To allow DD to buy this 'obscene' top?

It’s not advertising underwear! VS don’t just sell underwear. It’s a tee showing a brandname. It’s no more advertising underwear than a M&S logo.

I think the OP’s sister is, indeed, very strange. Boring top? Yes! Obscene? No!

At 14 I wore tops with 'Warning, this Bitch Bites' and FCUK emblazoned on the front, along with 'Juicy' across the bum so I may not be the best person to ask 🤣

Its a simple grey top. Yes its a lingerie brand but as long as its not Ann Summers or LoveHoney I dont see a problem.

I can barely read the logo. Other than that it's just a bog standard grey t-shirt, the kind of thing you'd buy to wear with other colours so it wouldn't clash. Don't see an issue.

I could hardly read it and it's hardly obscene. No different to any other branded t-shirt apart from it's a bit more subtle colouring.

I wouldn't wear a t shirt with that brand on it, no. Even as a teen. Not because it's obscene, it's just tacky. But the actual t-shirt itself is just plain and inoffensive.

Your sister must be very very conservative. It sounds like a family friend when I was a kid. She tried to ban me watching Who Framed Roger Rabbit on grounds of obscenity. 🤣

Bullies are always going to bully.

The T-shirt may be tacky, but it’s certainly not obscene.

Well for a start off it looks uniformly smart.
There is no worry what you are going to wear the next day, that is taken out of the equation.
Think about like Steve Jobs and his 40 polos in the same colour.
It helps against bullying for those not wearing the latest trends.
Many schools also resell their uniform so all in all the cost is actually less than wearing different street clothes.
It also helps with a sense of belonging to their particular school.
Also for those of an autistic nature it removes that worry.
Not sure what you mean about fetish as that is rather concerning, whilst it has two meanings, I hope you don’t mean the most widely accepted meaning of the word.

I think the bigger issue here is that you’re allowing your sister’s opinion to influence your relationship with your daughter and your parenting decisions. You’re her mother, not your sister. Talk to your daughter, ask her to show you the sort of thing she likes or that her peers are wearing, share ideas with her and leave your nosy sister out of it.

Oh god I've just remembered noughties "whale tails" I need to leave this threat immediately before the cringe becomes too much to bear.

I agree. It should just be what can or cannot be worn, for example boys and girls could not turn up in summer in swimwear.

It’s literally a T-shirt. I think it’s ok

I don’t think it’s any different from the girls I went to school with in 2004 wearing playboy clothes. They were all 11-13ish and it was a bit weird and you could argue inappropriate - my mum would never have allowed it - or you could just argue it’s a fashionable bunny that children like.

Brands are very important to teenagers, wearing this top will mean an awful lot to the OPs dd. It doesn’t matter if we think it’s stupid. Ultimately it is just a grey t shirt

Exactly this! As someone who also remembers the playboy bunny logo being very popular i have to ask you, did any of your friends get it tattooed on them? I know 3 girls who did! Millennial girls for life they’ll be! 😂

Hehe. It's called historical/vicarious nostalgia, feeling nostalgic for a period you didn't even live through – a wistful longing for an idealised past. Alternatively, having it heavily marketed to you by brands who are recycling trends. I felt like that about the 60s in my teens...

I was expecting something way worse to be honest! It's a cropped t-shirt, that will show a little bit of skin around her middle. Yes, VS are known for their underwear but they sell nightwear, lounge wear, and clothing as well. You obviously need to be aware, the taller your daughter is, the more skin the top will show. Order it, ask her to try it on, and see how much skin it shows, if you're that worried. If it shows the amount on the model, I wouldn't be too concerned. Your sister is being ridiculous, your daughter is 14, not 8, and it's not like she wants to go out wearing a lacey bra, as a top!!

Its not obscene.

It is advertising vs, but that isn't obscene.

Its not as bad as all that playboy stuff years back. Playboy bunny pencil cases, girls clothes etc.

But something doesn't have to be obscene to be inappropriate or in bad taste. And what constitutes those comes down to personal opinion. She has hers and you have yours.

It looks more like a pyjama top than day wear but hardly obscene!!

Precisely

It’s not obscene!!!

Eh?! Have you attached a wrong link or something?!
How is that obscene?! It's just a t-shirt 😕
Your sister's barking.
Also, try and make sure your dd doesn't hear any of her nonsense - so she loses weight and has a figure she's presumably now happy to wear things she likes more, last thing she needs is some daft aunt wittering on about obscenity over innocuous tops to make her feel self conscious!

Most of the VS stuff isn't even tiny, it's very practical! It's only the models strutting the catwalk in the tiny underwear.

Weird. Whole countries across the world manage to produce functional young adults in schools which don't have uniform. The British fetish for uniform is something I just cannot comprehend.

What has it got to do with your sister what clothes your daughter wears? Why do you discuss this about your daughter with another family member? It’s a grey t shirt sold by a diversified brand.

Do I like it? No. Is it harmless to me? Yes. You’ve just made it into a big deal. Stop discussing your daughter’s choices with your sister.

They sell affordable perfumes, decent body sprays, and some comfy bras and shorts style underwear for teens.
It's not like Ann Summers where it's all scratchy nylon lace thongs and peephole bras.