Lost my ring, handed in, pub denying so.

AJLOAL · 2025-11-15T08:35:21+00:00

So, 3 weeks ago on a rare night out I lost a ring (was just a tad tispy!). I phoned the pub, taxi etc the next morning but no joy. Put an insurance claim in which is currently being processed. Last night my DD found a FB post with a photo of my ring and a caption saying it had been handed into the bar the following afternoon of my visit. I phoned the bar, and the manager (he said he hadn't been there long) looked, spoke to staff who said they knew nothing about it but there was another manager he could message and he'd ask them to phone me back. Since then I've received a reply from the lady who handed it in with a description of the staff member and possible name. If it doesn't reappear do I have any recourse? I'm sure the police won't be interested. The ring is worth about £1,000. AIBU to think I'll get it back?

deeahgwitch · 05/12/2025 09:32

If the barman took it, management at the bar are employing a thief and a liar. 🙄Good luck with that in the pub business.

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AJLOAL · 04/12/2025 18:36

ghostiewhisp · 23/11/2025 14:05

That. It doesn’t have to be complex. We just had a big plastic container for stuff like umbrellas and then anything valuable went in the safe
I even went through someone’s handbag once to find a prescription which had an address and took her handbag back to her, contents intact

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Yes I used to work in Waitrose and we'd write in a book what had been found/handed in. Anything of value I'd put in the safe, otherwise it was put in a bag. I also went out of my way to try and find the owners and often reunited them with their possessions.
The barman obviously kept my ring for himself and either gave it away as a gift or flogged it.

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Picklelily99 · 04/12/2025 16:22

I'm so frustrated on your behalf! I'm like a dog with a bone when I lose something, I have to explore every avenue. But to have it stolen, and KNOW who has it??? I just couldn't settle!

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AJLOAL · 04/12/2025 16:13

No. I've given up tbh. The police haven't done anything as yet, only tried contacting the lady who found it the once but it went to voicemail. Obviously I understand this is not a priority in any way, I'd just rather they'd have said they didn't have time to look into it in the first place.
So I'm talking to my insurers again.

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WinterBerry40 · 04/12/2025 16:07

@AJLOAL Any news ?

WinterBerry40 · 04/12/2025 16:07

Any news ?

madaboutpurple · 24/11/2025 11:45

I saw a post and the pub doesn't have CCTV.

noisypipework · 24/11/2025 01:01

No you need to go and tell them they need to keep that part of CCTV and youve put them on notice

smithsgj · 24/11/2025 00:26

Lostuser · 16/11/2025 20:37

111 is NHS not the police 🤦🏻‍♀️

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Yes indeed and if you’d said that in your original response it would have been potentially helpful

Isittimeformynapyet · 23/11/2025 17:04

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 23/11/2025 16:43

Not to mention the useful little button underneath the first post which says "see all"; if you click on it you can read all the OP's posts and find out what action she has since taken about what she's talked about in that first post.

Saves a lot of wasted pixels, that button.

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Absolutely. I didn't want to overload the pp with information. Baby steps an' all that...

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 23/11/2025 16:43

Isittimeformynapyet · 23/11/2025 16:28

All threads are dated. This one started on the 15th, over a week ago. You can also see at the top how many posts have been contributed so far (154 in this instance).

Do you really think that the OP has done nothing during the last eight days?

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Not to mention the useful little button underneath the first post which says "see all"; if you click on it you can read all the OP's posts and find out what action she has since taken about what she's talked about in that first post.

Saves a lot of wasted pixels, that button.

Isittimeformynapyet · 23/11/2025 16:28

Marieb19 · 23/11/2025 15:57

Report it to the police

All threads are dated. This one started on the 15th, over a week ago. You can also see at the top how many posts have been contributed so far (154 in this instance).

Do you really think that the OP has done nothing during the last eight days?

PInkyStarfish · 23/11/2025 16:01

Marieb19 · 23/11/2025 15:57

Report it to the police

Read the thread

Marieb19 · 23/11/2025 15:57

Report it to the police

ghostiewhisp · 23/11/2025 14:05

Arlanymor · 22/11/2025 16:54

Coming back to this - it reminded me of when I worked in a pub during uni. We had a lost property process - high value items would go in the safe, low value items would go in a lock box in the office (which itself was locked). We also had to write down in a book what had been found, when and where - i.e. 22 November, 4:51pm, silver ring under table 7.

In this situation not only does the pub not appear to have a process, the people working there don't seem keen to help reunite someone with their property either. It's not just the value issue - jewellery is often sentimental. If I were the manager I would be doing everything I could to help, but it's not coming across that this is happening here, which is a real shame. Anyone can lose anything, you just hope that when it happens to you, that people rally round to assist.

That. It doesn’t have to be complex. We just had a big plastic container for stuff like umbrellas and then anything valuable went in the safe
I even went through someone’s handbag once to find a prescription which had an address and took her handbag back to her, contents intact

Namechangerage · 23/11/2025 13:59

AJLOAL · 23/11/2025 11:09

The police finally called me on Wednesday. I gave them all the info I had and passed on the phone number of the lady who handed it in. I haven't heard anything further since then so I'm presuming they haven't gone into the bar yet. Highly unlikely it'll be "found" I think but at least I've tried. Been round the local jewellers too and asked them to keep a look out etc.

I think you’ve been incredibly passive about this. I would be down there daily kicking up a fuss, talking to the regulars, etc

Susiy · 23/11/2025 13:56

The employee will pay a greater price for his dishonesty - he's just trashed his reputation locally.

Fluffsicles · 23/11/2025 12:07

AJLOAL · 23/11/2025 11:09

The police finally called me on Wednesday. I gave them all the info I had and passed on the phone number of the lady who handed it in. I haven't heard anything further since then so I'm presuming they haven't gone into the bar yet. Highly unlikely it'll be "found" I think but at least I've tried. Been round the local jewellers too and asked them to keep a look out etc.

Really hope you get it back, and if the employer knows an employee is stealing then hopefully they'd be fired.

PInkyStarfish · 23/11/2025 12:05

AJLOAL · 23/11/2025 11:09

The police finally called me on Wednesday. I gave them all the info I had and passed on the phone number of the lady who handed it in. I haven't heard anything further since then so I'm presuming they haven't gone into the bar yet. Highly unlikely it'll be "found" I think but at least I've tried. Been round the local jewellers too and asked them to keep a look out etc.

Look on eBay at your local listings, Facebook marketplace place and Vinted.

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AJLOAL · 23/11/2025 11:09

The police finally called me on Wednesday. I gave them all the info I had and passed on the phone number of the lady who handed it in. I haven't heard anything further since then so I'm presuming they haven't gone into the bar yet. Highly unlikely it'll be "found" I think but at least I've tried. Been round the local jewellers too and asked them to keep a look out etc.

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AJLOAL · 23/11/2025 11:05

OfficiousBystander · 23/11/2025 10:10

If the claim is settled (not just 'agreed'), the property in the ring passes to the insurer and you are not entitled to keep it if it does reappear via the pub. You would need to notify the insurer if it is found and could almost certainly then keep it by repaying the insurance payout. Do give all the facts to the insurer and the police, if only to protect your own position against any suggestion of fraud or collusion.

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Both my insurers and the police have all in the info. My claim hasn't been settled, agreed in principle only but it's on hold until I hear back from the police.

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OfficiousBystander · 23/11/2025 10:10

AJLOAL · 15/11/2025 11:54

The claim has been agreed but I'd rather have my ring back.

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If the claim is settled (not just 'agreed'), the property in the ring passes to the insurer and you are not entitled to keep it if it does reappear via the pub. You would need to notify the insurer if it is found and could almost certainly then keep it by repaying the insurance payout. Do give all the facts to the insurer and the police, if only to protect your own position against any suggestion of fraud or collusion.

Arlanymor · 22/11/2025 16:54

Coming back to this - it reminded me of when I worked in a pub during uni. We had a lost property process - high value items would go in the safe, low value items would go in a lock box in the office (which itself was locked). We also had to write down in a book what had been found, when and where - i.e. 22 November, 4:51pm, silver ring under table 7.

In this situation not only does the pub not appear to have a process, the people working there don't seem keen to help reunite someone with their property either. It's not just the value issue - jewellery is often sentimental. If I were the manager I would be doing everything I could to help, but it's not coming across that this is happening here, which is a real shame. Anyone can lose anything, you just hope that when it happens to you, that people rally round to assist.

Isittimeformynapyet · 22/11/2025 16:28

Contrarymary30 · 19/11/2025 08:59

She said she has put in a claim !

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Yes, but the poster you are having a dig at didn't say "you need to make a claim", she said that the OP would need to report it to the police to support the claim she had already made.

I'm all for calling out stupid, but you really have to be careful or you end up with egg on your face.

Isittimeformynapyet · 22/11/2025 15:56

GotSomeChipsAhoyIfYoureHungry · 15/11/2025 20:07

Placemarking for update!

You don't have to do that. Just put a bookmark on the last post you read and come back to it later. In my case here, days later.