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To allow DD to buy this 'obscene' top?

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maggie2k · 14/11/2025 23:35

DD14 just lost 10kg, went down from 62 to 52kg (she's pretty petite, only 160 cm tall) and wants to buy herself this top since she's now at a healthy weight for her age and was putting off buying new tops earlier because she didn't want them to stop fitting her: https://www.victoriassecret.co.uk/style/su826145/w96067

My sister thinks it's 'obscene' and a 'lingerie ad' as well as 'something she saw on social media' which is complete nonsense because she uses one of those granny flip phones and isn't on social media except discord, spotify and IRC (no idea if those count)

I don't see the problem honestly, there's nothing obscene about lingerie if you ask me in the 1st place, and VS has always made clothes

This is a photo of the top in the colour she wants it:

To allow DD to buy this 'obscene' top?
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Nbo · 15/11/2025 12:44

Jasperis · 14/11/2025 23:57

Would she wear one with Ann Summers on the front? Similar places to me. Yet it would seem a bit inappropriate for school. Maybe that's what your sister is getting at.

anne summers and Victoria secrets are totally different. Victoria secret and pink have always sold underwear, clothes and perfume. Anne summers is mainly sex toys

SemperIdem · 15/11/2025 12:39

Oh it’s fine! Let her have the top. When I was her age I had a French Connection top with FCUK on it. I thought it was terribly cool and rebellious.

Emmz1510 · 15/11/2025 12:24

Jeez when I followed the link I was expecting to see some piece of fancy underwear masquerading as clothing! But this is just a t shirt. I quite like it actually! So what if it’s ’advertising underwear’? Is there there something sinful and scandalous about women’s underwear now?

NimbleDreamer · 15/11/2025 12:01

Is your sister from the Victorian times? Obscene? It's a t shirt 😅

Ohduckie · 15/11/2025 12:00

😂😂😂 Marks and Spencers is also known for it's lingerie 😂😂😂
Your sister needs to mind her own business and/or get a life if she's freaking out about this!

EgregiouslyOverdressed · 15/11/2025 12:00

Your sister is batshit.

Mermaidsarereal · 15/11/2025 11:55

I think Victoria Secret is popular among the teens, my 13 year old has asked for silky PJ's and a fluffy dressing gown aswell as the body mists from there for Christmas. The top isn't obscene or revealing, I'd let her get it its just a brand. Well done to your daughter for losing that weight too!

Mrsgus · 15/11/2025 11:51

Back in 2010 my daughter and her friends all wanted Playboy bunny clothing, not realising the connotation of it. Trends change but it all depends on whether you are happy to let her wear it.

BunnyLake · 15/11/2025 11:51

maggie2k · 14/11/2025 23:38

All it says is 'victoria's secret' and because she's petite it'll also be longish looking on her

She goes to a private girls school with no uniform so has been buying a lot of new clothes lately

Nothing wrong with the top per se but I wouldn't want the VS logo on it for a 14 yr old. So I personally, as a parent, would say no.

Not topic of thread but no uniform for private school is very unusual.

zingally · 15/11/2025 11:49

I was expecting something VERY different until I scrolled down! That's just a regular t-shirt!

Franpie · 15/11/2025 11:45

I dread to think what your sister would think of the tiny little tops my DD goes out to parties in 😳.

Ivy888 · 15/11/2025 11:37

Your sister is being a bit weird

PictureParfait · 15/11/2025 11:27

The top is fine. Your sister is being weird.

Gettingbysomehow · 15/11/2025 11:13

That could only be deemed obscene if she lived in Saudi. Otherwise no.

Sleepysleepycoffeecoffee · 15/11/2025 11:09

The only obscene thing about this is the price

ContentedAlpaca · 15/11/2025 11:06

pointythings · 15/11/2025 09:26

Weird. Whole countries across the world manage to produce functional young adults in schools which don't have uniform. The British fetish for uniform is something I just cannot comprehend.

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Also, the minute British children get to college, what they're wear ceases to be an issue.

2GreatFatSquirrels · 15/11/2025 11:03

It’s fine. It’s a t shirt

fiddleplayingbrunette · 15/11/2025 10:55

mrswhiplington · 15/11/2025 10:49

It's better than those trousers with "Juicy" written on the backside.

Argh yes!! Always JUICY with the letters stretched over someone’s backside. Just no no no..

fiddleplayingbrunette · 15/11/2025 10:54

She’s your daughter, you are her mum so your sister can clutch all the pearls she wants but she doesn’t get a say in this. It’s a t-shirt and I know my very girly girl 12 year old would love it too (though at 12 no she doesn’t need a VS t-shirt). I’m 157cm and yes those style of tops do sit well without being too short on those of us who are petite. Let your daughter have the top if she likes it and will wear it, it’s nice.

Miyagi99 · 15/11/2025 10:54

BelleEpoque27 · 14/11/2025 23:39

I suppose you could argue that a 14 year old advertising a lingerie brand on her chest isn't ideal. I doubt my mum would have let me wear it in the 90s.

But no, it's not obscene. It's just a grey top with a logo. I wouldn't have a problem with it.

There was a trend when we were teenagers that was to wear the Playboy bunny, there’s nothing necessarily obscene about underwear anyway and certainly not a normal T-shirt!

mrswhiplington · 15/11/2025 10:49

It's better than those trousers with "Juicy" written on the backside.

ViciousCurrentBun · 15/11/2025 10:38

Discord was set up for gamers originally and is the Wild West of social media. Harder to police than instagram or FB. I’m a member and not anti discord but people seem unaware of how it works.

The Victoria’s secrets lingerie shows give beauty standards a new level. They do have some plus size models but they are all not of this earth supermodels.

PiccadillyPurple · 15/11/2025 10:32

I had an FCUK T-shirt in my early thirties. A man at the garden centre came and engaged me in a really pointless and annoying conversation about it (I don't think he knew FCUK was a brand) so I gave it to charity after that.

lifeonmars100 · 15/11/2025 10:31

I was expecting to see a cropped corset style top, not a tshirt. I would not have a problem with a teen wearing it but in the wider context I am not keen on V S but they are popular

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 15/11/2025 10:29

SugarPlumpFairyCakes · 15/11/2025 09:56

Bullies are always going to bully.

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True but it’s one less issue re bullying about clothing, or if not full scale bullying then kids treating those of a less financial standing less than.

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