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To allow DD to buy this 'obscene' top?

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maggie2k · 14/11/2025 23:35

DD14 just lost 10kg, went down from 62 to 52kg (she's pretty petite, only 160 cm tall) and wants to buy herself this top since she's now at a healthy weight for her age and was putting off buying new tops earlier because she didn't want them to stop fitting her: https://www.victoriassecret.co.uk/style/su826145/w96067

My sister thinks it's 'obscene' and a 'lingerie ad' as well as 'something she saw on social media' which is complete nonsense because she uses one of those granny flip phones and isn't on social media except discord, spotify and IRC (no idea if those count)

I don't see the problem honestly, there's nothing obscene about lingerie if you ask me in the 1st place, and VS has always made clothes

This is a photo of the top in the colour she wants it:

To allow DD to buy this 'obscene' top?
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70isaLimitNotaTarget · 22/11/2025 10:00

Nopenott0day · 20/11/2025 19:32

I was genuinely expecting something like the Cradle of Filth nun t shirt. 😂

And I had to go and look that up didn't I ........... ( Bleaches my poor beautiful eyes ) Shock

dh280125 · 21/11/2025 11:50

Absolutely fine shirt. Your sister is weird.

Nopenott0day · 20/11/2025 19:32

I was genuinely expecting something like the Cradle of Filth nun t shirt. 😂

Princessconsuelabananahammock9 · 20/11/2025 19:14

Shouldbedoing · 18/11/2025 18:50

I'm guessing the Tshirt is affordable because it's basically an advertisement for Victoria's secret. It also reminds me of a pyjama top.
Having been sneered at for my C & A clothes at boarding school in 1979, I soon went on to learn that entry level 'designer labels' do not get you into the cool crowd either.
There are many nicer items she could spend her money on, sorry.

Why are you assuming she wants in the “ cool club”?
It’s a cute tee and she wants one. You’re massively projecting.

bittertwisted · 19/11/2025 08:56

JemimaTiggywinkles · 14/11/2025 23:51

It isn’t obscene but it’s advertising underwear. I’d discourage but not ban it. Girls deserve better than trends which rely on them ‘selling’ sex.

Young girls like the perfume

TheQuirkyMaker · 18/11/2025 21:35

StarlightLady · 18/11/2025 19:05

The same applies to tops depicting the names Levis, Tommy Hillfiger and Armani to name a few.

There may be “nicer” items (but that is opinonated) that she could wear, but that’s individual choice. She wants this top and there is nothing obscene about it. M&S sell thongs, sheer knickers and push up “scaffolding” bras but nobody suggests that is a reason not to wear M&S clothes.

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But it is not the same, is it? They are all brands that sell quality clothes, but VS sells crotchless knickers amongst other things, and is known to sell 'adult' nightwear and lingerie and good luck to them, less Viagra will be needed. It's like that store that was forced to withdraw 'Little Miss Naughty' nightwear.

MySilentLions · 18/11/2025 21:04

Dita73 · 15/11/2025 00:30

Your sister sounds unhinged,not that it matters as it’s got sod all to do with her anyway

This. Your sister sounds utterly batshit. Obscene? Wtf, it’s a plain grey brand T-shirt. Has she teleported from Victorian times? She sounds like she has major issues!

Shopaholic88 · 18/11/2025 20:28

When I was that age it was the ‘too tired to fcuk’ T-shirts were all the rage I don’t see the issue with the VIctorias secret logo

DownThePubWithStevieNicks · 18/11/2025 19:17

The reason she wants it is because it says VS on it. Otherwise it’s a very boring top for a teen.

I don’t like VS, but it’s clearly not obscene. It’s the name of a (crap, ugly) underwear brand, not underwear itself!

In the 90s, teens wore tops with the playboy logo on. That was gross. This is just a teen wanting to pay way over the odds for a tacky T-shirt.

YouHaveAnArse · 18/11/2025 19:13

nomas · 15/11/2025 20:34

It’s not obscene at all and she should wear what she wants but I do wince a bit at the free advertising women and girls give to a company that was founded ‘to create a male-friendly environment enabling men to feel comfortable choosing excitingly exotic undergarments for their female partners or mistresses.’.

lol as if men know the first thing about bra sizes in the first place

YouHaveAnArse · 18/11/2025 19:09

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 15/11/2025 09:56

Well for a start off it looks uniformly smart.
There is no worry what you are going to wear the next day, that is taken out of the equation.
Think about like Steve Jobs and his 40 polos in the same colour.
It helps against bullying for those not wearing the latest trends.
Many schools also resell their uniform so all in all the cost is actually less than wearing different street clothes.
It also helps with a sense of belonging to their particular school.
Also for those of an autistic nature it removes that worry.
Not sure what you mean about fetish as that is rather concerning, whilst it has two meanings, I hope you don’t mean the most widely accepted meaning of the word.

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Uniform was fucking horrible for me as an autistic kid. Never fit properly and the fabrics were incredibly uncomfortable with all the synthetics, horrible feeling and not breathable, blazer that only got washed twice a year because it was dry-clean only and we couldn't afford to get it done - I hated wearing a tie and nylon socks that never fitted because whomever decided on the uniform didn't realise that sometimes girls have adult height and adult-size feet. And that's before we consider the PE uniforms we had to wear which seemed almost designed to make teenage girls feel uncomfortable in their bodies.

Re: the t-shirt - I think VS is a naff company (they are notoriously shit at bra-fitting and perpetuate the idea that DD is the biggest bra size, plus dodgy labour practices) but it's not my money and it's hardly a Playboy logo, innit.

StarlightLady · 18/11/2025 19:05

Shouldbedoing · 18/11/2025 18:50

I'm guessing the Tshirt is affordable because it's basically an advertisement for Victoria's secret. It also reminds me of a pyjama top.
Having been sneered at for my C & A clothes at boarding school in 1979, I soon went on to learn that entry level 'designer labels' do not get you into the cool crowd either.
There are many nicer items she could spend her money on, sorry.

The same applies to tops depicting the names Levis, Tommy Hillfiger and Armani to name a few.

There may be “nicer” items (but that is opinonated) that she could wear, but that’s individual choice. She wants this top and there is nothing obscene about it. M&S sell thongs, sheer knickers and push up “scaffolding” bras but nobody suggests that is a reason not to wear M&S clothes.

Shouldbedoing · 18/11/2025 18:50

I'm guessing the Tshirt is affordable because it's basically an advertisement for Victoria's secret. It also reminds me of a pyjama top.
Having been sneered at for my C & A clothes at boarding school in 1979, I soon went on to learn that entry level 'designer labels' do not get you into the cool crowd either.
There are many nicer items she could spend her money on, sorry.

lizzieq · 18/11/2025 16:58

I saw a pair of tracksuit bottoms yesterday with the word Juicy being sucked into a backside😂 You couldn't see the i. This t shirt not an issue.

Tiredandtrying · 18/11/2025 16:52

Gosh, shocking 😮

Blisterinthe · 18/11/2025 16:46

justticketyboo · 16/11/2025 12:02

  1. What’s it got to do with your sister what your daughter is wearing?
  2. It’s just a t-shirt, nothing obscene imo, yes it’s a lingerie brand, but hey, no where near as bad as the French Connection T-Shirts (FCUK) from the early 2000’s that had some awful slogans on, which I rocked round wearing thinking I was the mutts nuts - admittedly a little older but only a couple of years 😂

Let her buy the t-shirt !!

I agree with everything you’re saying but I also think posters are also forgetting the VS PINK branded joggers/leggings trend in the ‘00 - ‘10s that everyone used to wear. VS branded clothes has been a teenage girl stable for decades, and most of their bra’s are very plain and boring.

Purplecatshopaholic · 18/11/2025 16:26

An unremarkable tee shirt, is what I am seeing here. A few rhinestones stones - so what? Your sis is batshit.

TinyCottageGirl · 18/11/2025 15:59

Your sister needs to grow up, its a t shirt and most people wont even be able to read it clearly. She will mostly be covered up due to the weather anyway.
I can't believe this is even a question!

StarlightLady · 18/11/2025 15:45

TheaBrandt1 · 18/11/2025 15:01

Surely the whole point of teenage girls outfits is that their elders disapprove? Think there were similar themes in the Anne of Green Gables books with shocking ribbons and calicos.

I get that. But there’s a word for mother’s sister disapproving, it’s called intererence.

TheaBrandt1 · 18/11/2025 15:01

Surely the whole point of teenage girls outfits is that their elders disapprove? Think there were similar themes in the Anne of Green Gables books with shocking ribbons and calicos.

sweetpickle2 · 18/11/2025 11:25

Another one who had a 'FCUK like bunnies' tee when I was 15, much to my mother's chagrin.

I don't think there's anything wrong with that tee at all, but I also think starting to push boundaries is a rite of passage. Your sister needs to unclench.

NavyTurtle · 18/11/2025 10:20

maggie2k · 14/11/2025 23:41

Yep it just says 'victoria's secret' in little rhine stones on the chest area that's what my sister says the problem is

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What on earth has it got to do with your sister. Tell to butt out. Unless she is a constant bully in your life, then I would kick her in the shins!!!!

OldieButBaddie · 18/11/2025 10:17

Jeez if you think that's obscene wait til she gets into Pretty Little Thing and tries to go out looking like a hooker!

Wavescrashingonthebeach · 18/11/2025 09:29

ClementinesForChristmas · 14/11/2025 23:46

As someone old enough to remember the Playboy logo being fashionable, YANBU OP. it’s not exactly stylish, but let the teen think she’s being grown up and sexy (she’ll cringe in a few years).

Ditto!!!! I wore some pretty toe curling stuff at 14. Playboy everything.

CurlewKate · 18/11/2025 09:26

Just hate the sexualization of children-even in a minor way like this. There are loads of t shirts in the world.