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To allow DD to buy this 'obscene' top?

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maggie2k · 14/11/2025 23:35

DD14 just lost 10kg, went down from 62 to 52kg (she's pretty petite, only 160 cm tall) and wants to buy herself this top since she's now at a healthy weight for her age and was putting off buying new tops earlier because she didn't want them to stop fitting her: https://www.victoriassecret.co.uk/style/su826145/w96067

My sister thinks it's 'obscene' and a 'lingerie ad' as well as 'something she saw on social media' which is complete nonsense because she uses one of those granny flip phones and isn't on social media except discord, spotify and IRC (no idea if those count)

I don't see the problem honestly, there's nothing obscene about lingerie if you ask me in the 1st place, and VS has always made clothes

This is a photo of the top in the colour she wants it:

To allow DD to buy this 'obscene' top?
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maggie2k · 14/11/2025 23:59

hermanne · 14/11/2025 23:57

IRC? Is it the 90s?

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She's a bit of a geek and likes all those tech web chats and retro stuff that's what got her into this sort of fashion in the 1st place Grin she's adamant she has 'nostalgia' for the 2000s despite being born in 2011 rofl

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LadeOde · 14/11/2025 23:58

I agree with your sister. As for wearing it to school, i have no words.

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maggie2k · 14/11/2025 23:58

Jasperis · 14/11/2025 23:57

Would she wear one with Ann Summers on the front? Similar places to me. Yet it would seem a bit inappropriate for school. Maybe that's what your sister is getting at.

Doesn't ann summers sell sex toys though? I don't think vs does

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hermanne · 14/11/2025 23:57

maggie2k · 14/11/2025 23:35

DD14 just lost 10kg, went down from 62 to 52kg (she's pretty petite, only 160 cm tall) and wants to buy herself this top since she's now at a healthy weight for her age and was putting off buying new tops earlier because she didn't want them to stop fitting her: https://www.victoriassecret.co.uk/style/su826145/w96067

My sister thinks it's 'obscene' and a 'lingerie ad' as well as 'something she saw on social media' which is complete nonsense because she uses one of those granny flip phones and isn't on social media except discord, spotify and IRC (no idea if those count)

I don't see the problem honestly, there's nothing obscene about lingerie if you ask me in the 1st place, and VS has always made clothes

This is a photo of the top in the colour she wants it:

IRC? Is it the 90s?

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maggie2k · 14/11/2025 23:57

MumWifeOther · 14/11/2025 23:57

Seriously!?

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What's shocking about it?

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Jasperis · 14/11/2025 23:57

Would she wear one with Ann Summers on the front? Similar places to me. Yet it would seem a bit inappropriate for school. Maybe that's what your sister is getting at.

MumWifeOther · 14/11/2025 23:57

maggie2k · 14/11/2025 23:35

DD14 just lost 10kg, went down from 62 to 52kg (she's pretty petite, only 160 cm tall) and wants to buy herself this top since she's now at a healthy weight for her age and was putting off buying new tops earlier because she didn't want them to stop fitting her: https://www.victoriassecret.co.uk/style/su826145/w96067

My sister thinks it's 'obscene' and a 'lingerie ad' as well as 'something she saw on social media' which is complete nonsense because she uses one of those granny flip phones and isn't on social media except discord, spotify and IRC (no idea if those count)

I don't see the problem honestly, there's nothing obscene about lingerie if you ask me in the 1st place, and VS has always made clothes

This is a photo of the top in the colour she wants it:

Seriously!?

ChewbaccasMrs · 14/11/2025 23:57

It's a t-shirt does your sister think she's living in the 1800s?

There's nothing wrong with it at all.

OwlBeThere · 14/11/2025 23:56

It’s a tshirt. I’m not a fan of VS for many reasons, but as clothes go it’s obviously not obscene.

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maggie2k · 14/11/2025 23:55

JemimaTiggywinkles · 14/11/2025 23:51

It isn’t obscene but it’s advertising underwear. I’d discourage but not ban it. Girls deserve better than trends which rely on them ‘selling’ sex.

surely underwear isn't sex though, i have a VS bra and the last thing that goes through my brain when putting it on is sex

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ClementinesForChristmas · 14/11/2025 23:52

maggie2k · 14/11/2025 23:47

Oh I remember those! Are they still even around lmfao

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I remember someone in my year 6 class having a Playboy pencil case!

JemimaTiggywinkles · 14/11/2025 23:51

It isn’t obscene but it’s advertising underwear. I’d discourage but not ban it. Girls deserve better than trends which rely on them ‘selling’ sex.

AdoraBell · 14/11/2025 23:50

What exactly is obscene about a T-shirt?

AutumnAllTheWay · 14/11/2025 23:50

Better than the wonderbras with half open shirts we wore in the 90s

Genevieva · 14/11/2025 23:50

maggie2k · 14/11/2025 23:48

Are the perfumes good? I've been looking for some cheap nice perfumes

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I’ve only smelled the one my daughter has, but it’s perfectly nice and she’s asked for another for Christmas. They are about twenty quid.

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maggie2k · 14/11/2025 23:48

Genevieva · 14/11/2025 23:47

I think the brand is marketing itself differently to teenagers. They sell affordable perfumes etc. Your sister is out of date.

Are the perfumes good? I've been looking for some cheap nice perfumes

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Mummy2mybear · 14/11/2025 23:47

I was honestly expecting something that showed a lot of skin or had some inappropriate picture or quote on it I dont think this is obscene not my choice i will admit but I don't see a problem with it.

Genevieva · 14/11/2025 23:47

I think the brand is marketing itself differently to teenagers. They sell affordable perfumes etc. Your sister is out of date.

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maggie2k · 14/11/2025 23:47

LaserPumpkin · 14/11/2025 23:46

It’s better than the FCUK ones everyone used to wear back in the day

I tend to misread those

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maggie2k · 14/11/2025 23:47

ClementinesForChristmas · 14/11/2025 23:46

As someone old enough to remember the Playboy logo being fashionable, YANBU OP. it’s not exactly stylish, but let the teen think she’s being grown up and sexy (she’ll cringe in a few years).

Oh I remember those! Are they still even around lmfao

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ClementinesForChristmas · 14/11/2025 23:46

As someone old enough to remember the Playboy logo being fashionable, YANBU OP. it’s not exactly stylish, but let the teen think she’s being grown up and sexy (she’ll cringe in a few years).

LaserPumpkin · 14/11/2025 23:46

It’s better than the FCUK ones everyone used to wear back in the day

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maggie2k · 14/11/2025 23:45

MonGrainDeSel · 14/11/2025 23:43

Of course it's not obscene. Maybe a bit tacky but which 14 year old hasn't selected something a bit tacky at times? It's a grey T shirt. DD also went to a school with no uniform, maybe the same one, and this T shirt would have been unremarkable.

I thought it was just a pretty boring normal top! She's been lately shopping a lot, landed herself a weekend job at a garden centre, brandy melville hollister and subdued seem to be her favourite and they all look pretty tacky to me honestly

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BellaBlister · 14/11/2025 23:44

It's your daughter's choice of top. Nothing to do with your sister!

NPPUHinged · 14/11/2025 23:43

ninjahamster · 14/11/2025 23:38

Eh??

it’s just a t shirt! How can that be described as lingerie?

I was expecting something SO different!

Same! I was expecting full exposure of some nature!

OP I agree with PP. It's literally a t-shirt! Let DD buy it.

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