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Original poster

I’ve been married twice and didn’t ask either MIL to my hen do

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NotNowMrTumble · 15/11/2025 07:51

Frankly, it didn’t occur to me.

My hen parties were for my bridesmaids, friends and my close family members.

WIBU?

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Ddakji · 15/11/2025 09:19

I’ve been married twice, didn’t invite either my MIL or my mum to my hen party first time round (back in those days hen parties were for your friends) and didn’t have a hen party second time round.

RuncibleSpoons · 15/11/2025 09:18

It didn’t occur to me to invite either.

Now I’m 53, the thought of being invited to a hen do is horrific.

Lifesd · 15/11/2025 09:17

God knows why his mother gave that interview to the DM. Although I do note they changed the headline from “Gordon’s clutches”.

Timeforabitofpeace · 15/11/2025 09:16

It’s nobody else’s business who the hen chooses to invite, or how she arranges her wedding.

Buzzlightfear · 15/11/2025 09:16

No but I didn't invite my mum either. If I had then I probably would have done.

Although I don't think anyone should have to invite their MIL just because they invite their Mum. It's obviously a personal choice.

Roverbarks · 15/11/2025 09:15

Rocknrollstar · 15/11/2025 09:14

Speaking as a MiL I was upset not to be invited to the hen do or to see wedding dress or to bridesmaids dress fittings (DD wanted me there).

Did you go with your son to the suit fittings?

Roverbarks · 15/11/2025 09:15

Pepperedpickles · 15/11/2025 09:12

This is the issue isn’t it. She invited her Mum, and VB. You can’t do that and not invite your MIL if your HR.

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Of course you can invite your own mum but not your MIL.

And sounds like there were already tensions there before the hen party so why would she want to invite someone who already caused drama over the engagement party and who knows what else.

Rocknrollstar · 15/11/2025 09:14

Speaking as a MiL I was upset not to be invited to the hen do or to see wedding dress or to bridesmaids dress fittings (DD wanted me there).

Roverbarks · 15/11/2025 09:13

Luna6 · 15/11/2025 08:08

Did you ask Victoria Beckham though?

No but I didn’t invite a couple of my mum’s closest friends, so potentially the same thing?

Pepperedpickles · 15/11/2025 09:12

Luna6 · 15/11/2025 08:08

Did you ask Victoria Beckham though?

This is the issue isn’t it. She invited her Mum, and VB. You can’t do that and not invite your MIL if your HR.

Original poster
NotNowMrTumble · 15/11/2025 09:09

And what?

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PollyBell · 15/11/2025 08:19

Ok and?

Original poster
NotNowMrTumble · 15/11/2025 08:15

Just seen the other thread. I’m late to the (hen) party as always.

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Luna6 · 15/11/2025 08:08

Did you ask Victoria Beckham though?

Prelim · 15/11/2025 07:54

It’s your party, do what you want. It doesn’t really matter what anyone else does.