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To allow DD to buy this 'obscene' top?

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maggie2k · 14/11/2025 23:35

DD14 just lost 10kg, went down from 62 to 52kg (she's pretty petite, only 160 cm tall) and wants to buy herself this top since she's now at a healthy weight for her age and was putting off buying new tops earlier because she didn't want them to stop fitting her: https://www.victoriassecret.co.uk/style/su826145/w96067

My sister thinks it's 'obscene' and a 'lingerie ad' as well as 'something she saw on social media' which is complete nonsense because she uses one of those granny flip phones and isn't on social media except discord, spotify and IRC (no idea if those count)

I don't see the problem honestly, there's nothing obscene about lingerie if you ask me in the 1st place, and VS has always made clothes

This is a photo of the top in the colour she wants it:

To allow DD to buy this 'obscene' top?
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MonGrainDeSel · 14/11/2025 23:43

Of course it's not obscene. Maybe a bit tacky but which 14 year old hasn't selected something a bit tacky at times? It's a grey T shirt. DD also went to a school with no uniform, maybe the same one, and this T shirt would have been unremarkable.

Arlanymor · 14/11/2025 23:42

maggie2k · 14/11/2025 23:41

no idea either but times change i guess

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Yep guess so, I'm 46 so maybe not well-equipped to answer this post, sorry!

RitaFromThePitCanteen · 14/11/2025 23:42

Top is fine. Obviously people associate Victoria's Secret with underwear, so most people probably will make the connection if they read the writing on it. so it comes down to whether she or you care about anyone noticing that she has the name of an underwear shop on her top.

PinkPonyClubDancer · 14/11/2025 23:42

It’s just a tshirt. VS is very popular with a lot of teens. I don’t see anything wrong with it.

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maggie2k · 14/11/2025 23:41

Arlanymor · 14/11/2025 23:39

It's a tee shirt advertising underwear, not sure why anyone would want to wear it.

no idea either but times change i guess

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maggie2k · 14/11/2025 23:41

SocksAndTheCity · 14/11/2025 23:39

Is that the right link? I'm seeing a completely unremarkable grey t-shirt?

Yep it just says 'victoria's secret' in little rhine stones on the chest area that's what my sister says the problem is

To allow DD to buy this 'obscene' top?
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Arlanymor · 14/11/2025 23:39

It's a tee shirt advertising underwear, not sure why anyone would want to wear it.

SocksAndTheCity · 14/11/2025 23:39

Is that the right link? I'm seeing a completely unremarkable grey t-shirt?

BelleEpoque27 · 14/11/2025 23:39

I suppose you could argue that a 14 year old advertising a lingerie brand on her chest isn't ideal. I doubt my mum would have let me wear it in the 90s.

But no, it's not obscene. It's just a grey top with a logo. I wouldn't have a problem with it.

Yabayabadoo · 14/11/2025 23:39

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maggie2k · 14/11/2025 23:39

ninjahamster · 14/11/2025 23:38

Eh??

it’s just a t shirt! How can that be described as lingerie?

I was expecting something SO different!

My sister thinks the issue is because it says 'victoria's secret' in little rhine stones

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mamagogo1 · 14/11/2025 23:39

Unfortunately Victoria’s Secret is synonymous with lingerie so it will have that connotation

OrwellianTimes · 14/11/2025 23:38

Hardly obscene, though I hate VS with a passion.

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maggie2k · 14/11/2025 23:38

All it says is 'victoria's secret' and because she's petite it'll also be longish looking on her

She goes to a private girls school with no uniform so has been buying a lot of new clothes lately

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ninjahamster · 14/11/2025 23:38

Eh??

it’s just a t shirt! How can that be described as lingerie?

I was expecting something SO different!

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