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To allow DD to buy this 'obscene' top?

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maggie2k · 14/11/2025 23:35

DD14 just lost 10kg, went down from 62 to 52kg (she's pretty petite, only 160 cm tall) and wants to buy herself this top since she's now at a healthy weight for her age and was putting off buying new tops earlier because she didn't want them to stop fitting her: https://www.victoriassecret.co.uk/style/su826145/w96067

My sister thinks it's 'obscene' and a 'lingerie ad' as well as 'something she saw on social media' which is complete nonsense because she uses one of those granny flip phones and isn't on social media except discord, spotify and IRC (no idea if those count)

I don't see the problem honestly, there's nothing obscene about lingerie if you ask me in the 1st place, and VS has always made clothes

This is a photo of the top in the colour she wants it:

To allow DD to buy this 'obscene' top?
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maggie2k · 15/11/2025 00:18

TidyCyan · 15/11/2025 00:07

Er - I have a Victoria's Secret Pink hoodie around here somewhere (Pink being their leisure line, it's not pink!) that I bought in my 30s. I never even think about it "advertising underwear".

I thought it was actually pink for a moment and liked the idea rofl

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maggie2k · 15/11/2025 00:17

Notatallanamechange · 15/11/2025 00:13

As a teen who used to wear the Playboy bunny rhinestone tops… I find it icky. The one and only time I’ve realised I agree with my mother over my father is thanks to this 😂 Young teens should not be wearing any clothing that advertises a lingerie brand or dirty mag brand. It’s just so icky.

And OP, this is literally the mid 00s version of it. And I can 100% tell you your daughter wants that tee over another, purely because they logo, and the thought that boys will make the link. And they do. Particularly when you make all the typically 14/15 year old comments about your clothes to encourage it.

It’s a rite of passage, but I’d much prefer it stopped being one.

she already has a 'boyfriend', this nearly 16 year old russian boy who lives 2 streets down, i personally find him very annoying as all he talks about is games and ww2 and all they ever seem to do is sit in the living room and (noisily!) play video games on some console he brings over

she's been in a 'relationship' with him for a year now and not done any major changes to her wardrobe so I doubt the reason for this is to appeal to boys

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Notatallanamechange · 15/11/2025 00:13

As a teen who used to wear the Playboy bunny rhinestone tops… I find it icky. The one and only time I’ve realised I agree with my mother over my father is thanks to this 😂 Young teens should not be wearing any clothing that advertises a lingerie brand or dirty mag brand. It’s just so icky.

And OP, this is literally the mid 00s version of it. And I can 100% tell you your daughter wants that tee over another, purely because they logo, and the thought that boys will make the link. And they do. Particularly when you make all the typically 14/15 year old comments about your clothes to encourage it.

It’s a rite of passage, but I’d much prefer it stopped being one.

Thedogscollar · 15/11/2025 00:12

I'm nearly 64 and I don't think it's obscene in any way.
It's a t-shirt with a sparkly slogan.
It looks like something you'd wear in bed tbh.
I was expecting something far more revealing.
People may not like VS but that doesn't make this garment obscene.
She didn't produce some crotchless knickers and nipple tassles out of her school bag 🙄

Maray1967 · 15/11/2025 00:10

OwlBeThere · 15/11/2025 00:03

Not really the same, is it? Ann Summers sells cock rings and tassels for your nipples. VS sell tiny but at least functional underwear.

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Yes, that’s my view. They are hardly the same. All I can see is a grey T shirt with a brand name on. It’s not even low cut. In fact it’s very modest in appearance.

OP, when I was your DD’s age I was walking about wearing Iron Maiden T shirts. My DM used to roll her eyes and ask me not to wear them to church.

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maggie2k · 15/11/2025 00:10

Teaforthetotal · 15/11/2025 00:08

Agree with a pp who said it's a brand, with perfumes , PJ's and accessories. The tshirt is just a logo.
I see teens wearing stuff like that all the time, I wouldn't even notice.If I did might think it was ironic.
What did your sister wear as a teenager?

Pretty plain stuff, a tee shirt and jeans usually

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SoftBalletShoes · 15/11/2025 00:10

ninjahamster · 14/11/2025 23:38

Eh??

it’s just a t shirt! How can that be described as lingerie?

I was expecting something SO different!

This is exactly what I was going to type!

It's a T-shirt???!

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maggie2k · 15/11/2025 00:09

hermanne · 15/11/2025 00:04

I didn't know it was still a thing! Wow.

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Yep still around! She likes one named libera or something

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Teaforthetotal · 15/11/2025 00:08

Agree with a pp who said it's a brand, with perfumes , PJ's and accessories. The tshirt is just a logo.
I see teens wearing stuff like that all the time, I wouldn't even notice.If I did might think it was ironic.
What did your sister wear as a teenager?

OldBeyondMyYears · 15/11/2025 00:08

Tell your sister to wind her neck in…she’s being utterly ridiculous!

Strawberrydelight78 · 15/11/2025 00:08

Nothing wrong with it but don't think it will be appropriate for her to wear for school with Victoria's secret accross it

TidyCyan · 15/11/2025 00:07

Er - I have a Victoria's Secret Pink hoodie around here somewhere (Pink being their leisure line, it's not pink!) that I bought in my 30s. I never even think about it "advertising underwear".

Alwaytired44 · 15/11/2025 00:05

mamagogo1 · 14/11/2025 23:39

Unfortunately Victoria’s Secret is synonymous with lingerie so it will have that connotation

My daughter had a Victorias Secret bag for school and it was a non-issue.

99bottlesofkombucha · 15/11/2025 00:05

LaserPumpkin · 14/11/2025 23:46

It’s better than the FCUK ones everyone used to wear back in the day

Agreed! It’s literally just a grey tshirt with a brand name on it, and it might be underwear but it isn’t a brand name like playboy or only fans, Calvin Klein sell a lot of underwear and your mum wouldn’t blink if it said ck.

hermanne · 15/11/2025 00:04

maggie2k · 14/11/2025 23:59

She's a bit of a geek and likes all those tech web chats and retro stuff that's what got her into this sort of fashion in the 1st place Grin she's adamant she has 'nostalgia' for the 2000s despite being born in 2011 rofl

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I didn't know it was still a thing! Wow.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 15/11/2025 00:04

It is great her confidence is growing, good for her.

GAJLY · 15/11/2025 00:03

PinkPonyClubDancer · 14/11/2025 23:42

It’s just a tshirt. VS is very popular with a lot of teens. I don’t see anything wrong with it.

Agree with this 👆

Mistyglade · 15/11/2025 00:03

Is that it? A plain grey T-shirt with tiny writing on it. Biscuit

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maggie2k · 15/11/2025 00:03

LadeOde · 14/11/2025 23:58

I agree with your sister. As for wearing it to school, i have no words.

Why though?

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purpleme12 · 15/11/2025 00:03

While I wouldn't describe it as obscene, it is always going to make someone think of underwear isn't it. well that's what I think with Victoria's Secret.
At 14 I'm not sure I'd want my daughter wearing that

OwlBeThere · 15/11/2025 00:03

Jasperis · 14/11/2025 23:57

Would she wear one with Ann Summers on the front? Similar places to me. Yet it would seem a bit inappropriate for school. Maybe that's what your sister is getting at.

Not really the same, is it? Ann Summers sells cock rings and tassels for your nipples. VS sell tiny but at least functional underwear.

TracyBeakerSoYeah · 15/11/2025 00:03

Your DSis is mad as it's a t shirt nothing obscene about it,

EmeraldShamrock000 · 15/11/2025 00:02

I was expecting to see a very different top.
It's a short T-shirt.

MincePudding · 15/11/2025 00:02

It's sooooooo tacky, but in exactly the way that makes it cool to teens and not middle aged women! We are SO not the demographic! Let her have her youth x

LaserPumpkin · 15/11/2025 00:00

Jasperis · 14/11/2025 23:57

Would she wear one with Ann Summers on the front? Similar places to me. Yet it would seem a bit inappropriate for school. Maybe that's what your sister is getting at.

The type of underwear sold in VS and Ann Summers is totally different.