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To allow DD to buy this 'obscene' top?

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maggie2k · 14/11/2025 23:35

DD14 just lost 10kg, went down from 62 to 52kg (she's pretty petite, only 160 cm tall) and wants to buy herself this top since she's now at a healthy weight for her age and was putting off buying new tops earlier because she didn't want them to stop fitting her: https://www.victoriassecret.co.uk/style/su826145/w96067

My sister thinks it's 'obscene' and a 'lingerie ad' as well as 'something she saw on social media' which is complete nonsense because she uses one of those granny flip phones and isn't on social media except discord, spotify and IRC (no idea if those count)

I don't see the problem honestly, there's nothing obscene about lingerie if you ask me in the 1st place, and VS has always made clothes

This is a photo of the top in the colour she wants it:

To allow DD to buy this 'obscene' top?
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WimpoleHat · 15/11/2025 07:46

Am I the only person whose thought was that it looks like a pyjama top because of the brandi g on the front? That would be my objection to her wearing it to school, rather than anything else - otherwise it’s just a perfectly normal T shirt.

Silverbirchtable · 15/11/2025 07:46

The T-shirt isn’t obscene and also your relatives shouldn’t feel they can comment on your daughters choice of clothing.
That being said I’d probably have a chat about VS as a brand, and its hugely negative connotations when it comes to body image especially for young girls. But Jax - I Know Victoria’s Secret has embedded itself in my brain so I’d never give cash to that brand!

WonderingWanda · 15/11/2025 07:46

It's fine, I work in a school and the girls all wear cropped t shirts, vests etc given half an opportunity. I remember going out clubbing in much worse as a teen.

Bananaandmangosmoothie · 15/11/2025 07:42

maggie2k · 14/11/2025 23:38

All it says is 'victoria's secret' and because she's petite it'll also be longish looking on her

She goes to a private girls school with no uniform so has been buying a lot of new clothes lately

I don’t think it’s appropriate to wear to school, because it’s a lingerie brand and associated with lingerie models, but outside of school I don’t see a problem.

Why is her weight loss relevant?

IWishIWasABaller · 15/11/2025 07:42

The tshirt is in no way obscene! It's just a normal grey tshirt lots of teens like Victoria secret clothing and perfumes. I saw a teen recently wearing a skin tight completely see through top with the words "future milf" emblazoned across the front , now THAT is obscene

Passedproblems · 15/11/2025 07:39

maggie2k · 14/11/2025 23:35

DD14 just lost 10kg, went down from 62 to 52kg (she's pretty petite, only 160 cm tall) and wants to buy herself this top since she's now at a healthy weight for her age and was putting off buying new tops earlier because she didn't want them to stop fitting her: https://www.victoriassecret.co.uk/style/su826145/w96067

My sister thinks it's 'obscene' and a 'lingerie ad' as well as 'something she saw on social media' which is complete nonsense because she uses one of those granny flip phones and isn't on social media except discord, spotify and IRC (no idea if those count)

I don't see the problem honestly, there's nothing obscene about lingerie if you ask me in the 1st place, and VS has always made clothes

This is a photo of the top in the colour she wants it:

I don't think this top is obscene at all. On a side note, how did your dd manage to lose the 10kg? My 12 y/o dd is trying to get to a healthy weight and I would love some tips to help her!

Megifer · 15/11/2025 07:36

Why does your sister even know about DD wanting to buy the top?

Anyway, its fine.

Stressedoutmum79 · 15/11/2025 07:34

My 15 yr old has this in white, the teens love Victoria's secrets, mine loves the body spray, products and PJ's, I don't see it as promoting underwear, to me it's no different from her buying a t-shirt from urban outfitters where they are obsessed with too x

Callwaiting2025 · 15/11/2025 07:24

Sometimeswinning · 15/11/2025 07:15

My dd would go mad at the suggestion that anything she did was for anyone but herself.

VS just happens to be a good name for teenagers. My dd wants the very expensive pjs from there which no boy will be seeing.

The sprays are very nice. Kids got me a bottle for my birthday.

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I'd have gone mad at that suggestion too, at that age, but I still tried to dress to get male attenttion. I did say "probably" too, she might genuinely not care what the boys think.

Worralorra · 15/11/2025 07:24

Maybe tell your sister to go back to the 90’s? (The 1890’s) And give her head a bit of a wobble while she’s at it…

MrsVBS · 15/11/2025 07:20

Oops meant 14 not 24!

Evergreen21 · 15/11/2025 07:20

I'm an aunt and have never expressed an opinion on what any of my niece's or nephews wear. I don't understand why your sister thinks she has a right to?Anyway she's batshit because it is just a t shirt with rhinestones on it.

MrsVBS · 15/11/2025 07:20

It’s a grey tshirt? I was expecting something much different. It’s absolutely fine for a 24 year old and actually none of your sisters business.

Daphnedot · 15/11/2025 07:19

Crikey. I used to wear short playboy tops. Nobody said they were obscene

Sometimeswinning · 15/11/2025 07:15

Callwaiting2025 · 15/11/2025 00:23

Oh and yes at her age it probably is to appeal to boys, which is fine and normal. It's not obscene, and it does not cross any boundaries at all.

My dd would go mad at the suggestion that anything she did was for anyone but herself.

VS just happens to be a good name for teenagers. My dd wants the very expensive pjs from there which no boy will be seeing.

The sprays are very nice. Kids got me a bottle for my birthday.

alecks · 15/11/2025 07:10

It’s loungewear, VS sell underwear and pyjamas. It’s not intended for wearing outside, perhaps that’s the issue?

Ratafia · 15/11/2025 07:03

maralagagirl · 15/11/2025 06:02

It's OK. We don't care anymore. The reason we aren't a republic is because we are so ridiculously easygoing. I plan to change that. You can keep Charles and Andy and Eugenie and Bwhatever with the stupid hat. I'm going to check if any money goes from us to you guys. If so I will run for parliament.
And you can keep your pervy billionaires too. At least we throw ours out. Stupid European countries that take anyone with money .

You're going to have a major problem running for Parliament if you're Australian

Ratafia · 15/11/2025 06:59

purpleme12 · 15/11/2025 00:03

While I wouldn't describe it as obscene, it is always going to make someone think of underwear isn't it. well that's what I think with Victoria's Secret.
At 14 I'm not sure I'd want my daughter wearing that

What is the problem with thinking of underwear?

ClashCityRocker · 15/11/2025 06:57

It's not obscene at all. At worst, slightly questionable taste but that's what being a teen is all about!

I remember as a teen we all used to carry our PE kits in La Senza (now defunct) bags and draw the playboy bunny over everything...

PortSalutPlease · 15/11/2025 06:55

There’s nothing obscene about it but people will probably assume it’s a pyjama top 🤷‍♀️

Speakingofthis · 15/11/2025 06:53

Really shocked so many women on this thread support a 14 year old wearing a brand across her chest supporting Les Wexner.
Utterly depressing.

Theroadt · 15/11/2025 06:43

Really important to let her choose her clothes unless seriously unsuitable. I’m 58, and my domineering mother chose my clothes - when I bought my own after a Saturday job they vanished in the wash. I now just wear black and hate choosing clothes bbecause my judgment was never supported at a young age.

SapphireSeptember · 15/11/2025 06:42

LaserPumpkin · 14/11/2025 23:46

It’s better than the FCUK ones everyone used to wear back in the day

Or the trousers with Juicy Couture written across the bum. 🤦🏻‍♀️

FigTreeInEurope · 15/11/2025 06:39

It would be great is your Dd was called Victoria! Not offensive at all. I'm sure if you dig into the owners of Nike and Adidas you'll find moral qualms to debate.. unless she's going to exclusively wear fair trade organic hemp, woven by indigenous mountain goat herders.

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