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To allow DD to buy this 'obscene' top?

390 replies

maggie2k · 14/11/2025 23:35

DD14 just lost 10kg, went down from 62 to 52kg (she's pretty petite, only 160 cm tall) and wants to buy herself this top since she's now at a healthy weight for her age and was putting off buying new tops earlier because she didn't want them to stop fitting her: https://www.victoriassecret.co.uk/style/su826145/w96067

My sister thinks it's 'obscene' and a 'lingerie ad' as well as 'something she saw on social media' which is complete nonsense because she uses one of those granny flip phones and isn't on social media except discord, spotify and IRC (no idea if those count)

I don't see the problem honestly, there's nothing obscene about lingerie if you ask me in the 1st place, and VS has always made clothes

This is a photo of the top in the colour she wants it:

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realsavagelike · 15/11/2025 03:50

I'm sure there are quite a few Inspiral Carpets fans from the very early 90's who were denied the 'Cool as F**k' cow shirt or suffered the travesty of having their t shirt 'disappeared' by their outraged parents. Good times.

maralagagirl · 15/11/2025 03:47

I just don't know why I'd put the name of a company owned by "dodgy - cough cough" billionaires and pay twice the price on my childs chest? I'm the same about sport brands etc, but it took me a while. I figured it out 15 years ago. I'd love to hear the reasoning for letting your child be a walking free ad which you paid a lot for as well. Just stop buying it unless it's half price, even better just stop buying altogether. Rhinestone tops are not hard to come by. I've been arguing this for years but nothing has changed, so buy the top OP. If it makes your child happy. What's the harm? Check under the label where it is made. Its going to be Bangladesh or Vietnam etc. I've kind of given up. People will buy what they want. The people must be entertained.

maralagagirl · 15/11/2025 02:57

Sorry , sorry. LeS Wexner!

maralagagirl · 15/11/2025 02:39

HardyNavyBear · 15/11/2025 02:34

However, whilst gender critical beliefs are protected under the Equality Act 2010 as a philosophical belief, this does not mean that other people must remain in a space where they feel offended or distressed by those views.
“Whether to remain in such a space is a matter of personal, individual choice for councillors or anyone else to make for themselves.”
https://www.bristolpost.co.uk/news/bristol-news/bristol-green-councillors-wield-pro-10628503

These are elected officials walking out of a meeting because they don’t like what they’re hearing, and are taking offense at the truth? They believe that their job as elected officials isn’t to listen to all of their constituents concerns? How do these people get elected seriously?

Wrong thread @HardyNavyBear ?

HardyNavyBear · 15/11/2025 02:34

Greens wield pro-trans placards at heated council meeting

Greens walked out of the previous Bristol full council meeting

https://www.bristolpost.co.uk/news/bristol-news/bristol-green-councillors-wield-pro-10628503

maralagagirl · 15/11/2025 02:32

maralagagirl · 15/11/2025 02:20

you
try Lex Wagner

The "you" was a correction. The second thing was google "Lex Wagner" . Thank goodness he's not Australian!!!! Also google Roy Raymond. Not a company I'd want my daughter advertising.

Princessconsuelabananahammock9 · 15/11/2025 02:31

I own that shirt and it’s cute.

People need to chill.

Blondeshavemorefun · 15/11/2025 02:30

Hmmmm my pic is too racy it seems as not approved yet

BlueEyedBogWitch · 15/11/2025 02:27

Better than the Playboy stuff that was everywhere in the 90s.

Tell your sister that aunties are supposed to be cooler than mums.

Peridoteage · 15/11/2025 02:20

Its just a teeshirt. Yes its slightly tacky walking round with an underwear branded tee-shirt but i wore far worse as a teenager. Its not revealing or uncomfortable etc.

maralagagirl · 15/11/2025 02:20

you
try Lex Wagner

maralagagirl · 15/11/2025 02:17

Oh well. I did try to warn you who your are supporting. Ignored. Have her wear the top.

EdithBond · 15/11/2025 02:17

Obscene? Take it your sister is a little straight-laced - and missed out on punk?

Why’s she even commenting on what your daughter wears?

Ringthebell26 · 15/11/2025 01:59

Gosh if your sister thinks thats obscene she’d take a fit at some of the tops my 12 year old is trying to get Oked for the teenage disco.

Blondeshavemorefun · 15/11/2025 01:58

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IridiumSky · 15/11/2025 01:58

To read obscenity into an unremarkable T-shirt is creepy.

Doobedobe · 15/11/2025 01:55

No issue with the top.
But the brand, google 'victorias secret brand owner, toxic misogyny and links to Jeffrey Epstein.
I wouldnt wear anything by that brand.
Teach her to support brands that align with her values.

SassyCow · 15/11/2025 01:53

Me personally I don't see the issue. When I read the title I was expecting something completely different.

Geranium1984 · 15/11/2025 01:53

Ive seen local teenagers wearing a lot lot worse! Just a T shirt, you can only read the slogan very close up. They also sell PJs, so perphas people will think it's a PJ top :)

maralagagirl · 15/11/2025 01:51

Also, as an Australian, I apologise for him and Rupert Murdoch. There's not many of us but I'm getting bored with us! Is there anywhere else you could shop. He lives in Monaco to avoid tax apparently. There must be somewhere else in the UK.

BrickBiscuit · 15/11/2025 01:51

maggie2k · 15/11/2025 01:34

it's just lingerie? it's a normal part of life?

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Lingerie has different purposes at different stages of life.

maralagagirl · 15/11/2025 01:48

There are lots of other grey t-shirts with rhinestone patterns. I'd be buying one of them, but I've never been a a fan of paying a fortune to advertise a brand for free. If she wants it buy it though.Brett Blundy will be grateful.

TeaAndTattoos · 15/11/2025 01:44

The way your sister described it I was expecting something else entirely that’s just a cropped t-shirt that all the teenagers are wearing at the minute. If she wants it let her have it.

AliceMcK · 15/11/2025 01:39

It’s a T-shirt with a brand logo nothing more, the style is extremely popular with teens as are the Victoria secret perfumes and body sprays.

i couldn’t get worked up over it, in fact I’m surprised my 13 yo hasn’t asked me for it.