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Childminders at soft play

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Hollygolightly89 · 15/11/2025 07:32

I visited a soft play with my 3 year old yesterday morning. There was a group of childminders about 3 or 4 of them and they each had a couple of children. They mostly sat in the baby part of the soft play chatting in a group with their backs turned to the children the whole time and also constantly on their phones, even when the children were eating they were on their phones. Most of the children they had went off into the soft play alone and most of them looked under 2. I was quite shocked by this because if I was paying for a childminder I wouldn’t expect them to be on their phones and my child let loose in the soft play. At various points the children were crying for various reasons and they acted like it was a massive chore to go and get them. I aslo heard them speaking negatively about the children like “oh guess who’s crying again”.

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Hollygolightly89 · 15/11/2025 07:59

Lindy2 · 15/11/2025 07:53

How do you know they were all childminders? Plenty of parents behave like this.

Because I was behind them whilst they paid and signed in and they told them they were childminders got a discount for multiple children. Plus the children were of multiple races etc and it was obvious in the way they spoke about the children.

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WhatNoRaisins · 15/11/2025 07:58

The stay and play I used to go to actually started limiting it to parents and other family carers. I assume it was because this tended to happen with the childminders.

arcticpandas · 15/11/2025 07:58

ChocHotolate · 15/11/2025 07:43

I’m not surprised by this. Having had 2 kids and now a veteran of many local playgroups, I have met 1 child minder who I would be happy to look after my DD.

Sahm here. I have exactly the same experience. From having visited various playgrounds regularly where I live there was 1 childminder (in her fifties) who was lovely and you could see she loved the children by the way she interacted with them. The others all parked their behinds on a bench chatting completely ignoring the children. But then again so did many mums so maybe for some parents that is normal behaviour 🤷‍♀️

Bringyourfoldingchair · 15/11/2025 07:56

I was chatting to a childminder at a mother and toddlers who proudly told me that she didn’t allow the children to speak on the car. I was horrified.

Lindy2 · 15/11/2025 07:53

How do you know they were all childminders? Plenty of parents behave like this.

Landlubber2019 · 15/11/2025 07:52

I am surprised, when my kids were small most of the childminders wouldn't pay to enter soft play centres and preferred mother and toddler groups where you paid for 1 child and others came in for free. The groups were bedlam as the childminders happily chattered and ignored the kids are relied on others to police their brood!

DancefloorAcrobatics · 15/11/2025 07:51

I think this is very common. I had a 2 child minders for DS - both were dreadful but had good ofsted reports and came recommended...

Radiatelikethis · 15/11/2025 07:50

I've seen similar here too. It always amuses me on here, that many mumsnetters completely admonish nursery workers yet childminders on here are completely worshipped. I've never met any out and about at groups I'd be happy to leave my kids with either, so many seem completely disinterested.

Hollygolightly89 · 15/11/2025 07:48

Superhansrantowindsor · 15/11/2025 07:46

Saw similar when at soft play years ago. But just because some childminders are crap it doesn’t mean they all are.

No obviously not, but I was specifically talking about the ones I saw.

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Hollygolightly89 · 15/11/2025 07:46

ChocHotolate · 15/11/2025 07:43

I’m not surprised by this. Having had 2 kids and now a veteran of many local playgroups, I have met 1 child minder who I would be happy to look after my DD.

Shocking, and if they act like that in public I wouldn’t want to see what they are like in their own homes with these children.

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Superhansrantowindsor · 15/11/2025 07:46

Saw similar when at soft play years ago. But just because some childminders are crap it doesn’t mean they all are.

ChocHotolate · 15/11/2025 07:43

I’m not surprised by this. Having had 2 kids and now a veteran of many local playgroups, I have met 1 child minder who I would be happy to look after my DD.

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