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Best friend’s DH social media

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AlwaysHopefull89 · 14/11/2025 22:44

Don’t know why but this is bugging me a bit.

on Instagram you can see on the ‘reels’ section which ones your friends like. I think it’s relatively new.

best friend’s DH liked a reel of a very provocative woman (literally about 90% nude) etc…. I was shocked when I saw it as I personally hadn’t noticed he liked anything like this before. basically quite bad to be honest. I think it’s a porn actress.

he has a bit of a history of chatting to woman online (a few years ago, claims
to my friend he has stopped and she’s found no evidence since).

long story.

i have the screen shot. Do I tell her or not? DH thinks I should but I don’t want to upset her when she doesn’t really need that at the moment as I know she’d blow up over this big time (she’s said one more thing and that’s it). They have a DD.

I also don’t want it to backfire encase she tells her DH and he then blames me (we are a close group of friends, her, me, her DH and my DH) then that friendship is ruined.

AIBU NOT to tell her?

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Arlanymor · 14/11/2025 22:46

What does it prove? Honestly.