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To allow DD to buy this 'obscene' top?

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maggie2k · 14/11/2025 23:35

DD14 just lost 10kg, went down from 62 to 52kg (she's pretty petite, only 160 cm tall) and wants to buy herself this top since she's now at a healthy weight for her age and was putting off buying new tops earlier because she didn't want them to stop fitting her: https://www.victoriassecret.co.uk/style/su826145/w96067

My sister thinks it's 'obscene' and a 'lingerie ad' as well as 'something she saw on social media' which is complete nonsense because she uses one of those granny flip phones and isn't on social media except discord, spotify and IRC (no idea if those count)

I don't see the problem honestly, there's nothing obscene about lingerie if you ask me in the 1st place, and VS has always made clothes

This is a photo of the top in the colour she wants it:

To allow DD to buy this 'obscene' top?
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Zypig · 16/11/2025 06:41

It’s a t shirt and she’s a teenager wanting to explore her personality. If this is the biggest battle you have with a 14 year old then wow she’s a good kid. Just wondering if your sister wore anything from French Connection when she was a teenager and their branding was ‘FCUK’ which was far more in your face sexualisation than a simple VS logo.

Chickadee001 · 16/11/2025 04:53

FHS what's wrong with EVERYONE overthinking stuff!! It's a T SHIRT!

BoxesBoxesEverywhere · 16/11/2025 03:36

Chickadee001 · 16/11/2025 03:08

Not remotely obscene!

I originally commented saying that I couldn't see anything obscene about it as it just looked like a normal top, which was my immediate reaction.
Then read the comments and realised I'd temporarily forgotten where I was which was MN😁
So the fact it says Victoria Secret on the front is a definite no go as means your dd is aligning with sluts (or something) and it means women's knickers
Someone who is trans apparently featured in an advert too and that's another no go as cosplaying women, outrage, no better than blackface etc etc

Chickadee001 · 16/11/2025 03:08

Not remotely obscene!

ErinBell01 · 16/11/2025 01:22

maggie2k · 14/11/2025 23:35

DD14 just lost 10kg, went down from 62 to 52kg (she's pretty petite, only 160 cm tall) and wants to buy herself this top since she's now at a healthy weight for her age and was putting off buying new tops earlier because she didn't want them to stop fitting her: https://www.victoriassecret.co.uk/style/su826145/w96067

My sister thinks it's 'obscene' and a 'lingerie ad' as well as 'something she saw on social media' which is complete nonsense because she uses one of those granny flip phones and isn't on social media except discord, spotify and IRC (no idea if those count)

I don't see the problem honestly, there's nothing obscene about lingerie if you ask me in the 1st place, and VS has always made clothes

This is a photo of the top in the colour she wants it:

I certainly wouldn't be buying anything from Victoria's Secret - they used trans models last year. Yes, two men who say they're women were modelling underwear for women, and putting two female models out of a job.

Beesandhoney123 · 16/11/2025 01:00

@maralagagirl to make an otherwise bog standard grey t shirt a bit more interesting, to add a bit of pizazz and glamour. Loads of reasons, none nefarious.

It's hardly a new phenomenon, putting the name of your shop on your products, especially if the demographic likes it.

If it was the leisurewear of my dd choice, I would buy it for her. She needs to associate with her peers, not her mum.

SezFrankly · 16/11/2025 00:30

Your sister is overreaching. it’s non of her business, and her language is over the top. To call anything your school age niece is going to wear “obscene” is pretty obscene in itself.

It’s a t-shirt. It’s fine.

All that matters is that your daughter likes it, and you’re fine with her choices.

Your sister sounds pretty toxic tbh

maralagagirl · 16/11/2025 00:21

Beesandhoney123 · 15/11/2025 14:49

Are men really so up on underwear brands they would see that ordinary grey t shirt with its tiny logo in rhinestones and become uncontrollable wild stallions? How bloody insulting to everyone.

Vs marketing is not that amazing you know. Its pretty, nice and not expensive. Perfect.

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If the tiny rhinestones mean nothing why are they there?

Beesandhoney123 · 15/11/2025 23:42

Threefullskips · 15/11/2025 19:52

I have no idea what point you are trying to make. Would your husband wear a t-shirt with a womens underwear branding on it? You can get a plain t-shirt for less.

Also - I'm hugely amused by the fact that the men in your life go from zero to uncontrollable wild stallion and then straight back to zero.

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@Threefullskips the post I was responding to was quoted.

I didn't say anything about my life and men in it being uncontrollable stallions. Nothing could be further from the truth.

curliegirlie · 15/11/2025 23:28

FunMustard · 15/11/2025 19:10

I honestly don't know why you've posted this. You clearly don't agree with your sister.

I had an FCUK t-shirt back in the day and my sister had one with handprints on the boobs. This is tame in the extreme. It's a full coverage t-shirt for crying out loud.

I was going to bring up all those cropped t-shirts that 13 year olds used to wear in the 90s which really were obscene. Not really in the same league is it?!

Aliceinunderland · 15/11/2025 22:54

Buy your sister one for Christmas 😇

Lovehascomeandgone · 15/11/2025 22:32

wtf it’s a tshirt isn't it?

Ionlymakejokestodistractmyself · 15/11/2025 21:17

Doobedobe · 15/11/2025 01:55

No issue with the top.
But the brand, google 'victorias secret brand owner, toxic misogyny and links to Jeffrey Epstein.
I wouldnt wear anything by that brand.
Teach her to support brands that align with her values.

Yes I was going to mention this too. Pretty grubby.

nomas · 15/11/2025 20:34

It’s not obscene at all and she should wear what she wants but I do wince a bit at the free advertising women and girls give to a company that was founded ‘to create a male-friendly environment enabling men to feel comfortable choosing excitingly exotic undergarments for their female partners or mistresses.’.

MotherJessAndKittens · 15/11/2025 20:27

Your sister is nuts!

Wingingit73 · 15/11/2025 20:22

Only your opinion matters. Tell your sister to.mind her own business and do what you think is right.

Threefullskips · 15/11/2025 19:52

Beesandhoney123 · 15/11/2025 14:49

Are men really so up on underwear brands they would see that ordinary grey t shirt with its tiny logo in rhinestones and become uncontrollable wild stallions? How bloody insulting to everyone.

Vs marketing is not that amazing you know. Its pretty, nice and not expensive. Perfect.

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I have no idea what point you are trying to make. Would your husband wear a t-shirt with a womens underwear branding on it? You can get a plain t-shirt for less.

Also - I'm hugely amused by the fact that the men in your life go from zero to uncontrollable wild stallion and then straight back to zero.

Fizzlepopper · 15/11/2025 19:41

It's a [pretty boring] grey t-shirt. Nothing obscene about it. Blimey, we were all wearing FCUK T-shirts 25 years ago and they seemed slightly rude back then, but how the world has changed.

Mummyof2andthatsenough · 15/11/2025 19:23

Not meant in a rude way to you OP but shy does your sister get any say in what your daughter wears?

Jowak1 · 15/11/2025 19:20

At the end of the day it’s a t- shirt I thought it was going to be a strapless little top that barely covered her boobs 🤣 respectfully I think your sister needs to look up what obscene means in a dictionary !!

notacooldad · 15/11/2025 19:19

It's sooooooo tacky,
Its not though.
Its a grey t shirt with a non flashy logo on it to break up the block colour.
It not got anything vulgar on it, its not over the top, its not being.
I'm not seeing an issue.

FunMustard · 15/11/2025 19:10

I honestly don't know why you've posted this. You clearly don't agree with your sister.

I had an FCUK t-shirt back in the day and my sister had one with handprints on the boobs. This is tame in the extreme. It's a full coverage t-shirt for crying out loud.

AnnoyedAsAllHeck · 15/11/2025 19:04

I don't know if it was ever a trend there, but I can remember a decade or so ago when parents paid silly sums of money so their DDs could wear the word "Juicy" across their top or butt.
This seems pretty tame to me.

ErrolTheDragon · 15/11/2025 19:01

One of my kimono style dressing gowns was bought from Victoria’s Secret when I lived in the US in about 1990. While obviously I don’t wear it outside it’s perfectly decent for opening the door for the postie etc.

They used to do the best French knickers which were more decent, comfortable and no VPL than any other style.

Bubblefun70 · 15/11/2025 19:00

The only thing obscene is the price. £25?!? Outrageous!!!