing. I am still holding out hope that someone's conscience is pricked and you get it back.

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AJLOAL · 16/11/2025 18:35

Seymour5 · 15/11/2025 18:54

I thought ‘theft by finding’ was a thing?. The police may take it up.

Don't know, I'll find out more tomorrow I guess.

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AJLOAL · 16/11/2025 18:34

EdinaTheConfessor · 16/11/2025 02:20

I hope you get it back OP, I genuinely don’t understand how some people can be so dishonest.

Me neither. Jewellery usually has sentimental value as mine has.

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AJLOAL · 16/11/2025 18:31

Well no change really. Spoke to the manager who says he's spoken to all the staff, even the one I described it was handed in to apparently.
All I could really say was that my insurers and police (101!) will be in touch as statements etc will need to be obtained as they've either lost it or its been stolen while in their possession.

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Wynturphelle · 16/11/2025 10:49

Something similar happened when my eight year old son left his games console in the door pocket of a hire car. When we realised it was missing, a few days after returning the car, I contacted the hire car company and they said they didn't have it in lost property. I asked if I could come and check the car. I was told the car was out on hire so I asked if I could check when it was returned. They then told me the car had been sold! I phoned back to ask for the car details as I was putting in a police report...30 minutes later the car hire company phoned back to say they had found my missing item. A bloke brought it round and just about threw it at me when I opened the door to him! Good luck with recovering your ring.

rasnnz · 16/11/2025 10:35

Hope you get it back. People are such low lives these days.

EdinaTheConfessor · 16/11/2025 02:20

I hope you get it back OP, I genuinely don’t understand how some people can be so dishonest.

biggestcatmom · 15/11/2025 21:36

Seymour5 · 15/11/2025 18:54

I thought ‘theft by finding’ was a thing?. The police may take it up.

I believe it is

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AJLOAL · 15/11/2025 21:36

FuzzyWolf · 15/11/2025 19:31

I would see what the pub say but let them know you will be reporting it to the police as theft and provide them with the crime reference number to pass on to the member of staff who was given the ring.

Another great idea, asking for the crime number to be passed on to the staff member.

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AJLOAL · 15/11/2025 21:33

GotSomeChipsAhoyIfYoureHungry · 15/11/2025 20:07

Placemarking for update!

I promise I'll come back to update 😁

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AJLOAL · 15/11/2025 21:32

OnTheBoardwalk · 15/11/2025 21:24

I think 101 is a baddie holding their hands up and 111 is that you are ill. It’s the way I remember them

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This will stick with me now lol, thanks.

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AJLOAL · 15/11/2025 21:30

2025VibeandThrive · 15/11/2025 09:11

I would tell the pub I’m going to the police for the insurance claim and just wanted to check ‘one last time’ to give them that opportunity to confess.

Then I would report it and have a look around any pawnbrokers in the area.

Didn't think about going round pawnbrokers and jewellers.

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AJLOAL · 15/11/2025 21:28

MILLYmo0se · 15/11/2025 18:44

It could well have been stolen but also could be that like so many places they don't have a specific place or system of logging and storing found items. You are depending on there being one central place it could have been put when handed in, and even if there is one someone chucks it in a random drawer meaning to bring it up to that office or wherever later but forgets, or if they realise it's a very expensive item they put it somewhere 'safer' but not everyone answering the phone or at the bar knows they did that.
I dropped my bank card in Primark and on checking for it the next day they had recorded in their lost/found log, I'd imagine a lot of things get accidentally left there from kids comforter to bank cards or jewellery, so they have a good system for nothing a description of what was found/by who/time of day and some identifying details eg the name on the card, but it wasn't where it should have been kept. After 2 more visits they then rang me to say it had turned up somewhere random in payroll office, I don't think anyone was trying to steal it, it just was mislaid.
Definitely go back and mention about police being involved, that ll wake them up enough to at least messege all staff about it so if it's been a mistake it can be cleared up and if not they can deal with police.

Thank you for giving me hope. I'll keep on at them as you suggest.

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ElizabethsTailor · 15/11/2025 21:28

OnTheBoardwalk · 15/11/2025 21:24

I think 101 is a baddie holding their hands up and 111 is that you are ill. It’s the way I remember them

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😂I love that! I think I will use that in future.

OnTheBoardwalk · 15/11/2025 21:24

AJLOAL · 15/11/2025 17:58

Yes, you're all right. I'll phone 111 tomorrow for advice.

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I think 101 is a baddie holding their hands up and 111 is that you are ill. It’s the way I remember them

Nearly50omg · 15/11/2025 20:09

You need to report it to the police for insurance company anyway so add all
thsi extra stuff and tell the pub you are contacting the police with a description of the person at the pub - they may suddenly “find” it in