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To feel sorry for the fake admiral

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MajesticWhine · 15/11/2025 04:14

It seems to be a victimless crime and I don’t think he was doing anyone any harm. Given the amount of crimes such as shoplifting that go unpunished AIBU to think this man should be let off with a caution?

‘Fake admiral’ charged after Remembrance memorial
https://www.telegraph.co.uk/gift/4d56e1d99d56fda6

‘Fake admiral’ charged after Remembrance memorial

Police ‘swiftly’ take action against retired teacher under 1894 Uniforms Act

https://www.telegraph.co.uk/gift/4d56e1d99d56fda6

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notimagain · 15/11/2025 11:08

@Elleherd

The man was a proper co-pilot in training, and then a proper helicopter pilot

Agree with a lot if that post, so sorry to be picky but the co-pilots union gets really bent out of shape (quite rightly) at any hints of them not being proper pilots until they change seats

All pilots on a two pilot type usually do the same initial training and have to pass the recurrent bi-annual and annual checkrides to the exactly same standard.

Often the only effective difference between the two roles is who signs some of the paperwork and who is in charge of the whole operation in the eyes of the lawyers.

Sorry to diverge from the thread.

TheNightingalesStarling · 15/11/2025 11:07

Cleikumstovies · 15/11/2025 10:58

Perhaps gallantry medals and military rank badges should only be available to purchase with evidence of entitlement?
Anyone can put a police uniform but the metal constabulary and badge numbers need evidence as far as I'm aware. Why not make it the same?

Sadly, many Veterans sell medals as they need the money more. I'm sure awards like the Queens Police Medal are probably the same.

Cleikumstovies · 15/11/2025 10:59

No doubt when Reform and Garridge get in, the gammons will be making military service compulsory so we can all have a soldier suit or sailor suit.

AllMyExesWearRolexes · 15/11/2025 10:59

Alpacajigsaw · 15/11/2025 07:49

I don’t feel sorry for him but I don’t think it’s much worse than the Royal Family members who seem to get away with raiding the dressing up box every Remembrance Sunday. And yes I know they’ve had “permission” but in most cases they haven’t actually done anything to earn the uniform or medals.

The difference is that the RF do not wear gallantry or campaign medals unless personally earned.

Purplebunnie · 15/11/2025 10:58

@Elleherd

I did not know he donated his earned salary back to the NHS, that's very interesting

Cleikumstovies · 15/11/2025 10:58

Perhaps gallantry medals and military rank badges should only be available to purchase with evidence of entitlement?
Anyone can put a police uniform but the metal constabulary and badge numbers need evidence as far as I'm aware. Why not make it the same?

Elleherd · 15/11/2025 10:56

Susiy · 15/11/2025 09:58

I'm pretty sure Royals in the army are given preferential treatment and have additional security that the men at the bottom of the hierarchy never get.

Andrew and Harry were not down in the trenches, they were co-pilots with the emphasis on "co".

Neither seem intelligent enough to pilot a helicopter/plane on their own and I seriously doubt either would have had the opportunity to do so if they were not royals.

I genuinely think they were just indulging in a more elaborate type of cos-playing than this retired teacher.

There is a difference between what you or others think, and actual facts.

Being from a Sandhurst candidate type background will always advantage careers in the forces. The requirements to get into Sandhurst are rigorous and by nature favor both the privately educated and those from families where public service is an expectation, because it's an officer training academy.
So yes being a royal is likely to give you all the background training to be successful at selection.

I know nothing about the rest but Prince William joined up as Flight Lieutenant William Wales as a co-pilot with the RAF's Search and Rescue force. All trainee pilots start as co-pilots.

In 2012, he was promoted to fully operational search and rescue captain, allowing him to command missions which he is known to have done well at.

He then served as a full-time pilot with the East Anglian Air Ambulance, again initially as a co-pilot while he got his civilian certification to fly hefty Sea Kings.
Again standard for a transferring pilot The biggest difference between him and any other pilot is he rightly donated his earned salary back to the NHS.

The man was a proper co-pilot in training, and then a proper helicopter pilot, not some sort of 'dummy' role because he happened to be next in line.
Your emphasis and assumptions are simply wrong.
Don't let your dislike of what family he got born into blight your relationship with the truth of his capabilities as a helicopter pilot.

Cleikumstovies · 15/11/2025 10:55

Did he dress up.in a royal navy admirals uniform or an SS generals uniform?
Did he respectfully lay a wreath or did he kick wreaths and pee on the memorial?

RH1234 · 15/11/2025 10:53

The guys a Walt and should be appropriately charged, hopefully a significant fine and confiscation of anything in relation to it. Whether you believe it to be a criminal offence or no, the law states it is, and therefore your opinion does not count.

The people who say it is nothing, likely have no idea about my colleagues and millions of others that sacrificed not only there time but ultimately their lives for you to have your freedom of speech you have today.

In respect to the Royal Family, the majority in Honoury positions have served, and their medals are appropriate. They are not wearing medals to campaigns they did not deploy under.

All my medals have the Queen on them from time in the Navy, the latest will have the King, if you do any role that supports the public service you can earn certain awards, hence the police/fire service etc also have medals such as the coronation medal. The Royal Family by nature of birth serve the Monarch, those that step away e.g. Harry will not earn those awards next.

phantomofthepopera · 15/11/2025 10:52

Nutmuncher · 15/11/2025 09:19

It may appear harmless and over the top but as others have said it’s no different to putting on a police uniform to walk the streets or a surgeons gown and attempting to step into a theatre to perform an op as ridiculous as it sounds.

I disagree. If someone pretended to be a surgeon or a police officer there could be extremely serious ramifications.

If this dickhead took himself off to a theatre of war and tried to stroll onto the deck of a warship, that would be a completely different kettle of fish.

Nobody gets arrested for going to a fancy dress party as a police officer, surgeon or naval officer. I don’t see how saluting a memorial will cause harm to anybody.

Arowoflatticetarts · 15/11/2025 10:50

WellYouWereMythTaken · 15/11/2025 06:29

I don’t know about sympathy, but I do think just why? In this day and age of social media and 24 hour news he must have realised that he’d be found out and completely exposed almost straightaway, which he was. Yes, the world moves on eventually but the people who know you (and don’t like you much) and the people who were hurt and offended by you won’t forget and you’ll be dealing with the consequences of that the rest of your days probably. And that’s without criminal charges.

The same delusion, arrogance and sense of entitlement that led him to do this, explains all of the above. People come to believe their own lives.

Arowoflatticetarts · 15/11/2025 10:46

CoffeeLipstickKeys · 15/11/2025 10:34

medals are awarded for valourous acts. They aren’t ribbons or baubles. They’re a physical manifestation of bravery and risk undertaken. Real people serve they are sons & daughters ,siblings and it means a lot. Let’s not use words like ribbons to diminish items of significance that were awarded because they mean something. Medals represent a participation,service and to falsely wear medals is a big deal

Absolutely this! That’s the whole point!

It’s not like he has dressed up in a Batman costume or the costume of any fictional character; he has deluded himself and others in to believing that he is worthy of displaying medals that are awarded on the back of considerable bravery and personal risk. It’s massively disrespectful.

notimagain · 15/11/2025 10:46

Alpacajigsaw · 15/11/2025 10:31

There is a difference, but likes of Princess Anne hasn’t fought for the right to wear them or for her dead comrades has she, which is the point of the medals that a lot of posters are making.

Thing is there are medals and then there are medals....🤔

There are umpteen medals (and associated ribbons) that can be legitimately worn by those who have never seen combat, maybe never even served in the military...Princess Anne has been awarded a fair number of those (e.g. King Charles III Coronation Medal) so like it or not she gets to wear them.

Now OTOH you have decorations for participating in military campaigns (e.g. the South Atlantic medal which A M W is entitled to wear) and/or gallantry medals...I don't think Princess Anne has ever worn any of those or would ever claim she should.

SmockAndBeret · 15/11/2025 10:46

I think there is deception though, of a different sort

I suppose when you put it like that @OneFunBrickNewt I do sort of agree.
I wonder how the royals feel about having to wear all that faff at those events. I wonder if they feel like fraudsters.

shuggles · 15/11/2025 10:43

@MajesticWhine It seems to be a victimless crime and I don’t think he was doing anyone any harm.

How is it a victimless crime? It is highly disrespectful to people who have served in the armed forces.

Given the amount of crimes such as shoplifting that go unpunished

What bonkers logic is this?

I would prefer to live in a society in which shoplifting is also punished. I would disagree with your view that both this man and shoplifting should be unpunished.

PumpkinSpiceAndEverythingNice · 15/11/2025 10:39

Crofthead · 15/11/2025 10:34

ok. Well let’s agree to disagree. Playing dress up is very different to assuming a role and letting v people believe you are something you’re not, esp in a position of authority.

Yeah that’s fine, I was more responding to the question of whether he had caused harm or not. People in that position potentially can, but in this instance, I don’t think he did.

Ukisgaslit · 15/11/2025 10:39

@travellinglighter

Yes if the medals are earned- no issue ( tho didn’t Charles crash a boat - maybe that was a different Windsor)

The issue is the laughable rows of ‘unearned medals’ . Surely many who legitimately earned medals are insulted ?
Yes I know the Windsor swag is made up nonsense but it’s the effect of the ropes and medals that the Windsors are after . Similar to someone else who wears them unearned

Oldgreeneyedone · 15/11/2025 10:39

He has caused offence to many people and needs to be stopped from doing it again and potentially causing harm to himself or others.The only way to find out his intentions is to assess him medically. Fantasists don't always cause harm but they can do,so now he has been caught he can't just be allowed to let off with a verbal telling off . Just because he planned it does not mean he can differentiate between fantasy and reality.

CoffeeLipstickKeys · 15/11/2025 10:38

Picklelily99 · 15/11/2025 10:37

Revelling in stolen glory - shameful and disgusting!

Agree

MadameMaxGoesler · 15/11/2025 10:38

I was at school and university with him. The Army guy with him is in the same dining society.

Picklelily99 · 15/11/2025 10:37

Revelling in stolen glory - shameful and disgusting!

HeadNorth · 15/11/2025 10:37

CoffeeLipstickKeys · 15/11/2025 10:34

medals are awarded for valourous acts. They aren’t ribbons or baubles. They’re a physical manifestation of bravery and risk undertaken. Real people serve they are sons & daughters ,siblings and it means a lot. Let’s not use words like ribbons to diminish items of significance that were awarded because they mean something. Medals represent a participation,service and to falsely wear medals is a big deal

Yup, another reason our Royal Family are so pathetic and derisory adorning themselves in uniforms & medals like ribbons and baubles - excluding the one or two who served of course, the majority have not.

OneFunBrickNewt · 15/11/2025 10:37

SmockAndBeret · 15/11/2025 10:24

The point is, though, that there’s no deception in honorary uniforms and their embellishments.
Its not comparable to this case really.

I think there is deception though, of a different sort. I think it's as bad as the 'rear admiral.' I think that many of the comments on this thread are proof of this- in 2025 people still think it's ok for one family to give themselves the right to dress up in whatever uniform they want, award each other medals without deserving them, and live a liftetime of unimaginable luxury, paid for by us. Want to go to Wimbledon? Easy, turn up to Centre Court to the best seats, bring your kids along- the plebs will pay for you, and even clap for the honour of doing so! Unlucky enough to get cancer? That's a shame, but you'll get taxpayer-funded top private care....Want to dress up as a colonel-in-chief? Don't worry, more taxpayer money coming your way to have as many fancy uniforms and army jollies as you like.....At least the fake 'rear-admiral' paid for the outfit he wore.

Ironically the most despicable of the lot, and the one who's escaped the whole charade, Andrew and Harry, are the only ones to have put themselves in harm's way and actually deserve to wear their service medals (not the pretend ones, the ones they would have earned if they were called Smith, not Windsor.)

HeadNorth · 15/11/2025 10:36

PinkFootstool · 15/11/2025 08:38

There is a history of centuries behind this sort of uniform and role.

I notice you're not commenting on the male members of the RF who didn't serve?

They are all self glorifying twerps, same as this guy

littlebilliie · 15/11/2025 10:35

Ukisgaslit · 15/11/2025 10:34

@IsItSnowing

Who exactly gives the Windsors the right to dress up and festoon themselves with medals?

There IS a link with the admiral in the stolen valour sense .

The royals use stolen valour too . It’s part of their propaganda

Wow ignorance at best they served